MSE Parent Club - Part 2

nadnad

Emms wrote: »

She sleeps in her moses basket in their bedroom. Im not there when she stayd over. I go to uni on Thursdays so they keep her overnight and I sometimes get her the next day and every time she sleeps right through. They feed her exactly the same periods that we do and wrap her up tight in a blanket the same as us. Maybe it is warmer there. They have the heat on quite a lot. We had thought about giving her a bigger bottle tonight to see if that helps but dont really want to do that if shes not ready for it, as she doesnt need it at MILs so we know she can sleep without it.

Hubby is meant to do the weekend night feeds so I can get some rest but hes so rubbish at it. I need to wake him to get her and he takes so long to get ready that Islas crying at the top of her lungs before hes ready so by that stage im wide awake anyway! He so wouldnt be any good in an emergency if you had to wake him for it lol

Emma

it could be warmer there, but it could also be that you not there - i take it shes still in your room? she probably just senses her mummy and wants a cuddle, our little one def started to sleep better as soon as he was in his own room, though i know its a little early to put her by herself just yet.

i think ALL husbands are useless at night time waking - mine certainly is, though i'm breast feeding so he wasnt much help but one time we decided to feed him less at night and just try and settle baby without a feed and hubby was supposed to be the one getting up - he got up ONCE, and then gave up. he's great in every other department - housework, etc just not night time waking.

Lu_T

Emms wrote: »

She sleeps in her moses basket in their bedroom. Im not there when she stayd over. I go to uni on Thursdays so they keep her overnight and I sometimes get her the next day and every time she sleeps right through. They feed her exactly the same periods that we do and wrap her up tight in a blanket the same as us. Maybe it is warmer there. They have the heat on quite a lot. We had thought about giving her a bigger bottle tonight to see if that helps but dont really want to do that if shes not ready for it, as she doesnt need it at MILs so we know she can sleep without it.

Hubby is meant to do the weekend night feeds so I can get some rest but hes so rubbish at it. I need to wake him to get her and he takes so long to get ready that Islas crying at the top of her lungs before hes ready so by that stage im wide awake anyway! He so wouldnt be any good in an emergency if you had to wake him for it lol

Emma

Ems - I used to have a night off at the weekend and would go and sleep in a different room, leaving OH and baby in our room together. That way the crying was a bit quieter when she woke and I got the luxury of a full bed to myself! He would bring her in to me in the morning for her first feed (I was expressing the night feed at the time). Would this work for you?

I agree with the others about babe waking. Could be something a little different or could be just her sleep pattern. Imogen used to wake and chatter to herself, although she was a bit older. That's why we got rid of the monitor - when she's crying I can hear her, when she's just talking to herself I don't need to know!

Daisykate -is she nocturnal?! Maybe she's sleeping too much in the day and not enough at night. The experts reckon you can re-set their body clocks by making sure they get some sunlight between 12 and 2pm (even in winter). I religious threw Imogen in the pram and walked a couple of times round the block as she was a very nocturnal baby - regularly had me awake at 4am when i was pg.

Have you started a bedtime routine? I'm a big fan (of routine generally TBH!). Sounds like you need something that signals big sleep as opposed to nap. Bath, feed, bed worked well for us. And if she falls asleep on her own during the day she's obviously capable. Only you can decide whether controlled crying is right for your LO. We did it with Imogen - but she soon figured it out! Can't remember how old she was though. HTH?

Lu_T

Forgot to say - big hugs Bay. Keep talking, we don't get tired of listening xx

Savvy_Sue

Is it possible that grandma and grandad don't hear babe as fast as mum does, so don't go to see what's up, and babe settles?

Sami_Bee

woah busy here today!
Nadnad ur OH is a bit dishy - don't worry my hubby is dishy too so I won't try to steal him :A

daisykate: only help I can offer is have you tried MAM teats on ur bottles they seam to be the preferred ones for BF'ing babies

Maz - Does Henry watch/like Mr Tumble on "Something Special"? Chris loves him and he says "waaaiiiit" often so I taught Chris to do that he now stops if we say waaiiit Mr Tumble stylee :T
once he was old enough I taught him to hold on to my leg I used to squeeze my legs together to sort of trap is hand while I lock the door but now I just say "hold mummy's leg" and he does! I like that because I can actually feel he's holding me so I know he's there

Becles

Lovely picture nadnad.

I've never bothered with reins or wrist straps. All of mine have just wandered along holding my hand most of the time unless we were in a park or somewhere safe to run a few steps ahead. Joshua is 12 now and he gets really cross when I say "hold Mammy's hand" at road crossings :rotfl:

I've had a strict bedtime routine with all three of mine since birth. They have a bath, jarmies on, and a drink of milk, then they go into bed in their own room awake and I leave them to fall asleep naturally. They've all been good sleepers and slept through from about 10 weeks old. I can't hear snuffly noises and ignore mild crying as I find they usually settle themselves and go back to sleep if you leave them. Obviously if they are screaming, I get up to see what is wrong.

My brother and SIL have a daughter who is 19 months old now and has never slept through the night. However they had her in their room until recently and had a baby monitor. She's been rocked to sleep, and now they currently sit in her room in the dark rocking her till she drops off (which can take half an hour or more!) and then try and lift her into the cot without waking her. They have to repeat this if she wakes. They still use the baby monitor and every tiny noise is investigated, which usually means they wake her up and have to rock her again.

I posted both tales in the hope that people can pick out useful bits from both and see if anything works for them.

Mazcabs

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Maz - Does Henry watch/like Mr Tumble on "Something Special"? Chris loves him and he says "waaaiiiit" often so I taught Chris to do that he now stops if we say waaiiit Mr Tumble stylee :T
once he was old enough I taught him to hold on to my leg I used to squeeze my legs together to sort of trap is hand while I lock the door but now I just say "hold mummy's leg" and he does! I like that because I can actually feel he's holding me so I know he's there

To be honest with you he doesnt watch tv that much at home... never really that bothered. Same goes for toys, he's more interested in the computer mouse and setting the timer on my cooker!!

Sami_Bee

Mazcabs wrote: »

To be honest with you he doesnt watch tv that much at home... never really that bothered. Same goes for toys, he's more interested in the computer mouse and setting the timer on my cooker!!

:rotfl:When our beeper goes off Chis jumps up and legs it into the kitchen whilst saying "Quick Quick Beep!":p

Becles

Charlotte is another cooker timer setter. The clock is always on the wrong time as I got sick of resetting it, only for her to fiddle with it again :rolleyes:

The microwave is on a shelf in a larder cupboard and she can't reach it. She likes her milks warm, so she stands hopping from foot to foot while the microwave is on, and then yells "diiiiiinnnnnngggggg" when the timer goes ding :rotfl:

Sami_Bee

Becles wrote: »

Charlotte is another cooker timer setter. The clock is always on the wrong time as I got sick of resetting it, only for her to fiddle with it again :rolleyes:

The microwave is on a shelf in a larder cupboard and she can't reach it. She likes her milks warm, so she stands hopping from foot to foot while the microwave is on, and then yells "diiiiiinnnnnngggggg" when the timer goes ding :rotfl:

all these things I think MY Chris does that are soo cute and it turns out lots of toddlers do them