My sons rent

Idiophreak

LisaandNick wrote: »

It was more to do with teaching us about living costs and the value of money, than a pound for pound reflection of their actual costs or local rents.

So I say £300 sounds about right.

Didn't you learn about that stuff at uni, though? Did you really still need to be taught it once you got home again?

And if you'd earnt more, would you still have said 1/3 was fair? If £300 sounds about right, what if 1/3 of your takehome is £600...doesn't that sound a little high?

Penny-Pincher!!

Hi

I think £300 is fair earning that amount of money.

TBH, my DD is nearly 14 and we have already spoken about "keep" when she leaves full-time education. We didnt bring this up BTW...she asked as her friends brother pays to stay at home and she didnt know what it all meant.

OH & I both had to pay a third, so we have said 30% with DD up to a maximum amount.

She is hoping to do A-levels, then a 3yr degree. I wouldnt expect her to pay whilst she is in FT education, but she knows things will be tight and she will need to get a PT job to buy things she needs.

PP
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Idiophreak

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

OH & I both had to pay a third, so we have said 30% with DD up to a maximum amount.

That sounds like one the most reasonable ways of doing it I've heard

arthur_dent_2

kimfarren wrote: »

Blimey!!! I think I may get my daughter to read this!!! Shes nearly 20 years old and working in London for about 8 months now. She earns £17,000 a year and pays me £90 A MONTH. I do all her washing, cooking, cleaning and buy all her toiletries etc. And she thinks shes hard doneby as £10 of her rent we make her pay to us as we've installed sky into her room and thats how much the extra subscription costs. ( and I've just bought her a car (her 1st) for £950)

Might have to rethink methinks!!!!

Your daughter is bringing home in excess of £270 a week and paying you £22.50. I suggest you drastically up this or tell her to go rent in London where it would be so much cheaper, I don't think. I am only guessing but I suspect that if you had £250 a week for just yourself you would be thinking christmas had come early.

Sergei_BY

What is wrong with you people? How can someone think of charging own son? What will someone do when you are a retirement pensioner?
Children usualy take care of their old parents in Belarus, where i came from. Parents don't charge their own children. This is a great site which helps many beople to beat the greedy marketing system, but not your own children. Let him leave for free, and he will pay you back later when you need help, say, when you will not be able to get yourself a glass of water. Sorry but this is the way i see the issue!

Doom_and_Gloom

kimfarren wrote: »

Blimey!!! I think I may get my daughter to read this!!! Shes nearly 20 years old and working in London for about 8 months now. She earns £17,000 a year and pays me £90 A MONTH. I do all her washing, cooking, cleaning and buy all her toiletries etc. And she thinks shes hard doneby as £10 of her rent we make her pay to us as we've installed sky into her room and thats how much the extra subscription costs. ( and I've just bought her a car (her 1st) for £950)

Might have to rethink methinks!!!!

£90 per month :eek: . I'm on £5.73/hr now after the wage increase and I pay £30 per week (I've only just got work again after 4 weeks of nothing as I'm a temp as well ). Your daughter has it easy if you ask me. I do my own cooking (unless my ma insists on cooking), own washing unless she needs to fill up the load. The food, eleki etc is included in the price though except extras that I have as luxeries. It will be evaluated every few months though due to prices going up which is fair enough. They break even and that's all they ask for.

For what she earns I'd say £30 at least per month. However if you want to break even as is more fair work that out and say that is what she has to pay now. That is very fair. Also say that it will be evaluated every few months to make sure it is still the correct amount. I doubt she'd find a place for less. I know I can't even with flat sharing as I used to pay £130/month just for rent in one.

arthur_dent_2

It is unfortunate, however many children do not repay the debt when they are older, they put their parents into homes or worse leave them in their own home and then never visit. Charging rent is a way of making them grow up and live in the real world. I hated paying my mum £45 a week on a £130 - £140 a week salary. However I now run (with OH) a debt free household and am able to budget well.

£90 a month is doenright disrespectful and then to complain about being hard done by on top is just rude.

bestpud

tawecdl wrote: »

£300 is too much to charge your own son to live with you. How much extra will it cost you for him to move in? about £200 maximum a month. My opinion is that he is not just family, he's your son. People should not profit off family or friends, the world seems to be turning into very profit-minded people. How would you feel if you needed some help from a family member in your laterr years and were told to pay for it?

Sorry for the rant, it just pains me to see people profiting off their loved ones.

Sooo, are you suggesting it is ok for this 24 year old adult to go back to his parents purely because he wants to live cheaper, but it is not ok for the parents to charge more than a token sum for him being there??

Double standards there methinks! :rolleyes:

A good parent would not allow their adult child to come back for any less than the market value imho!

A weaker parent will give in for a peaceful life but then what is the long term non-financial cost of that for their child...?

Good for you OP! I would say if he wants it for £300 then it is room only - same as he'd get in a bedsit.

If he wants all the extras then he has the money to pay for them and tbh should not even be arguing over it!

Remind him he still has the option of staying put!

Idiophreak

bestpud wrote: »

A good parent would not allow their adult child to come back for any less than the market value imho!

Well how many people are going to move back home if it's the same cost as living elsewhere? Not so many.

I'd have thought a *good* parent would actually give a rats !!! about their children and try and help them when they're struggling, not kick them while they're down and say "that's life in the real world, sonny".

bestpud

Idiophreak wrote: »

Well how many people are going to move back home if it's the same cost as living elsewhere? Not so many.

I'd have thought a *good* parent would actually give a rats !!! about their children and try and help them when they're struggling, not kick them while they're down and say "that's life in the real world, sonny".

Yes, that was badly worded on my part. I meant market value in terms of the room and then the rest (bills etc) would be cheaper than if he had his own home iyswim? And then they should take a share in the housework in return.

Because, a parent should not be expected to wash/iron/clean etc etc for their grown up child for nothing - especially if the parent works themself and is not loaded.

Caring about a child is preparing then for the real world imo but then I guess we won't agree on that one.