Need someone to talk to.....

ehallett

Hi everyone

I know this isn't really a DFW matter but I feel that all my friends are on here and I have nobody else to talk to at this time of night.

I have basically just split from my boyfriend of over 7 years. Well, he was my fiance really. I went over to his flat tonight and found a pile of his birthday cards on the sideboard. The one on top said 'to my boyfriend'......it wasn't from me!!

I found a text on his phone a few months ago (it only said 'ok') and he told me it was from his auntie. The same name on that text is on this card. He now says that it's from a girl that he works with that is obsessed with him and wants to be with him. He told me it was his auntie before as he didn't want me to get upset.

I just can't believe him. I am never allowed anywhere near his phones. He gets odd phonecalls that he won't answer in front of me, he gets texts all of the time. He has random bottles of wine in his flat sometimes and I know he doesn't drink wine alone like that and I definitely don't have any. We never made plans to live together even though I wanted to - just lots of things like that have added to my suspicions.

He says he loves me but I walked out on him tonight. He has sent me a text to say he will bring my stuff over and collect his one night this week.

Like I say, I just wanted some other opinions on this as all of my friends and family are asleep at the moment so I have nobody to talk to.

Emily x

Wol2

Emily Hun.....

Have PM'd you

Hugs
Wol2
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Hell1

Hi Emily:hello:

I have been reading your posts for a while now, and have always been impressed by your energy, drive and enthusiasm.

To be honest, I think your suspicions may be correct. He seems to have been very evasive, not entirely honest, - the texts and phone calls and you not being allowed near his phone all point to someone who has got something to hide. I hope you are wrong, and that you can work things out.

Hell

kellitots

Aaww

Me and you are not 'friends' on here but I definitely know how you are feeling, that horrible way the stomach lurches when you find something like that card and how it feels right now like the rug has been pulled from under your world. Rest assured that this too shall pass. You are strong, stronger than you know, stronger than you feel at the moment.

If it is how it seems and he has been playing away, well you really don't deserve to be lied to and treated that way, and it is probably for the best even if it doesn't seem like it.

Did he try to stop you or just agree?

Sorry if you think I am being nosey, you don't need to answer if you don't want to. ((((hugs)))) x

Bayblue

Aww Emily, I'm so sorry hun.

I agree with your suspicions, it doesn't look good. At best your boyfriend has A LOT of explaining to do, at worst, well you know the worst...

I don't have any wonderful advice except this...Phone someone!

It doesn't matter that they might be asleep- I'm sure that anyone close to you, family or friends, would not mind in the slightest under the circumstances. You know they might actually be upset that you felt that you couldn't turn to them in your hour of need. I know I wouldn't mind at all.

Hope things seem a bit better soon Emily and I'm sending you a virtual hug -and I never hug anyone! but you deserve it.

*twinkle*_2

Emily (((hugs))) to you huni, I don't know you well either, but have read your wonderful challenges. So sorry you have been hurt (((hugs)))

ehallett

kellitots wrote: »

Aaww

Me and you are not 'friends' on here but I definitely know how you are feeling, that horrible way the stomach lurches when you find something like that card and how it feels right now like the rug has been pulled from under your world. Rest assured that this too shall pass. You are strong, stronger than you know, stronger than you feel at the moment.

If it is how it seems and he has been playing away, well you really don't deserve to be lied to and treated that way, and it is probably for the best even if it doesn't seem like it.

Did he try to stop you or just agree?

Sorry if you think I am being nosey, you don't need to answer if you don't want to. ((((hugs)))) x

He did try and stop me but I kept on asking him what he would do in my position and he just said that he would leave me. I know he will try to get me back but I just don't think the trust is there anymore. Even if his story is true, why on earth would you keep the card??

ehallett

Bayblue wrote: »

Aww Emily, I'm so sorry hun.

I agree with your suspicions, it doesn't look good. At best your boyfriend has A LOT of explaining to do, at worst, well you know the worst...

I don't have any wonderful advice except this...Phone someone!

It doesn't matter that they might be asleep- I'm sure that anyone close to you, family or friends, would not mind in the slightest under the circumstances. You know they might actually be upset that you felt that you couldn't turn to them in your hour of need. I know I wouldn't mind at all.

Hope things seem a bit better soon Emily and I'm sending you a virtual hug -and I never hug anyone! but you deserve it.

Thank you.

I've tried to call my mum but she isn't answering. Have left a rather frantic message on her answerphone so am expecting a call at 7 in the morning or something. My sister has a baby so not fair on her. Have tried a few other friends but their phones are either switched off or they're not answering. Have been talking to my cat a bit though .

Bowski_1011

Don't worry about your sister having a baby. That will be the last thing on her mind. please ring her

Gangstabird

Sorry Em, it's a rotten thing to find out. Sending good vibes your way.

LilacPixie

Hugs Emily. I agree with the PP's. It certainly does sound like your suspicions may be correct. Maybe there is an innocent explanation but as you have said yourself you have been together a while yet have never progressed to the next level even although you wanted to. It sounds like perhaps your relationship has ran its natural course.

MAybe just maybe this will give him a bit of a kick up the bum. Men do strange but harmless things sometimes Men really are from Mars.

Hugs