Moving back in with parents

neverdespairgirl

bristol_pilot wrote: »

Someone once said (allegedly) "A man who, beyond the age of 26, finds himself on a bus can count himself as a failure."

There is something of truth in that IMO, though not to be taken literally.

Definintely not to be taken literally! Last time I went on a bus for work, last week, I was with a 55 year old QC earning £1 million + a year.

dopester

bristol_pilot wrote: »

Someone once said (allegedly) "A man who, beyond the age of 26, finds himself on a bus can count himself as a failure."

Why would anyone even say that?

Haven't they got better things to ponder and judge on, such as their own shallow arrogance?

I seriously hope many of these types have over-extended themselves in the boom, and are brought back to reality with a very hard landing.

LindseyM

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I was with a 55 year old QC earning £1 million + a year.

And you let him/her get away.....?? :rotfl:

Back to OP, I'm a week away from completing on the sale of my house, and then OH and I are moving in to her parents house. I'm 27 now and have lived away from home since I was 18, so don't think it will be plain sailing but its a means to an end and not a permanent situation (i hope!! )

Good luck whatever you do!

poppysarah

Seriously go to the councillor for help before giving up your tenancy. You might never get another one off social housing.

lavidaloca

Gorgeous_George wrote: »

Yup, that's how it used to work before the 'I want everything now' era.

You lived at home with your parents until you get married. Then, a big car took (white dressed) bride to church. After a honeymoon, you moved in together into a house that you had bought a few months before the wedding and decorated together ready for the big day.

GG

Don't knock it, I did this and am now into my 33rd year of marriage!

Is there a reason why you can't ask the HA for a transfer?

vicky_kidder

moggylover wrote: »

I would say that you were a perfectly good parent - just maybe hoping for something a touch unrealistic with the separate rooms:D .

Hehe, I tend to agree. I've been with my partner 4.5 years and I'm 23 (nearly) and hes 25 and until recently my parents wouldn't let him stay in the same room together. They intially said it was because they were the house rules and I needed to respect them. I did, until my (much younger) brother was allowed to bring any old girl back to his room and stay over, even on first dates - where my parents had to admit that it was more to do with them not liking the thought of me sleeping with my partner more than any morals or house rules. They not let (on the odd occasion) my partner stay over after aprties or whatever, but I did wonder what would happen when I had moved out, would they still insist my partner sleep on the couch (we dont have a spare room). How silly it would seem that my husband would have to sleep on the couch because my parents still didnt want to concede that we might sleep together.

I think these sort of rules work with kids/teenagers and is definitely in their best interests, so I do applaud you on that. But seperating two adults seems a bit mad really and I was thinking when I move out I might ask my parents to stay in seperate rooms if they stay over because I'm not comfortable with it! Hehe, that was a joke btw, just would make me laugh to see their faces if I said that! :rotfl:

lostinrates

bristol_pilot wrote: »

The thing about travelling on the bus at age 26 is not to be taken literally - Ken Livingstone still travelled by tube when he was Mayor of London. The point is that 26 is an age by which if you haven't started to make progress in life in some way you may be seen as a slow starter. Doesn't mean you have to buy a house by 26 (as someone said the average ftb is much older than that these days), but by 26 if you are still working part-time in a fast food joint, 'travelling' or generally dossing about it is no longer cool and it is time to get serious. And if you are still living with parents at 26 and are male you will likely have trouble keeping a gf for very long.

I wasn't taking it literally, ....my response stands as a metaphor .

GracieP

dopester wrote: »

Why would anyone even say that?

'Cos they're Jeremy Clarkson?

churchrat

bristol_pilot wrote: »

It's not old-fashioned it's just plain insulting to your son's partner. Surprised she stayed under your roof under those conditions.

why is it insulting to ask someone to respect your morals when they are staying under your roof?? if you really disagree then don't stay there.

if you can understand why they have asked, but you just disagree, then surely its good manners to do as they ask when you are thier guest. if the parents come to stay, then the adult children should behave as they see fit in their own home.

I do not allow visitors to smoke in my house--is that "just plain insulting" as well?

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Originally Posted by bristol_pilot
Someone once said (allegedly) "A man who, beyond the age of 26, finds himself on a bus can count himself as a failure."

dopester wrote: »

Why would anyone even say that?

Haven't they got better things to ponder and judge on, such as their own shallow arrogance?
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:rotfl: Surely you remember? - that was one of Mrs Thatcher's more memorable quotes. I thought you were a fan? What she actually said was, "Any man who rides a bus to work after the age of 30 can count himself a failure in life." She was rather well known for having an antipathy toward any form of public transport. A bit like (GW) Bush's famous, "What will I do for public transport? I will improve the economy so you can find good enough work to be able to afford a car." Classic stuff
IIRC Thatcher said this around the time of the publication of the "Roads to Prosperity" white paper, which she described as the "biggest road building programme since the Romans" I think over £20bn was spent, but we didn't see much new road....