The ultimate incentive to get debt free, can I do it by New Years?

andromache_2

I know, we are really lucky I was so surprised to get it as I was just idly putting my details in for different dates at 12.20 and had pretty much given up hope already! We got one for our anniversary in April as well and I'm so chuffed to be going back as we had so much fun that time. We used all the free teabags in the room and I'm pretty sure they were worth more than £1 alone :rotfl: I really want to make the most of it and have a nice special evening, hence the champagne... Definitely try again next time, we will be! When I tried first time I used autofill and had my credit card number on the clipboard ready to paste into the space, think I got the confirmation e-mail at 12.01 so it really is fastest finger first. It's a great offer

Dinah93

I have seen those hotel rooms however it's so far to go for one night it's never seemed worth it. Now if they were a national company, I'd have been there like a shot! Always try to get something in the travelodge sales.

OH has just applied to do his LPC, went for York, Northumbria and BPP Leeds. But then I'm a Northern girl through and through and despise the south, so he was under no illusions that if he applied to London or something he would be going on his own! I need greenery and space and I want my £200k house to be a nice 4 bed with garden in a village rather than a 2 bed flat surrounded by traffic! He just found out today he needs to do a CPE conversion for two modules so he can practice in England, but he might have to wait until september to do them. Meaning he can't do the LPC until 2010. Hence all plans are set back by a year. To say I'm upset would be an understatement. I'm already 23, and now I have to wait another 28 months until I can even consider buying a house, putting down roots etc? It seems so stupid, and at this rate with my blood pressure I'm not actually going to be well enough to have kids by the time I have the guy I want them with. One hell of a trade off huh.

Cinny91

Dinah93 wrote: »

I need greenery and space and I want my £200k house to be a nice 4 bed with garden in a village.

But think, it might be 28 months before you guys can move in together, but if you keep up all this selling ect once you've cleared your debts think of the nice savings you'll have so you won't have to get what you can afford but what you really want for your country house! Plus in 28months (fingers crossed) the housing market will be much more stable to buy in.

Dinah93

I know but nearly 3 years till I can think about those things means I might not be able to have kids, my doctors have been telling me for two years now I need to be serious about my life as there is going to come a point in the not to distant future when it's just not an okay risk to get pregnant as either me or the baby won't make it, and what if that comes while I'm waiting? If I was waiting knowing he would get to do his dream thing and be a solicitor at the end then this wouldn't hurt so much, but I'm waiting on a slim change that he'll get his dream, as with his uni grade he's well aware his chances of a training contract are very slim. So it's a case of I wait for him to do all the courses, then just keep waiting and waiting hoping he gets a contract? I just feel that I worked incredably hard to get where I am, so I have the option of having a family early and therefore having one at all, and I might as well not have bothered.

Dinah93

I'm trying to be calm and rational about this, like I always do, but with him it never seems to go my way even when I am the model of common sense. I know there are 4 universities in commuting distance, and of 3 more that do a law degree by correspondance, if one of them lets him do the modules between now and september, and he passes, this isn't really an issue. But I can just see that it won't work out in our favour, yet again.

There comes a point where I have to start thinking that every sign is saying this isn't supposed to happen for me, and maybe it's God, or fate or something else, but I should just accept I can't have what I wanted.

Purpleroses

aw Dinah i'm sorry to hear that. but just because you one day may not be able to get pregnant doesn't mean you won't have a family. Theres surrogacy (bad spelling) or even adoption.

one thing i've learnt is you can't control what happens in the future and you don't know that it won't all work out! I know its easy for people to say don't fret, but just take it a step at a time. Will keep everything crossed for OH to get to do his modules.

x

Cinny91

Dinah93 wrote: »

I just feel that I worked incredably hard to get where I am, so I have the option of having a family early and therefore having one at all, and I might as well not have bothered.

Does your OH know how you feel about it all? He does have the right to follow his dream but so do you.
When is it that you see him next? You'll be able to have a face-to-face discussion about it. It might seem better once you've talked it through with him.

In the mean time, you've got me (although I'm not much use) Tete en l'Air (who will be more use than me) Purpleroses and lots of other listeners on this board if you want to vent.
I wish I could give you more comforting words but this situation seems mature beyond me!

I can't find the nice little icon of one big yellow face hugging another, and I refuse to use that dodgy rubby-uppy-downy one :rolleyes2

Get home, run yourself a bubble bath and relax!

Purpleroses

yeah that dodgy hug is just wrong! here i found a good un. group huuuug!

[URL="javascript:emoticon(':grouphug:')"][/URL] [URL="javascript:emoticon(':hugz:')"][/URL]

Cinny91

Purpleroses wrote: »

There we go!

terri72

Here's another hug too