Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

toniq

sarahs999 wrote: »

Not great news from me. I went for an early scan today'; should be 6+1 but measured somewhere between 4.3 and 5.3. This is what's happened the last two miscarriages - we evern get a heartbeat, usually, but it all measures too small. Really thougth theclexane might sort it out but looks like it hasn't. Am feeling numb and despairing. Have to go back next week to have another scan to see if anything has grown, but in myheart I alreayd know the answer.

It's just so unfair.

It's so unfair, i really hope that there is still a glimmer of hope and u get a better result on ur next scan xx
thinking of u xxxx

liloandstitch

sarahs999 wrote: »

Not great news from me. I went for an early scan today'; should be 6+1 but measured somewhere between 4.3 and 5.3. This is what's happened the last two miscarriages - we evern get a heartbeat, usually, but it all measures too small. Really thougth theclexane might sort it out but looks like it hasn't. Am feeling numb and despairing. Have to go back next week to have another scan to see if anything has grown, but in myheart I alreayd know the answer.

It's just so unfair.

I am so sorry xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Will they do any further investigations? My thoughts are with you

Lilo

sarahs999

I don't know what they'll do. It doesn't help that my consultant is on sick leave for at least six weeks following some sort of operation. What she said before was that if I miscarry again she'll refer me to St Mary's recurrent miscarriage clinic in London, which is apparently world class and might have some ideas for me. But it just feels like my chances are slowly slipping away, as I'm not getting any younger.

lisawood78

So sorry Sarah, hold onto to a glimmer of hope however small though, but I know what you mean when you know, you know.

nottslass_2

sarahs999 wrote: »

I don't know what they'll do. It doesn't help that my consultant is on sick leave for at least six weeks following some sort of operation. What she said before was that if I miscarry again she'll refer me to St Mary's recurrent miscarriage clinic in London, which is apparently world class and might have some ideas for me. But it just feels like my chances are slowly slipping away, as I'm not getting any younger.

Thinking of you sarah x

shelly

So sorry sarah xxx

jha

Huge hugs to Sarah and everyone going through ivf <<<hugs>>>

I know you guys found the peeonastick website useful. can i also post the link http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ i charted for the first month in april and am hoping my bean will stick at 5w +2. I was bding like crazy up to day 14 and then giving up - turns out i was ov on day 18 - no wonder it took us a year. :rolleyes:

Also this site which has stories of ladies who were being told that babies were measuring small / no heartbeat who then went on to be ok http://www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com/
this site has other stuff on it too.

sarahs999

Thanks JHA - I used the misdiagnosed miscarriage site last year when I lost my other two. It gave me a bit of comfort. Thanks everyone else for your kind thoughts too.

jha

I am glad you know of it already sarah i was worried it might be upsetting for you. <<<<big hugs>>>>

nottslass_2

toniq wrote: »

gooodluck angela xxx

Sorry for being a downer, Nottslass, really hope u get some real sticky beans back in xxx

I just don't think alot of people realise how traumatic Ivf is, the other ivf's and iui's never made me feel this wretched, i supposing its down to all the injections being upped as they wanted a better response.

I have used fertility friends but because of the fact the clinics use it i don't feel comfortable having a gripe knowing my consultant could see itms, i have also used she knows forums a usa site which i found really helpful xxx

I go through alot of counselling both sides of an ivf as i realise i get very hyped up and panicky,
Just scared i've done all this again too myself for nothing and to add another £5k gone from our pockets xxxx and im very very scared of sedation, they put u totally to sleep at guy's, i really don't want them to go into my belly, i'd rather it the below way as before xxx
My oh is useless to discuss thigns with as he tells me it will all be ok etc etc etc, he wont hear no silly talk as he puts it, though he is spoiling me with flowers chocs and meals etc, wish he would stop snoring!
sorry for rambling and thanks for listening to a very very hormonal mad woman! xxxxxxxx

Hopefully buy the time you read this you'll have had good news re the hiding ovary.

If the worst comes to the worst and they have to go through the belly,you should be knocked out completely or so heavily sedated that you'll be unaware of the whole procedure.

I had sedation for my 1st IVF and was totally unaware of anything and wished that I had of had it this time round,the only reason that I didn't was because it was a different (older)anesthetist who recommended a GA.

Have a good long talk with the anesthetist,tell him/her how nervous you are aand remember that you are your clinics "customer" and they should do everything to make the whole experience as un traumatic as possible - a good tip is to write down any questions before hand.

Thinking of you

nottslass x