Need someone to talk to.....

misscutiepie1984

Emily - I went through a very similiar things a few years back and he wanted us to give it another go and i said it had to end because he had hurt me enough and i was worth more. It was the best thing i have ever done!! If you fancy a chat PM me. Keep ya chin up hun x

ehallett

Thanks for all of your messages.

My boyfriend came over this evening ranting and raving. Mainly because I owe him £400. He wanted his money and threatened to take things to the value of it. Eventually I got him to leave but it wasn't pleasant.

I want to pay him off but don't have enough to do so at the moment - any suggestions anyone? I've got £100 to put towards it and have got some dvds that I could take to a local shop to get money for.

I get paid 2 weeks today but I am also waiting for £350 from my local radio station which I won nearly 5 weeks ago. I have been chasing it up but still no joy.

I'm staying at my mum's tonight anyway so I'm not on my own. Hopefully I will get some more sleep tonight.

Emily x

RosaBernicia

Hi Emily

More hugs from here. I'm afraid the 'ranting and raving' worries me nearly as much as the other weirdness, it's hardly the way to mend things is it?

I hope you find someone who appreciates you properly, whether that's him with his head sorted out or a fab new bloke instead.

Rosa xx

ehallett

Well, we are meeting on Friday (in a neutral place) so that we can give eachother our belongings back. He has said that he will take the £100 for now and then I will drop the rest through his door when I get paid.

I am really upset and sometimes I think that I will get back with him but I just can't forget about the cheating. My head is telling me that he has cheated, all the signs point to it - he has cheated before on his ex too. Plus I saw a really nasty side to him last night that I don't think I want to see again. I don't want to grow to hate him, I do love him but I can't see us getting married or living together as he never seems to want to commit that far. I think he only gave me an engagement ring to shut me up.

He always said that we should get married when I am debt free (he has debts too but his parents bailed him out). I won't be debt free for another 5 years or so - I will be 32 by then. I've got cystic fibrosis and I just can't wait that long!! I will probably be a lot worse by then and don't want to be walking down the aisle with an oxygen mask on!!

I have told him all this but he just says I am using my illness as an excuse.

I know that this relationship has to end, I just hope he lets me end it and leaves me alone to rebuild my life.

Emily x

Piquant_2

Emily, if you can, give yourself some space from him. Give yourself time and don't be bullied or rushed into any decisions. You are a very special person as you demonstrated on this board over and over again many people care deeply about you.

Piq xx

sandra_nz

Emily,
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. But you deserve better than this guy. A healthy relationship is never demanding or fearful. Right now you need time to yourself to recover from the stress of all this. You'll have mixed feelings towards him for a while - part of you will want to get back with him, but part of you will know it's not the right thing to do. Just give yourself space and time to recover.
Thinking good thoughts for you,
Sandra

Bambywamby

I am sorry about your current predictament...we have all been there and know how gutting it is. X x

To be honest, he doesn't sound like a particularly nice bunny...you will not feel like it now, but getting rid of him is probably the best thing you could have done for yourself.
There will be somebody out there, that deserves you, that will love you unconditionally and he will come along and rock your world.

For now, give yourself time to heal...focus on yourself, be selfish, do things that you enjoy.
You have a great life to lead...and he isn't in it.

Sending you a virtual hug and a bit of "Fcuk him, he isn't worth it power dust."

Bam x x

tallyhoh

Hi Em,

Sorry about things, Seems to me that he's not worth the paper his £400 is printed on.

He is obviously messing you & someone else about, no question about that. Consolation is that she will never be able to trust him either. If you took him back you could never trust him again.

Does he owe you anything at all? if so deduct it from the £400 & tell him why, let him rant & rave.

Cant get over the bare faced cheek of him. :mad:

Shineyhappy

Hi Emily,

I am so sorry he is acting like an idiot! I hope you can get what you need from this situation whether it is a clean break or whether you and him sort things out but him getting nasty with you is not a good sign.

Maybe you should write him a letter to give to him on Friday outlinning what you think and what you from this situation?

lauradora

thinking of you em x

karma is a wonderful thing.... he'll get his