MSE Parent Club - Part 2

nadnad

keelykat wrote: »

i did fail, i admit after all the pain/bleeding etc i began to hate it, i didnt want him anywhere near my boobs i feel guilty because i shouldnt have felt that way,

i think if i'd had pain and bleeding i would have given up, I had it easy, but I always told myself if i found it too much/too had/too painful i wouldn't force myself to carry on - don't feel bad, having a new baby is tough enough without added stress and guilt! Also there are still some times when I get frustrated with BF and I really want to stop and I think "aaaagghh get off my boob"! i think (well now that I'm writing it I hope!) that a lot of mothers feels this way at one time or another, or lordy someone agree with me or I'll feel awful !

I'm having a bad start to the day too - Oz slept a little longer this morning so his routine is all off, normally he goes back for a nap at around 8.45 for a couple of hours, today I put him down at 9.30am and he's still crying, his teeth are hurting him - he's getting 4 doubles all at once. Does anyone else feel that they give their children A LOT of painkillers?! I feel like theres rarely a week goes by were he hasnt had something.

SeptemberBaby_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

SB - Chris was in bed at 7pm last night and slept til 8am :rotfl:
Shall I tell you why?... lots of fresh air and sunshine and a nice splashy bath!
I always thought people who went on about fresh air were just being interfearing old wotsits but it really does make Chris sleep better and is much easier while we're at mums coz she has a nice big garden to run around! (my poor doggies aren't too amused that Chris is still here tho!)

But she did go on a long pram ride with her Daddy and also to the park! :rolleyes:. It was such a lovely day yesterday...she obviously couldn't wait for today to start :rotfl:. She is napping now and then going to Nanna's for the afternoon :cool:.

xx

Fritha_2

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Morning all. Any tips on cradle cap? I know it is just cosmetic and not bothering her, so should I just leave it till it goes away or is there anything I should be doing?

Trichomania from Lush will help along with the olive oil Sami suggested :-)

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Keely - YOU DIDN'T FAIL!!

^wss

nadnad wrote: »

Also there are still some times when I get frustrated with BF and I really want to stop and I think "aaaagghh get off my boob"! i think (well now that I'm writing it I hope!) that a lot of mothers feels this way at one time or another, or lordy someone agree with me or I'll feel awful !

I shall agree with you! Especially when I'd love to go out (or just stay in and sleep!) for a few hours without her but the only things she'll take nourishment from are my lady bumps!

Sami_Bee

Nadnad - i used to have phases of feeling like I was drugging Chris all the time too! It does get better, promise! Those teeth are such boogers tho the poor little mites need the relief sometimes.

SB - she obviously knew it was going to be nice today and planned on enjoying it ALL! I've just had to drag Chris back into the house - he was trying to go out still in his PJs! Best get dressed and washing on the line otherwise my mum will be talking to me like I'm 13 again tonight! :rolleyes: (anyone know why both my parents insist on telling me I should go to bed every 15mins after 10pm I didn't go to bed at 10pm when I had to get up at 6am for college, why would I now I'm getting up 2hours later!?!?!? humph!

cazscoob

ladybird well after all the talk last night i think i must have known something as sis went into labour at 2am! things still not regular but dont suppose i need to worry too much now lol!

cradle cap- i used olive oil and try not to let people rub babies head(dont know why they do it?) as this seems to make it worse?

keely u didnt fail at all it was hosp and everyone not helping you that failed you!i had thrush and was so sore i didnt want to feed erin, was the same tired,tears and feeling awful!!!!!!

oh my fridge/freezer just blew up???

tsstss7

Krystaltips wrote: »

The world health organisation actually recommends feeding into the 2nd year so you're still well within guidelines

On a personal note, I fed my daughter until she was approximately 33 months old... I found as she got bigger she fed less and less, going a couple of days between feeds (I also know people who have reached this point and refused any more feeds once it's been a couple of days since the last one and it's worked fine for them) until she just couldn't get milk out of me... It was a couple of months before her 3rd birthday and she accepted that the milk had all gone with no problem at all... I never put any time frame on myself for feeding though, I always thought I would feed as long as she wanted to... And I will do the same for the next one... And repeat the following mantra... 'If it's not a problem for me... Then it is not a problem!'


You didn't fail at breastfeeding, the people who should of been supporting you failed you...

Still BF here too (at 16mths) although OH does think it'll start to odd soon. I'm planning to keep it up until LO is 2 or decides hes had enough and then I'll "consider my options" so to speak. I'm hoping that he'll do the deciding for me really as I can never say no to the little tyke - BFing is just soo easy and since he can be a bit of a faddy eater it makes me less worried when he does a "henry" on me and eats next to nowt all day :rolleyes:.

I do think though that the fact that LO was mainly FF until 4 mths old has made me more inclined to feed for longer - it was such a huge struggle to get it right with numerous tips to the local breastfeeding group and councellor(as I have flat noipples and baby was in scbu when born so ended up tube fed initially) that I want to make all that hassle worth it for us....I have to say that if I'd had to go back to work at 6 mths like my friend who had a baby around the same time as me I would never have been so persistant though.

To those ladies here who are hoping to Bf this time around I'd recommend going to your local BF group BEFORE you give birth. They seem to have lots of books etc that you can't find easily anywhere else and seeing it in action helps to put it in perspective...with all the going on about "latching" etc it seemed to me to be some kind of technical marvel if we ever got it right!

Krystaltips

Keeley, the midwives and the hospital failed you by letting you get to the point where it hurt too much to carry on. If they'd of been more supportive then you wouldn't of gotten sore in the first place!

nadnad, I completely agree with the 'argh, get off my boob' statement... There were times when it got right on my wick... And I'll admit when I first got pregnant I started dreading feeding this one.. But feeding a newborn is different to feeding a toddler / older child so I'm hoping it will be fine when baby is born... And I plan to do exactly the same with this one and feed it for as long as it takes...

cazscoob

i BF lewis until he was 2 the rest was when they were around a year as i swore i would never put myself through the screaming again lol! it was very hard to stop feeding lewis and in the end i left him with my sister and went away for the weekend! (suppose i am going to have a lot to make up for now eh!) but lewis was a very dificult baby cried 24/7 would only sleep with me and wouldnt go to anyone ever.

i will feed erin for as long as i feel i can, am not going to set a date but just leave it to whenever i feel ready or she stops herself!

Lu_T

Wow! Busy few days!

Keeley - I gave up feeding Imogen at 16 weeks when she had screamed for 2 weeks at feed time - she was on formula bottles at MIL's while I worked. I cried for weeks and felt like I'd failed her, but at the end of the day, you have done what is best for you and baby given your circumstances. You should have had more support, but there's nothing you can do about it now. Don't carry the guilt around with you, it won't make it any better. Hope you have a better day with your sis.

Can't remember whose hubby went to a pub with naked ladies but personally I'd find it hilarious! When we were first going out OH went on a leaving do to a strip club and phoned me every 30mins from the toilets to say what a crap time he was having! I was on a girly night out and he turned up at the place we were eating and came home with me!

Nad - I too had a smear at uni (guess we're a similar age) but the rules have since been changed. It used to be 18 or within a year of starting to have sex (I think). I agree with Sami, not sure where the 'harm' can be - other than in the NHS's bottom line.

On drinking, I was allowed an occasional small glass of wine or beer at my dad's from about 14. I wasn't the one drinking cider in the park either. On the other hand, my mum was still putting lemonade in my (red!!) wine at Christmas when i was 21, living with my OH and with a mortgage! I tackled that one head on and just brought & poured my own wine from then on! She's not much of a drinker though and prefers her wine with lemonade, so perhaps she just thought I did too :rotfl: :rotfl:

**Guilty mum alert** We've told Imogen about the new baby and she loves the idea. OH was working last night so I had to put her to bed on my own. She was very good and after her story I said she needed to stay in bed and go to sleep because mummy and the baby needed to rest. I thought I heard her get up, but didn't go up as she wasn't yelling. When we went to bed at 10pm we found her asleep on her duvet on the floor. This morning she said she'd got out of bed but didn't want to disturb me, so had fallen asleep on her 'blanket' I felt awful cos she can't quite get back into bed herself. Bad mummy!

Krystaltips

Aww Lu, that's really sweet! Could you not pop her a little step next to the bed just in case she gets stuck again?