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Moving back in with parents
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I hadn't considered speaking to local councillor - not sure how effective it would be.
I have called police numerous times but on fri & sat nights when most of the trouble kicks off but they have more important things to do. Occasionally they do the rounds on a weekday but nothing much is happening then!
I can't speak for my partner's mum but I'm as certain as I can be that my mum wouldn't mind me coming home.
My older sister moved back after splitting with her ex. She stayed 2 years and when she met her now husband my parents were happy for him to stay over.0 -
moanymoany wrote: »I know people who have lived together for years and their parents won't let them share a room - even in these days.
We tried that. Bit prudish and old-fashioned, I know.
My son has been living with his g/f for the last 5 years. Originally, when they came to visit, we insisted on them having separate bedrooms, one upstairs and one downstairs. There was so much nocturnal movement on the staircase that none of us were getting any sleep, so eventually we gave up.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
My parents did this, from when OH and moved in together (when I was 20, OH was 19) until I was pregnant when I was 27 - I think they realised at that point that it was undeniable (-:...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0
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Someone once said (allegedly) "A man who, beyond the age of 26, finds himself on a bus can count himself as a failure."
There is something of truth in that IMO, though not to be taken literally. At 24 I don't think your bf would feel like a loser living with parents, but once he gets to 26 or so then 30 is in sight. The next thing you know he will be 35 and claiming (like Seymour Skinner in The Simpsons) that he dosn't live with his parents, they live with him.
Needs must in these times of expensive housing, so I'd say stay with parents 2 years max then either private rental (or buy if prices have come down enough by then).0 -
We tried that. Bit prudish and old-fashioned, I know.
My son has been living with his g/f for the last 5 years. Originally, when they came to visit, we insisted on them having separate bedrooms, one upstairs and one downstairs.
It's not old-fashioned it's just plain insulting to your son's partner. Surprised she stayed under your roof under those conditions.0 -
Will one of the set of parents not take the pair of you together?
Pawpurrs x
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bristol_pilot wrote: »It's not old-fashioned it's just plain insulting to your son's partner. Surprised she stayed under your roof under those conditions.
Why insulting?No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
Gorgeous_George wrote: »Yup, that's how it used to work before the 'I want everything now' era.
You lived at home with your parents until you get married. Then, a big car took (white dressed) bride to church. After a honeymoon, you moved in together into a house that you had bought a few months before the wedding and decorated together ready for the big day.
Nowadays, you are just as likely to marry another woman.
GG
George, do you smoke a pipe, per chance? 0 -
The average age for buying is now 34 thanks to the house prices and babyboomers..bristol_pilot wrote: »Someone once said (allegedly) "A man who, beyond the age of 26, finds himself on a bus can count himself as a failure."
There is something of truth in that IMO, though not to be taken literally. At 24 I don't think your bf would feel like a loser living with parents, but once he gets to 26 or so then 30 is in sight. The next thing you know he will be 35 and claiming (like Seymour Skinner in The Simpsons) that he dosn't live with his parents, they live with him.
Needs must in these times of expensive housing, so I'd say stay with parents 2 years max then either private rental (or buy if prices have come down enough by then).It is nice to see the value of your house going up'' Why ?
Unless you are planning to sell up and not live anywhere, I can;t see the advantage.
If you are planning to upsize the new house will cost more.
If you are planning to downsize your new house will cost more than it should
If you are trying to buy your first house its almost impossible.0 -
We tried that. Bit prudish and old-fashioned, I know.
My son has been living with his g/f for the last 5 years. Originally, when they came to visit, we insisted on them having separate bedrooms, one upstairs and one downstairs. There was so much nocturnal movement on the staircase that none of us were getting any sleep, so eventually we gave up.
I think that in my home I can make the rules - and, of course, this goes for everyone else.
I do think that if your son could not respect your home enough to stay in his own room when asked it's a poor do.0
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