MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Dormouse

Becles wrote: »

His short term memory is pants! He never remembers to take stuff to school or fetch stuff home and loses stuff, and I'm on his back constantly reminding him to do stuff at home.

I'm sure it's linked in to other problems. He's bright enough and is good at maths and science, but struggles badly with written English. He's got all the ideas in his head, but struggles to write it down. Reading has been a challenge too, and he reads very slowly and struggles with new words. He's forever in trouble at school for not doing written work, and he's got a bit of an attitude problem as they are always telling him off so he gets huffy and lippy back. I'm not sticking up for him as I know he shouldn't behave like that, but I think it's through frustration that he can't do the work, rather than just being badly behaved.

Currently having a battle with school as I want him checked out by Educational Psycology in case he's got dyslexia or something like that, but school are more happy to blame him for being lazy and having an attitude problem. They also blamed a lack of support at home which angered me as I'll do anything I can to help my bairns.

What a cheek, blaming you for not supporting him! :mad:

Definitely push for tests and see if they can investigate this.

A friend of mine has a little boy about the same age who sounds exactly the same - very bright but struggling with reading etc. They had tests done and apparently it's a problem with his eyesight - something to do with colours and straight lines and stuff - sorry I'm useless as I don't even remember the name for the condition. One of the things they recommended that would help is having him read off coloured paper as opposed to white (again, can't remember which colour! :rolleyes: )

I'm not saying James has the same thing, but he might, or it might be something else that can be rectified. Good luck (sounds like you need it - the school don't sound very helpful :mad: )

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hi all, thanks for the support. Feeling bit better today as I saw the doc last night, decied to go back on my tabs, came off them in the new year as I felt ok, but PND returned quite quickly so obv not ready. Feel calmer already, so hope it continues. I've also been giving Molly some Teethers, didn't think it was worth bothering with as they didn't affect Jack, but i've been amazed by the results already. Not bad for a freebie either, friend gave me 2 packs pre birth.

I'm trying to be more sympathetic too and decided if does insist on getting up at 6am, previously 7.30am then I should be in bed by 10 latest. Wish she would swing back its been a few weeks now, but I remember Jack doing this and his was 5.30am. I think when she drops her second nap it will get better, but it did take a while though with the boy.

Molly loves chatting to the cat and has just given him her sock .....

PS thanks becles for the thoughts, I have just started swimming again on a wed eve, that's my thing, i like the gym too but its expensive with creche too. I'd like to swim 2-3 times a week, but due to practicalities and cost i'll have to make do with 1. Friend and I are thinking of doing a home exercise vid together once a week, once hubbies both become free in a few weeks. So that will be exercise twice a week. I used to be very fit pre kids, would swim twice and gym twice a week, however that's over 2 years ago now. Its affording it that is the hardest.

nadnad

hi bailey, glad you're feeling a bit better.

is it the teetha powders you gave molly? they work wonders for Oz.

i'd love to get swimming every week, but can't go during the day as no one to mind Oz (havent plucked up courage to ask MIL yet and after her performance at the wkend I may not - but thats a whole other story!) and OH works late twice a week and the nights he is home i feel we should spend some time together.

Oz is a disaster today, really really clingy and wont let me do anything, i think he's actually just bored of me cos if he sees anyone else he's fine! I've just left him alone in the living room in his jumperoo thingy normally that does the trick but he's still moaning. Driving me mad! OH home in 45 mins or less, thank goodness.

Sami_Bee

Beccles - It really drives me mad when schools don't spot problems, what you have described are classic signs of Dyslexia the school should be getting him properly diagnosed ASAP - they get extra funding if its past a certain level and plus his SAT mark will be affected and therefore the precious wotsit tables!

My mum usually has the opposite problem - trying to convince parents to let their child be tested :rolleyes:

If you're not satisfied with their response then contact the LEA and tell them you want him tested and the school are refusing
And maybe putting his gloves on string would actually work for him if he's always loosing them, did you check lost property at school? if not you may discover 10 pairs of his in there :rotfl:

Doormouse the colours vary depending on each condition/child although it is usually green tinted glasses that are recommended

Bailey - Glad things are on the up! I have nothing useful to say tho
I would love to get back in the gym but I doubt I will any time in the next 3yrs
I'll just have to wait for Chris to be at school and bump's free nursery place, do you think all my flabby bits will remember where they are supposed to be after so long?:p

Emms

janey_uk wrote: »

Just a thought Emma - does she full-on scream to get up in the night or just babble? My girl wakes up about every hour, sometimes she just sighs and other times she babbles away. I used to get up and attend to her then figured it was just her sleep cycle. She sometimes chats for a few minutes but has learned that she doesn't get attention so just goes back off.

Shes does wake up every hour or so too and she always wakes me. I let her babble for a while before I finally lift her when shes just about at the crying stage. Last night she was crying before I lifted her as it came on so quickly. She slept from 10 - 5 last night so a bit better than what she has been doing, but not quite what MIL gets!

nadnad wrote: »

it could be warmer there, but it could also be that you not there - i take it shes still in your room? she probably just senses her mummy and wants a cuddle, our little one def started to sleep better as soon as he was in his own room, though i know its a little early to put her by herself just yet.

i think ALL husbands are useless at night time waking - mine certainly is, though i'm breast feeding so he wasnt much help but one time we decided to feed him less at night and just try and settle baby without a feed and hubby was supposed to be the one getting up - he got up ONCE, and then gave up. he's great in every other department - housework, etc just not night time waking.

Yeah shes still in my room. Deffo too early to put her in by her own. I would only be awake all night worrying lol!

Oh I wish my hubby was great in every other department. Hes the kind of person that you need to tell to hoover as he wouldnt think about it himself!

Lu_T wrote: »

Ems - I used to have a night off at the weekend and would go and sleep in a different room, leaving OH and baby in our room together. That way the crying was a bit quieter when she woke and I got the luxury of a full bed to myself! He would bring her in to me in the morning for her first feed (I was expressing the night feed at the time). Would this work for you?

I agree with the others about babe waking. Could be something a little different or could be just her sleep pattern. Imogen used to wake and chatter to herself, although she was a bit older. That's why we got rid of the monitor - when she's crying I can hear her, when she's just talking to herself I don't need to know!

I think I might try a night at the weekend sleeping in the spare room to see if that makes any difference.

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Is it possible that grandma and grandad don't hear babe as fast as mum does, so don't go to see what's up, and babe settles?

MIL is a really light sleeper. She hears Isla stirring throughout the night but she never wakes and cries there until she wakes for a feed at 8.

Emma

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Sami i'll let you know about flabby bits when mine have gone!

Nadnad, yes its teethas, as i say i was sceptical as they did nothing for the boy but Molly its like a different child and i could also tell when it wore off. She had two today and I have them lined up for tomorrow, sure helps with the grumpy teething and highchair strops. Plus she seems to need less paracetamol on them. I'm against the majority here and give it as I think required rather than waiting for discomfort overload, but as said before each parent does what suits them. I very rarely have painkillers myself but I always feel sorry for babies who can't say when they need it, so err on the side of I think she does. Jack now asks me, he points to his teeth and says hurt mummy and is quite tearful. Bless him, can tell when he's putting it on though and wants it because Molly's had some as he says ouch with a smile on his face and laughing.

Nadnad and I have linked on Facebook, so had a chance to ooogle at Oz's lovely pics. If anyone else would like to link up please say, i'd love to put a few more names to faces and babies, seeing who we all look like and whether you match my mind's eye!!!

Must go, tonnes to do.

Sami_Bee

Thanks, Bailey I hope the flabby bits do go back *fingers crossed*

Chris asks for medicine now but often just for the taste i think coz he says it with a smile too :rolleyes: - eek my toddler is drug seeking :shocked: I think its for the sugar hit because he loves sweets but they are even more tightly rationed than chocolate!

Emms - hope you get more sleep soon xx

Sami_Bee

PS Bailey have you joined the fb group?

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I declare to admit that I haven't, remember hearing about it and never got any further. Time, inclination, effort, time, inclination, effort..................

But if you'd like to help me out, i'm sure I could summon up some.

Ta <big smile>

Becles

Thanks for the knitting patterns, but I'm rubbish at knitting

I have to go to a big Tesco on Friday for work, so I'll have a look there for more gloves and threaten the string!

I will try the LEA and see if I can get him tested. Even if they say there is nothing wrong and he is just lazy, it would put my mind at rest. I'll also try the coloured paper at the weekend.

Been out for tapas this evening. We were supposed to go for James birthday last week, but Joshua and me had that sicky bug on his birthday so we didn't get. Charlotte loved it, and enjoyed picking bits out of all the different dishes. The boys liked it as they ordered all seafood stuff like mussels, langoustines and squid. It makes my stomach heave, so they never get seafood at home James really enjoyed it and I've had loads of thank you hugs and kisses - aww!