My sons rent

kr15snw

What does 'everything' include? Washing / cleaning / cooking etc? Free use of TV down stairs? Internet etc etc?

This will make a huge difference.

I would say £200 for the room each month. Then the rest should be EQUAL shares for bills etc.

annie_d

Could he manage a room in a shared house? That would save a lot of arguments in the future.

shellsuit

Badger_Lady wrote: »

But it's not about that - you can't compare with living in a flat! If he's renting a room, let him a room at market rate. If he could rent a room from a stranger for £300, then he should be able to pay the same from his parent.

If he clearly can't afford a flat of his own, that's what he should be doing anyway - living in a shared house / flat or renting a room from a live-in landlord.

I'm not comparing it with living in a flat, my point is his outgoings now, to what they would be with moving back home.

£400 a month all in would be better than £300 a month for rent, then having to pay towards CT, water, gas, elec, insurance, food etc etc

Skint_Catt

Before I read any comments on this page I thought £400 would be fair. He's saving £275 on rent and at least another £150 on bills, food etc, so I think thats fair. If he doesn't then as someone's said tell him to get a room in a shared house - with kitchens always dirty, bathrooms never clean and noise when he doesn't want it. Then he'll think £400s a bargain!

silvercar

Do you want him to move back home? Do you have room for him?

If the reason he is wanting to move back home is to save money, either because he can't afford elsewhere or because he wants to save up for something important, I would consider this.

I'm not sure I could charge my children more than the extra costs they bring. If I did I would feel I was profiting out of them.

Kalamaker

If I were to move home, I don't think I would haggle at all with how much my parents would charge me unless it was a lot more than I would pay on my own. Set a price and put your foot down with it. If you think the price is fair, break it down for him and show him how it is fair.

xcat_girlx

it also might be worth considering that by letting him pay less he can save towards a deposit for another place & get him back living independantly again.

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

I know it's slightly off topic but I realy don't think I could live with my adult children again not for any amount of money.My girls all left and then came home again to live once only.We're all actually very close and I adore my kids but I also love the peaceful life I have with my husband.The thought of all those family squabbles.No thanks.

ameliarate

silvercar wrote: »

I'm not sure I could charge my children more than the extra costs they bring. If I did I would feel I was profiting out of them.

I think I would feel a bit like this, especially with house prices so high Iwould want them to be able to save as much as they could for their own home, but I think it depends on the child. I know, for example, that mine would save, however if I thought she wouldn't I would probably charge and save it for her. It also depends on your own finances and whether you can afford to "sub" them.
£400 doesn't seem unreasonable to me.

NemoToad

I think £300 is actually quite fair, for what another poster mentioned is a room in a shared house. I'd say that including phone, mobile, electricity, gas, water, council tax and rent I pay roughly only a little more than that a month. That is, I think it's fair as long as he's willing to buy his own food and cook his own meals and clean up after himself.

He's also helping you out, because you'd still be paying the same mortgage, council tax, etc if he wasn't giving you the £300, that is unless you were planning on having a lodger. Maybe see how much lodgers are charged in your area, and then charge a little less.