MSE Parent Club - Part 2

carol9uk

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Keely if he was referred for an app "soon" then a month is very quick.
When my mum was referred for her hernia they said "urgent" = within 6 weeks
I assume the categories are the same for all types of referral

Carol: I haven't been in the situation myself but have you already told them in writing that you want to return? you could just pop a little line in there if not.
I found this if you have a wonder around the site it might have some help on there.
"Breastfeeding You should let your employer know in writing if you are planning to breastfeed when you return to work. Ideally you should do this before you return so that your employer has time to plan.
Your employer must carry out a risk assessment to identify risks to you as a breastfeeding mother or to your baby. If there are risks they must do all that is reasonable to remove the risks or make alternative arrangements for you. Your employer must also provide suitable rest facilities.
Although there is no legal requirement, employers are encouraged to provide a private, healthy and safe environment for nursing mothers to express and store milk."

hi yes they know i am returning, they askedf me if i could go back a month earier, ive said yes, but regret it now. ive seen that information in a book, but not sure what to put in the letter. thanks

nadnad

hi carol i've been looking online to try and find a sample letter regarding informing your employer about BF - but to no avail. I can't think how to put it. But I guess just straight to the point is the best thing. Maybe something like "I confim that I will be returning to work on xxxx, please note that I am breast feeding my baby and will require time to express during working hours." Are you on good terms with your boss - could you tell them on the phone first (though you have to tell them in writing as well).

Becles

Hope you get it sorted Carol. My SIL was still breastfeeding when she returned to work, but she just dropped the feeds so she only does morning and evening ones now. She felt happier doing that rather than expressing at work. It's worked for her and she is still breastfeeding and her daughter is 18 months now.

Someone from the LEA phoned about James. She wants to test his motor skills, so she's arranging for him to go to occupational health, where they will run through a number of tests to see if he's got dyspraxia. I don't think he has and think it's more a mental problem than co-ordination, but I'll take him anyway, just in case!

Sami_Bee

at least its the start of something Beccles

Carol - are you telling a woman or a man, I'm just thinking its easier to "say" it to a woman and maybe it could be done on an email (does that count as "in writing these days??) If it was a woman I'd be happy to just say "I'm required to let you know I will be continuing to breastfeed once I return to work and therefore will require a risk assessment and suitable private space to express and store my milk"

Keeley I've been meaning to ask did they ever give you soya formula to try?
I agree its pooh I think the referral should have been marked as a higher priority, you and elliot have really had it tough! xx

heather38

after dd was born and i went back to work i was still bf, i think i just wrote that i was coming back on xxxxxx date and that i was still nursing kennedy and so i would need a risk assessment and a place to express.
it was a bit of a moot point in my dept coz we have a private consultation room and a medical fridge! it didn't matter in the end coz she refused to feed from me at 7 months and we ended up on formula anyway.

Lu_T

Can anyone with older kids recommend a book about feelings? Imogen is NASTY to OH sometimes, shouting at him to go away, get out, don't touch me etc. She's even so mean she asks him for a cuddle, then refuses to give him one when he goes to her!

He told her last night that her saying these things makes him sad, but she was a bit taken up with Charlie & Lola.

We're fast heading into tantrums too, so OH plans a quiet chat with her at the weekend and we were also going to introduce a book about feelings, so she understands it's okay to feel that way and stands a chance of identifying what it is she's feeling. TIA

chocaholic110

Becles wrote: »

Hope you get it sorted Carol. My SIL was still breastfeeding when she returned to work, but she just dropped the feeds so she only does morning and evening ones now. She felt happier doing that rather than expressing at work. It's worked for her and she is still breastfeeding and her daughter is 18 months now.

Someone from the LEA phoned about James. She wants to test his motor skills, so she's arranging for him to go to occupational health, where they will run through a number of tests to see if he's got dyspraxia. I don't think he has and think it's more a mental problem than co-ordination, but I'll take him anyway, just in case!

Becles, dyspraxia isn't just co-ordination, it can affect organisational ability and other things too. In fact, you could have five different dyspraxic children and they all could have different symptoms - it's not one size fits all.

Becles

Thanks chocoholic. I don't know much about it, and my Mam said it was a co-ordination thing. I'll have to read up on it.

chocaholic110

Becles wrote: »

Thanks chocoholic. I don't know much about it, and my Mam said it was a co-ordination thing. I'll have to read up on it.

Co-ordination can be a big part of it but not the be all and end-all. Can be problems with organisation, tracking and relocating when reading (MY niece has this part of it and it sounds as if your son might), fine and gross motor control problems, oversensitivity to light / noise etc - lots of different things and some children will have some aspects and some will have others. People don't normally have all aspects of it. I did a module on it during my PGCE and realised my son might be dyspraxic. I mentioned it at his school to be told "Yes, we thought he might be and asked him if he wanted to be on the exercise programme but he said no". He was eight at the time - why ask him and not mention it to me?? :mad:

Reading down the list of symptoms loads of it made sense - night terrors, extreme dislike of having hair and nails cut, walking before crawling, forgetting to take pyjamas off before putting clothes on, hand-flapping when excited etc, loads of things! Also, looking back I think I probably have / had it too!

Worryingly, Tom doesn't crawl either, he shuffles. Not looking forward to some of the issues we've had with DS repeated again but at least I know what to watch for this time!

Edit - try looking here

http://www.dyspraxiafoundation.org.uk/services/ad_symptoms.php

chocaholic110

Looking further into it on the Durham website I found this

Some irritability at birth.
Poor feeding.
Poor sleeping.
Engages in high levels of motor activity, constantly waving arms and legs.
Slow to achieve milestones such as sitting, crawling, walking, hopping, jumping, walking up and down stairs.
Constantly bumping into things or tripping or falling.
Limited ability to concentrate on specific play tasks.
Unaware of dangers eg jumping from heights
Delayed Language acquisition or may need speech therapy in the early years.

Apart from the last one which is too early to know, this is Tom exactly!