Grandparents or nursery

lincsdan86

Hi all,

Just wanted people opinions on something.

My partner is due to give birth on the 21/12 of March and she has decided to go back to work 3 months after (at the minute, she might change her mind).

Anyway we have two options of what to do when my partner goes back to work, one being we take the baby to nursery or two being my mum is willing to look after him.

Which would you choose, obviously being with my mum it would be cheaper for us but being at nursery will tell the baby learn to interact with others at an early age.

Thanks

ps Please no slatting about the fact that my partner is going back to work.

mintymoneysaver

Is she going back full time? The only reason I ask is that this would give grandparent's no time to themselves at all? Could baby maybe go to nursery in the morning and G have them in the afternoon?

angelfairy

lincsdan86 wrote: »

Hi all,

Just wanted people opinions on something.

My partner is due to give birth on the 21/12 of March and she has decided to go back to work 3 months after (at the minute, she might change her mind).

Anyway we have two options of what to do when my partner goes back to work, one being we take the baby to nursery or two being my mum is willing to look after him.

Which would you choose, obviously being with my mum it would be cheaper for us but being at nursery will tell the baby learn to interact with others at an early age.

Thanks

ps Please no slatting about the fact that my partner is going back to work.

Hi ya,

Hubby and I are in the same situation as you. I am due 13/14 March so only a little bit in front of your wife

My family are overseas, but my hubby's mum has also offered to look after bubs (she is most at home with a baby to look after).

I too will probably return to work quite soonish.

Love to see what the results of the poll is.

tanith

I am a granny and to be honest its damn hard work looking after a tiny baby, I wouldn't want to do that full time.. maybe let granny do 2 days and nursery 3 days that way you get to save some money and granny gets time with the baby and the babe gets the best of both worlds...

lincsdan86

My partner is wanting to go back full time. The logistics of getting DS to GP and then to nursery on the same day would be a little difficult as we work 20 miles from GP and was either looking at house near work (if we choose nursery) or house near GP if we choose that option.

My mum is a SAHM, she has been for the last erm 13 years or so as I have a younger brother (10) and sister (6). Of course we'd pay her something for doin this for us, she doesnt work as she is my brothers career who is deaf. (Just a bit of background).

I no that we would get help with nursery funding as I have been on the entitled to website but I am a bit warry of giving my son to someone I dont no and/or trust.

There is a nursery in the village where my parents live but they dont take in children at that age, I would love eventually for DS to go there and to the school as it is a great little place, but I dunno if that would be possible, would have to check.

tawecdl

Nursery Mon Wed Fri
Gran's Tue Thu.

My 2 cents

maemaesmummy

Would agree with splitting the week 3 days nursery 2 days GP... the child gets the best of both worlds..

I am a SAHM but my DD goes to nursery 3 days and does 2 days at home so to get the interaction with other kids... she didnt start until age 2 though... now shes coming up to 4.. started dance class and mixed straight in with the other kids and the same with swiming.. no tears etc..

I will do the same with DS , he will stay at home until 2 then off to nursery for him to.

The structured learning is invaluable.

Debt_Free_Chick

Combination of both

lincsdan86

I'm thinking I should have included something on the poll for a combination of both but how do I change it?

bestpud

I would say both too.

I haven't actually been in this situation as such but I would prefer my parents to be 'grandparents' and have the children when they want to rather than because they are 'contracted to' iyswim?

Plus a bit of both is useful in times when one or the other can't look after him/her. If they wanted to go away for example, you may be able to get a few more hours at the nursery that week and the other way a round if the nursery is shut for some reason.

Be prepared for your OH to change her mind when the baby arrives! Many I know have! Somehow things feel very different once you have them in your arms.

specialK

I would say a combination of both too. Grandparents have a life too! I often see Grandparents struggling with babies and toddlers when I'm out shopping. I also hear parent's at school who take the **** out of their parents

A new baby makes most of us all gooey and it can seem like the ideal gesture. It might not be so appealing after a while?

You know your parents better than anyone.

Personally, I would do both. I don't think it is fair to put on them indefinately.

P.S Try telling this to my Dad! He will mind my niece at the