Need someone to talk to.....

ehallett

Shineyhappy wrote: »

I am so sorry that things still arent any better. Talking in writing sometimes helps as you can take you time and you cant get too angry or emotional.

What has he said when you accused him of cheating?

He said that he hasn't cheated and that the card is from a woman at work that is obsessed with him. She also sent the text that I found a few months ago and he told me she was his auntie so that I didn't get hurt.

Ossireo

I think I would feel the same as you to be honest Emily. If someone who was obsessed with me had sent me a card 'To My Girlfriend" I would have been really freaked out and it would have been in the bin not on display.

Is he a bit clueless?? I mean popping a card on the shelf where your fianc!e will see it is not the most sensible thing to do if you are having an affair

lilmissmup

Hi Emily,

Just seen this thread, i am sorry hes done this to you but if after 7 years he made no signs of wanting to live together and wants to wait another 7 years for marriage well i think you deserve better from a man.

xx

Buffythedebtslayer

Hey Emily,

just checking in to see how you are doing

Has he been round yet?

sending hugs

xx

thepinklady

Hi Emily,

I have only just seen this post. I am so sorry to hear about your boyfriend troubles. It must be a complete shock at the mo, and your head is probably all over the place thinking what is the best thing to do. You are doing the right thing having a break from him, that way you can work out whether you want to get back with him because you are lonely and scared about being lonely in the future or whether you truly do love him, enough to give him another chance. If you do give him another chance he needs to commit himself to you, and the future you have together.

Your heart will help you make the right decision Emily.

Take care - hugsx

P.S) why are blokes complete ****!!! They always ruin good things.

jo41

HI Emily,
just to say I don't know you but feel I do as you have given me so much inspiration with your threads.
I'm thinking of you and hope everything works out for you.
You do have friends on here that really care about you, remember that if ever you're feeling down.
Jo x

dave318

Hi Emily, sorry 'bout the situation.

Perhaps it is just me, coming from a blokes perspective, (No sentimentality and all the gubbings that go with it) But could you not sell the engagement ring to pay him off, and just be done with him.

I understand it is hard to have to move on, but he honestly won't be worth it.

David

marksandsparksgal

Evening Emily,

I am adding anther vote to the "he's a muppet" camp. The thing that really stood out for me, is when you were dscussing your future with him, and he said you're using your illness as an excuse. After the time you guys have been together, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to wish to get married, and also if you've been together that long, he should know you well enough to know that you would not use the illness as an excuse anyway.

Aside from that, the behaviour seems very fishy, and would it not do you more harm than good to stay with him, and always be wondering, especially if he has a history of such behaviour.

Anyway, I wish you luck whatever the outcome.

x

Wol2

marksandsparksgal wrote: »

Evening Emily,

I am adding anther vote to the "he's a muppet" camp. The thing that really stood out for me, is when you were dscussing your future with him, and he said you're using your illness as an excuse. After the time you guys have been together, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to wish to get married, and also if you've been together that long, he should know you well enough to know that you would not use the illness as an excuse anyway.

Aside from that, the behaviour seems very fishy, and would it not do you more harm than good to stay with him, and always be wondering, especially if he has a history of such behaviour.

Anyway, I wish you luck whatever the outcome.

x

Hi Emily

Ditto....thanks M&Sgal....have been working up the courage to post something similar about the "illness as an excuse" and "length of time" myself tonight

Rather large Hugs Emily.....keep your dignity as you have been doing.....you really DO deserve someone who WILL acknowledge you for the very special person that you are Hun...and wil provide reciprocity ( my fave word atm!)....and hey...let's face it....all us DFW's CAN'T be wrong about that :T :T

XXX
Wol2
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