MSE Parent Club - Part 2

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Help.....just a vent as I feel I want to resign.

On my third lot of AD's to help with PND and waiting for them to work as not feeling so great at the moment.

I had to do an emergency move for Jack yesterday, our plan to put him in a big boy's bed after xmas was sabtaged as he spent yesterday nap time climbing from his cot onto his tallboy and playing with his cd/light/monitor electrics. Despite several returns from me being firm and "not to do it" and "go to sleep", half hour later I dragged his cot into the middle of the room, so he couldn't climb out onto anything. Next thingg I heard him running around his room, when I went up he was hiding in the wardrobe, thinking it was a big game. eventually he slept in his buggy. I have had to convert his cot into the bed option and put up a gate at his door. I showed him what he had done and he climbed from his chair onto his tallboy, sat there looking around grinning, climbed back down and clapped his hands. I had to look away so he didn't see me laugh. At bedtime he ram amock, wouldn't stay in bed and scaled the stair gate and came downstairs. I'm sure he things he is spiderman and has velcro hands. I wouldn't be surprised to see him hanging from the ceiling one day, he loves climbing so much at the park he's doing the stuff designed for 4yrs up and he's not yet 2. He's even dragging his mini chairs from the lounge when my back is turned to scale the bottom stair gate to get upstairs. He is stairs competent but I can't take them down now as Molly is crawling and today showed an interest in the bottom step.

He finally went to sleep at half nine last night when in desperation we mediseded him and cuddled him to sleep. I don't know what to do, we are being firm and constant, no eye contact, just taking him back to bed, supernanny style, but it just didn't work. I've been dreading this so much that i was in no hurry to do it. So having it decided for me without mentally preparing me has made me feel totally out of control with it.

Molly has also decided not to sleep through the night and wakes around 15 times a night. We are doing controlled crying this friday night with her and i'm dreading it. So both kiddies have bombarded us with sleep issues at the same time, a little inconsiderate.

I'm also finding Molly hard work at the moment, not just with her reflux, but she doesn't like cuddles that much (never has) which makes comforting her when upset or hurt quite difficult and she often throughout the day whinges and screams at me when I need to do something with her like clean her, change her nappy, change clothes, had enough to drink, had enough to eat, its driving me nuts.

Sorry whinge over i just want to resign at the moment.

SusanC_2

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Have you considered putting him back in a sleeping bag so he can't get out of the cot? That's actually the main reason we are keeping Alice in sleeping bags as we would rather keep her in the cot as long as possible (getting cold from coming out of the covers being a secondary reason).

Js_Other_Half

<Hugs> for you Bailey - I'm not surprised you're feeling overwhelmed.

[Deleted User]

Thanks guys i've just come downstairs after spending 2 hours sat next to his bed saying intermittently and then quite often "please lie down" in a monotone boring voice, as per the health visitor. So that's my evening down the drain.

Susan, I did consider the grobag but am concerned that he is so determined to move, he would do himself more damage by trying to climb or escape his bed wearing one. But I will consider it if his time to sleep doesn't reduce. Past 10pm bedtime is certainly not ideal.

I'm thinking of reducing his nap time in the day. Currently 2-2.5 hrs if left to be, how long do your kiddies have? Those around his age I mean, thanks. He's 2 next month.

purplepatch

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Thanks guys i've just come downstairs after spending 2 hours sat next to his bed saying intermittently and then quite often "please lie down" in a monotone boring voice, as per the health visitor. So that's my evening down the drain.

Susan, I did consider the grobag but am concerned that he is so determined to move, he would do himself more damage by trying to climb or escape his bed wearing one. But I will consider it if his time to sleep doesn't reduce. Past 10pm bedtime is certainly not ideal.

I'm thinking of reducing his nap time in the day. Currently 2-2.5 hrs if left to be, how long do your kiddies have? Those around his age I mean, thanks. He's 2 next month.

Hi Bailey, what a little monkey. Izzy just unzips her grobag and takes it off, expect Jack would do the same!

Fortunately for me, Izzy can't get out of the cot and so there she remains. She still has a nap during the day, a couple of hours I believe, she is with a childminder now as I'm back at work part time. She's 2 a week tomorrow.

However, I've tried a couple of times to move her to a toddler bed but I gave up. We have Olivia's old bed in Izzy's room. My friend is a pediatrics nurse and she told me to put her in the bed, shut the gate and just leave her to it, that even if she got out of bed to let her, as eventually she would become tired and go to sleep. All I found that happened was that she emptied all her drawers, got all her books out etc and eventually after 2 hours shouted down to me to put her in the cot. My friend then said that I must take the cot down, which I haven't been brave enough to do as yet. She said that if I take it down and persevere, she will be ok after a few days.

As I say, I haven't yet taken the plunge, but is that an option for you? To just basically leave him to it until he's so worn out that he falls asleep. Even if not on the bed, you could pop him into bed once he's conked out wherever.

I guess the worry is that he will climb - can you position the bed/furniture so that there is nothing dangerous he can do.

We've got a particularly high stairgate on Izzy's door, I got it on ebay, but I'm well impressed at how high it is. I think Jack would struggle to scale it. I'll try to work out which one it is and post on here.

purplepatch

Just been up to check, it's this dreambaby one.

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Thanks PP, you remineded me why we moved Jack into a duvet in the first place, he was getting himself out of it, i'd forgotten as it was May gone. OH thinks we may be able to move the stairgate up a bit more its a Lindam one that is removeable, just need to be careful he can't slide underneath instead.

I'd be interested to see the type you have though. Thanks.

Mollly has woken every 25 mins this evening, DH has just gone up to medicate her, she sounds full of cold and had bright red cheeks this evening. Time for us? What's that?

HV said to do what I did this evening, but other parents have done what you suggested PP, so I dont know which way is best. i think i'm too tired to decide now anyway. Anyway spiderman should stay put now until morning.

No one told me this when I thought it was a good idea to have a baby.

Sami_Bee

Bailey, I'd try to reduce nap time even if its just for a week to get him back into the routine of going to bed at the usual time. Christopher is 21 mths and he will happily go until about 4pm without a nap before getting a bit cranky when he's been to bed late the night before but he crashes out at 7pm and then usually the next day he's back in his usual routine of sleeping 7pm - 7am and 1 hr nap about 11am
I don't let him sleep any longer than 1hr 15min as it usually means he won't go to bed on time if i do. Good Luck!

Purple, I agree with your friend, you have to get that cot out of the room. She'll never get in the bed when she sees her cot there (IMHO)

purplepatch

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Purple, I agree with your friend, you have to get that cot out of the room. She'll never get in the bed when she sees her cot there (IMHO)

*sheepishly* yeah I know, I've just been staying with things as they are at the moment as she is, and has always been, a dreadful sleeper. Wakes at 5.45-6 am every day and often cries out in the night, so we get rubbish sleep. I just think that taking her out of the cot could make life even worse! Until she climbs out of the cot and takes the decision out of my hands, I may well just leave her there for a slightly easier life.

Saying that, my friend reckons that if she could get out of bed in the morning when she wakes up and play/read etc, perhaps she wouldn't yell for us to come like she does now. She could have a point, but I am scared to try it in case she gets even worse than she is now.....

novazombie

Our baby is just over 3 months old now.

I havent really had a proper normal period yet, although I was bleeding a lot for weeks after giving birth.

This morning I have like a morning sickness, so obviously Im a little worried. But it might be just upset tummy.

Is itnormal to not have a period again for a little while after giving birth?