Earthgirl gets back on track!

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wow on that total earthgirl- its must feel great to be so close!!!
are you back at work now or just preparing to go back? hope its going okay ...
loving the talk of growing your own- inspiring me to get started (once I have a garden that is! )

earthgirl

I am back at work officially, but because of the holidays, I am actually not working until Tuesday if you see what I mean! I got paid for April though, which was kind of a surprise as I haven't actually done any work! So with that and my ms payments I have transfered another £1,100 to savings.

I am quite pleased that even through my maternity time off of 9 1/2 months, I've still managed to batter down the mortgage. I have just over one and a half thousand left to find, which I will easily manage when I get paid next month, so my next challenge is finding the monthly endowment payments for the next 10 years - Just over £10,000.

I have been busy tidying and decluttering, generally getting my house in order for the next phase; being a working mum. I have a morning and evening routine worked out and think we'll all be fine. Earthlet has had 3 visits to the nursery and really loves it. My OH is going to collect him so his days are quite short to start with.

We've had a lovely garden party with some neighbours today, and are going to have a nice relaxing weekend, I've got 3 1/2 hours of tuition to do as well.

Whilst I've been tidying and decluttering I've made a lot more storage space, and so now I think... do we really need to move?? Do we need an extra bedroom if we have another baby???

twinklie

Awww...hope going back to work is a smooth transition for you. Are you getting your year 11's back?

cha97michelle

We manage find with our two in our 3 bed semi. We gave our two boys the big bedroom, and we took the smaller 2nd room so the boys could share. I also put their toys in the box room.

You don't 'need' a big house, but it will depend on if you feel like you need one. Only you will know.

We are seeing it as a hard few years now while they are small, and have lots of little toys, and easier as they get bigger and move on to computer games and having friends round.

Our garden is the seller for us though, as we have a lovely big one, and if we move, we wouldn't get one as big in the same price bracket as here.

earthgirl

Thanks Michelle, seriously considering if we need a bigger house now. Do you find the boys are ok in the one room? Do they wake each other up? Would you do it for different sex children?We have 4 bedrooms but one is a tiny box, and the other is the attic conversion and the stairs lead out of the spare room. Our garden is ok, a bit on the small size but I manage to squeeze my veg around the sides!

I am going back to work tomorrow, and I think I am past the point of worrying about it, I just have to get on with it and keep as busy as possible.

When I feel sad, I just try to think that loads of people would love to be in my position, a wonderful family, nice house, job with plenty of holidays, and one months pay to go 'till mortgage freedom (kind of)... got to be grateful for what you have got, and stop worrying about what you haven't...

Deep breath .... wish me luck!

Lois_E

Good luck for going back to work, earthgirl. It'll be all right once you've got started - it's always the waiting beforehand that's the worst bit.

As for whether kids cope with sharing a room, it just depends on the kids. My wouldn't. We moved DD in with DS when he was 3 and she was 6 months. It was a disaster. He's a very light sleeper, and every time she cried, he woke up, got up, left the room and refused to go back in there until she was asleep again. When I said he should stay in bed and try to go back to sleep whether she was making a noise or not, he just looked at me as though I was insane, and I could see his point. We stuck it for a few months, and then we had to move anyway, and the house in the new place had enough bedrooms for them to have one each. Since then, they've only shared on holiday, which they more or less cope with because it's a novelty. Plenty of people have kids who don't mind sharing, however, and one person I used to work with had kids who preferred to share even though there were enough rooms for them not to have to. So you won't know how yours will feel about it without waiting to see how things pan out.

mummyofonechild

Good Luck for tomorrow. It doesnt seem 5 minutes ago you posted a photo of you with little earthlet. At least it is a 4 day week to break you in gently

twinklie

Good luck for tomorrow. Sadly though I bet by lunchtime it'll be like you never had any time off. Ha ha

cha97michelle

Hi hon.

Yes, for young kids i would let them share if they were different genders. We always did. I find with mine, they are often so shattered that one will fall asleep first, but the other one gets bored and soon follows. I put them in together when DS2 was about 6/7 months and DS1 was just past 2. I was finding DS2 very difficult to settle to sleep on his own, so i would be in one room with DS2, DH would be in another with DS1, and it just got silly. By putting the 2 in together, one of us sat with them and the other could get on with cooking dinner.

Now we just read them a story, say goodnight and leave them to it.

DS1 wakes quite early, and sometimes wakes DS2, but DS2 doesn't always wake up. I heard him this morning saying, come on it is your party today, wake up. DS2 ignores him and rolls over.

We'll leave them together permanently i imagine as i can't imagine either of them wanting the box room. Plus, they are only one school year apart so will probably always have the same friends/interests.

To be honest, i always shared as a kid, so i have no issues with it in my own head.

Courgette

Good luck tomorrow Earthy, will be thinking of you xxx

Re the bedroom issue, we've found that although we just about have enough bedrooms (gherkin sleeps in the box room) ds1 has grown a foot in the last year and is now nearly 6 ft - 3 full sized people take up a lot of room! Living room too small really and, er, waaaaay too much information but it's difficult to get any 'husband and wife' time with bedrooms that are close together with ds not going to bed til later and no guarantee he'll be asleep!

Best of luck tomorrow :cool: