MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Savvy_Sue

nadnad wrote: »

i don't go to any groups with him there are very few about where i live, although there is one on a wednesday morning maybe i could try, what do you do at mother and baby groups? i would feel a little odd going by myself cos i wouldnt know anyone.

From memory and having been at one without any toddlers last week, different activities for the little ones, eg crafty / messy things at a table, indoor slide and playmat elsewhere, push/pull toys available, and a lot more space than you have at home (unless you live in a mansion!) Then drinks served plus fruit for little ones, a bit of clearing up, and sitting on the floor for a story and some songs.

If you're worried about going on your own (not that you would be, you'd have LO with you), why not ask your HV if she can give you any contact details? Then maybe one of the leaders could come and meet you beforehand, or at least be looking out for you to introduce you to other mums.

It is a really good chance to meet other mums, see how they deal with life's little difficulties, and reassure yourself that you're not doing so bad after all!

Sami_Bee

What sue said Most mum n baby groups have toys for LO sometime you make things, usually end in a story/song and mums have a good old gossip about I'm a celeb/xfactor/big bro which ever is on at the time:T

Don't worry about being on your own, I'm a bit shy at first and had panic attacks about going to my first group, but I'm so glad I went I made friends quickly, lets face it when you put mums with babies together they always have something in common to talk about you may even see someone who you've seen about or in hosp at the same time as you. the group leaders usually spot a newbie straight away and will take you under your wing. It will really make you feel better about lots of things and once you get going you'll hear of other groups that aren't advertised.
As i said I was very scared at first but soon was going to 3 diff groups a week I think I'd have ended up in a terrible PND state if I hadn't forced myself to get out n about:cool: x

Lu_T

Nad - Imogen was late sitting up/crawling/walking (not very, but later than most) and we bought her this Vtech fist steps thing - http://www.ciao.co.uk/Vtech_First_Steps_Baby_Walker_Plus__55235

She loved to play with the stuff on the front which is all musical activities, push,pull, twist, squeeze etc. Then she liked to take a few steps with it. I confiscated it (bad mummy!) at about 18 months (it will seriously drive you crazy) and she recently discovered it hidden in the guest bedroom and got it out to play with again. This time it's in the garage!

We think it was v good value and they go for a good price on Ebay. It was marginal about buying second-hand or new, but we went for new then will sell on when TJ (Titch Junior, the bump's name - Imogen is Titch to OH) has done with it.

Mother & baby groups are good as well and you may get ideas from mums with LOs at a similar stage.

Have we heard from Carol? You okay hun?

nadnad

Thanks Lu T i've thought about one of those but am worried cos our floors are all shiny tiled ones that it'll go too fast and slide from him and he'll wreck himself, thats why i thought the walkies you set them in would be better.

DaisyFlower

Js_Other_Half wrote: »

No regrets at all. Well, obviously I'd have preferred to not to have to spend £400 and drive on the M62 to get him there...;) (Seriously I am not happy on motorways).

However, everyone does what they feel is best for their child - for me that meant single vaccines. DS wasn't well for weeks after some of the vaccines, which in some respects reassured me that at least he was only recovering from one vaccine at a time.

We had single vacs too, a drive to clinic as not close but worth the money and effort and it was the righht decision for us.

Sami_Bee

nadnad wrote: »

Thanks Lu T i've thought about one of those but am worried cos our floors are all shiny tiled ones that it'll go too fast and slide from him and he'll wreck himself, thats why i thought the walkies you set them in would be better.

I deffo agree that the 1st steps walker is not a good idea while he's this young unless you just want him to play with the removable front, and maybe you could get a big rug for him to play safely on? There is no way i would let Chris play with his on tiled floor before he could get up on his own, as I said earlier if he tries to pull himself up on it, it will tip over.
what about a rocker? we got chris this one http://www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-5-super-fabric-trekker/dp/B000M4ZHFW/sr=1-13/qid=1228243062/ref=sr_1_13/279-0712643-3114040?%5Fencoding=UTF8&m=A2LBKNDJ2KZUGQ&n=77159031&mcb=core
so he could use it as a ride on later (his isn't pink but i can't find the boys one at the mo)

DON79

Hi first time on this thread but just thought would have a look for it tonight to see if there are other mums out there with advice to share.

I have two little boys - 2 1/2 and 14 months. Lovely but a total handful.

trouble is the oldest is driving me mad that whatever his little brother is playing with, he has to go up and snatch it off him. He is doing it as I type this.

We have tried everything, have tried naughty corners, making him give it back, a good talking to, taking the toy away all together so that neither gets it. and nothing seems to work.

I know it is probably just the terrible twos on the part of the older one but I am tearing my hair out.

Has anyone got any tips for how to deal with this? Thanks.

Donna.

Savvy_Sue

How about every time he takes a toy from his little brother, he has to give his little brother one of his? Preferably something very precious ... And if he doesn't, you will.

TBH, I went through this with DS1, whenever I was doing something, he wanted to help. And since whatever implement I was using was obviously the 'right' one, he had to have that. I think his reasoning went like this: "we are washing up: mummy has the brush, and I have the sponge. But obviously the 'right' thing for washing up is the brush, so I must have that. We swap. Now I have the brush, and mummy has the sponge. OK, the sponge must be the 'right' thing for washing up, so I must have that." And so on ... If I'd thought it through a bit more at the time I might have invested in two of everything, although TBH I'm not sure THAT would have helped either: mine would obviously have been superior in some way ...

Can I make a suggestion about the vaccination debate? It's been held once or twice before, down in Discussion Time, in great detail. If you want to continue it, that might be a sensible place to do it, so that it's easier to follow for those who want to.

nadnad

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I deffo agree that the 1st steps walker is not a good idea while he's this young unless you just want him to play with the removable front, and maybe you could get a big rug for him to play safely on? There is no way i would let Chris play with his on tiled floor before he could get up on his own, as I said earlier if he tries to pull himself up on it, it will tip over.
what about a rocker? we got chris this one http://www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-5-super-fabric-trekker/dp/B000M4ZHFW/sr=1-13/qid=1228243062/ref=sr_1_13/279-0712643-3114040?%5Fencoding=UTF8&m=A2LBKNDJ2KZUGQ&n=77159031&mcb=core
so he could use it as a ride on later (his isn't pink but i can't find the boys one at the mo)

yep i've ordered something like this from mothercare for christmas. and also have ordered a big rug, should be here next week, trouble is our living room is 25ft long so he'll prob get off the rug no bother cos he sees other things he wants to get at :rolleyes:

DON79

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

How about every time he takes a toy from his little brother, he has to give his little brother one of his? Preferably something very precious ... And if he doesn't, you will.

TBH, I went through this with DS1, whenever I was doing something, he wanted to help. And since whatever implement I was using was obviously the 'right' one, he had to have that. I think his reasoning went like this: "we are washing up: mummy has the brush, and I have the sponge. But obviously the 'right' thing for washing up is the brush, so I must have that. We swap. Now I have the brush, and mummy has the sponge. OK, the sponge must be the 'right' thing for washing up, so I must have that." And so on ... If I'd thought it through a bit more at the time I might have invested in two of everything, although TBH I'm not sure THAT would have helped either: mine would obviously have been superior in some way ...

Hi thanks for the reply, we have tried that but problem is DS1 doesn't have anything that he is really really attached to.

It is DS2 who has his favourite toy for going to bed (a monkey) so am at a bit of a loss really.

Thanks very much though.