MSE Pregnancy Club III

Floxxie

I don't normally read this thread (as I'm not pregnant at the mo!) but feelinggood's post made me feel really sad. I don't know why people have to ruin child birth with horror stories. We humans are conditioned to forget what pain feels like and when we talk about our experiences we have to put into words the visual feelings which unfortunately means that most people exaggerate what actually happened.

feelinggood, don't worry about your low pain threshold. If you accept it is happening and let yourself go, then it really isn't that bad. I've had one hospital birth (never again..too managed) and two home births. The first time I was so tense and completely unprepared (had been planning to give birth at home) but thankfully I didn't have to listen to the horror stories. The second and third time, plenty of people had to tell me all about their 'horrendous' labours; I had to tell them what lovely births I had. The end result is so wonderful that the indiginity of childbirth is worth going through.

Floxxie

mirrorimage0

just listen to everyones advice and then do what is right for you, the first one i had pethadine but i didnt like that as it made me feel out of it for a while especially afterwards as i couldnt hold my baby for long cause i was worried i was going to fall asleep again, the second one i had gas and air and was more in control, yes it hurt a bit both times but its bearable and you quickly forget it, both times i had to have my waters broke and its painless and speeds up labour very quickly for me.
i had little labour pains for a few hours but from when it actually started hurting and being uncomfortable id say my longest labout was about 3 hrs and ive had migraines that lasted longer than that .

mirrorimage0

maryjane what are your hospitals, im in south east too but the hospital where i had my other two has closed down so im having to go to another one but they dont know which one yet

feelinggood_2

I'll mention all this to the consultant when I have my appointment. Hopefully they'll be able to advise. I remember now that I didn't mention my history of substance abuse to the Midwife.

I don't know why all the appointments have to come at once. I've got nothing for weeks, then in decemeber I've got four appointments in one week!

My_Fathers_Daughter

feely - write everything you want to tell them and ask them down. You will forget when you get there if you don't.

At one of my midwife appointments she asked me if I was okay and if I had anything I wanted to ask and I said I was fine and I couldn't think of anything...

Hubby looked at me like I had grown another head - I had been in tears several times in the days running up to the appointment because I had pains in the bottom of my bump!! I had just forgotten in the heat of the moment!

I now write everything down so I can ask when I am there - it's what they are there for after all!

cazscoob

as said before dnt listen to peoples horror stories half the time arms and legs have been added on and the stories grow lol! i have had 4 not to bad births i must admit the boys were easier as i went myself however was induced with the girls and found that harder? i only had gas and air with last 2 and pethadine with no1 which i didnt like, nothing at all with no 2 as it went all too fast and they couldnt get anything in time:D


we never told friends and family until my 19 weeks scan as we were still in shock about the baby! mums and dad knew from 12 weeks though!

ninky_2

maryjane01 wrote: »

I am really worried about this postcode lottery stuff. How do you find out about different maternity units? Are there any web sites? I am loath to go to my local hospital to give birth.

I too live in London and am worried about the terrible state of local services. Birth Choice UK (think the site is birthchoiceuk.com) have a great website where you can click on all the available maternity services and see how they have been rated, there are also detailed surveys that compare feedback with users of the service to the national average. not that cheering for me unfortunately as all my options rate dismally. all women in the uk are legally entitled to choose a home birth. two midwives should be listed to attend this (again i think this is for legal reasons incase of complications) although in practice this doesn't always happen. my friend had a home birth and managed really well with pain distraction (sniffing a lavender oil soaked tissue and mind control!) but she had an older female friend on hand who had given birth as well as partner. also they lived very close to the hospital should things have not been going so smoothly.

Icklebeans

I have just changed my dates from 18th May to 13th May as a result of my Tuesday scan, plus added the extra information of "twins"!


EDD
Mell242 - 7 October 2007
madcasey500 - 12th October 2008
Danielle_Kenzies-Mum - 20th October 2008
Doodledoodle24 - 22nd October 2008
pollyanna24 - 22nd October 2008 - changed my date
Daisykate124 - 28 October 2008 - C-section booked
sarahriley53-1st November 2008
Sammie0782 - 6th November 2008
rachelleblondel - 7th November 2008
levers81 - 9th November 2008
emmaBZ - 10th November 2008
icklepiggle - 12th November 2008
kaza - 13th November 2008
Emms - 14th November 2008
MrsY - 18th November 2008
Lwcus78 - 19th November 2008
redballoon - 21st November 2008
rosies_mum - 21st November 2008
Toto - 24th November 2008
Sammiebmouse - 28th November 2008
Poppyjoe - 3rd December 2008
LashyLashla - 4th December 2008
Avfcforever - 7th December 2008
Verianna – 8 December 2008 (girl)
Paddington- 9th December 2008 - a girl!
miss_corerupted - 10th December 2008
giger - 5th December 2008
Skylight - 14th December 2008 - Whey-hey its not Xmas Day!
SeptemberBaby - 17 December 2008 (boy!)
Bonniethemadcat - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
Rara32 - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
SallyCinnamon - 25th December 2008
Ladyra - 26th December!!
sooz - 5th Jan 2009 30th December 2008
Spendaholic13 - 31st December 2008
nesky99 - 4th January 2009
ladybirdintheuk - 5th January 2009
onlyroz - 7th Jan 2009
Flipper_72 - 8th January 2009
Madmoobag - 10th January 2009
Bekkki1 - 12th January 2009
boredjellybean - 13 January 2009
r.mac - 24th January 2009
Lday77 - 1st February 2009
spyrobabe - 5th February 2009 (C/section Offered 39W- Its a Boy!)
Jamz (well Mrs Jamz) - 7th February 2009
3onitsway - 9 February 2009
sampainter - 11th february 2009
lucifa73 - 11th February 2009
cazscoob - 16 February 2009
durham05 - 17 February 2009
MrsHayes - 20 February 2009
bargainbird - 21 February 2009
voodoozoe - 23rd February 2009
Mikeboy - 28th February 2009
My Fathers Daughter - 2nd March 2009
happytails - 3rd March 2009
carrieparkinson - 4th March 2009 (ish)
Millie's Mum - 7 March 2009
new mum again - 10 March 2009
Redmel1621 - 12th March 2009
jenkellyxx - 12th March 2009
angelfairy - 13 March 2009 - Fri 13th it is so NOT happening on that day
CanadaBound - 14 March 2009
Snuffilin - 15 March 2009
Astroming - 15 March 2009
olliesmummy06 - 16 march 2009
bathbabe - 17 March 2009
crazyaboutsaving - 18 March 2009
Cookiesncream/cookie304 - 19th March 2009 (could change though!!)
JanineGr - 19th March 2009 (by my reckoning)
taney - 19th March 2009
Choccie - 22 March 2009
angchris - 24th march 2009
candygirl's daughter - 26th March 2009
mrsctobe! - prob march 2009 but having a little confusion over due date!
jakesmummy - 31st March 2009
bloomin freezing - 2nd April 2009
slscarborough - 8th April 2009
newmum1 – 9th April 2009
sismith42- 15 April 2009
sparkle03 - 15th April 2009
astonsmummy - 20th April 2009
emma-uk – 21st April 2009
Cat4772 - 22nd April 2009
xredwebx - 22nd April 2009
Ems2 - 29 April 09
Kathy72- 5th May 2009
Claire Jones - 6th May 2009
shellsuit - 9th May 2009
Icklebeans - 13th May 2009. Twins!!!
MrsTine - 16th May 2009
ticklepenny – 22 May 2009
Blottedcopybook - 28th May 2009
Sami_Bee - 4th June 2009 (am I jumping the gun abit adding myself so early?)
Saverram_ May be 12th or 13th june 2009
armybike's wife - 21st June (Father's Day!!)
mirrorimage0-- 27th june (by my guess)
mollythewestie - 27th june
maryjane01 - 01 July
Nicole136 - 8th July

TTC LIST
witchyroo
sjm
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum
durham_girl
likabu
Pooky
emptypocketz
Miss_pink & Mr Pink
Boobylou
lilmrsmullen
jiblets1
Lillian06
Uisge10
CHARLIE54
Andrea78
AnnieM
Wondermum07
Melvis
Janec08
Helen79

BIRTH LIST
wotnext - Baby girl - 3rd September at 4.20pm - Rose - 8lb
jennywren1976-Baby Boy-12th September at 11:03 -Ross Steven,10lb 5.5oz
SUPERJULES- Baby girl 15th September at 9.28am- Emma Olivia- 8lb 10oz
Keelykat-Baby Boy-16th September at 4:27am-Elliot William John,6lb 8oz
LolaManCity - Baby Boy - 17th September 2008 at 1.45am - Jake Luca, 6lb 13oz
Fritha - Celia born 25th September 2008 at 20.30 weighing 7lb 12.5oz
Sarahsaver - Baby Girl - Florence - 2 October 2008 at 2:47am weighing 7lb 15oz
Foreversomeday – boy – Ryan – 5 October 2008 at 7:35am weighing 6lb 11oz
Heather38 – boy – 16 October 2008 at 8:24pm weighing 9lb 5oz
Pisces - boy - 15th October 2008 - just over 7lb
Sarahh112 - boy - Ethan James - 24th October @ 11:07am via the sunroof weighing a whopping 6lb 7oz! (which is huge for a baby of mine)
BargainAholic - 25th October 2008 - Charlie Harry born at 22.44 by emergency C section weighing in 9lb 3.5oz!


PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST
Usually allow 2 weeks after EDD before transferring to this list...
CJ2405 - 2 October 2008
Jmarko's wifey - 4 October 2008

miss_corerupted

god it really scares me that my name is getting closer to the top of the list aaarrrgggh!!!!!

I really am going to have to buy something soon

feelinggood_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

I've got an appointment at the early bleed clinic tomorrow morning... Some old blood and a blood clot came out last night as I was going to bed...

Sending you lots of ((hugs)) and best wishes Krystaltips, hope this morning went okay x