Keeping Positive's - Into the new years diary

mum2one

Oh KP, sending a big hug, you dont deserve all this stress, what ever age they are children will wind us up, my dd evan at her tender age of 6 knows how to play ne off against my mum.
U need ur space, I know u have the 3 children and OH but u are still a person, you work damm hard and from what I've scanned from ur posts b4 xmas, u were working ur backside off with these bs parties, not for your benefit but for the household.
Hopefully tomorrow be a bit easier after a gd ngts sleep, and maybe when the paperwork filed and youve sorted OH out with his paperwork, you might be clearer.
If theres anything at all I can do, just pm and I'll help any way I can xx

Karmacat

KP, sorry to hear things are so bad for you - for all of you, really, it sounds like everyone is miserable, and that there's no understanding of what *you're* doing. Kids *don't* understand what adults go through, of course, but it makes it all really, really hard.... lots of hugs, hope you can find some time to take care of yourself.

Keeping_Positive

A briefish update:

Spoke to Oh without much arguing. He saya he does monitor the bills and send copies each month to CCCS never heard any otherposter say this is that what happens. He says its down to 4500. The good news is he will consider bankruptcy and I will talk to him later to see if he wants my help. I did say hes needs to dicuss its right with CCCS first so he can say he has taken advice. Then I should get the £140 amonth instead which will really help us.

He agreed my job is tough and we both are so tired in my case, tired and drugged up by the end of the day nwe both end up giving into the kids and they know it.

All three are grounded today from the other noght so we are taking them shopping to bedford for a dew hours. No fun for them and hopfully they will slepp. DS looks exhausted from not enough sleep.

OH and I have agreed that until DD1 clears her room so we can swap over with DSs stuff then she will have to slepp there. Just need to break the news to DD1 now.

I still which things were different but hopefully we can get through this. I do think the long term debt hasnt helped. Also me working hard and OH sick. I muct remeber that although he can be a sttuborm annoying bloke he soed care and is ill.

Thank you for your support. Like I said I do wish I could just leave and have some time out but life isnt that simple is it?

Mum2one you think DD is trying a six it doesnt get better in fact they just perfect their skills!!! DD1 was so stubborn as a baby that when I ignored her at six months she pulled herself up on to her feet to get my attention. She would stave herself for up to seven hours until I got home to feed her becasue she wouldnt take a bottle even with expressed milk.

In_Search_Of_Me

aww sorry to hear that things are still tough. You have to do what is right for you...can you and oh think about couselling as a productive way to work with things...may also be worth asking sea how she is doing on her own. I agree that its never simple and its never a good idea to make decisions in anger. Possibly a good idea to be honest with the children and say that you are really struggling but hope to get through it - they usually pick it up anyway. My mum stayed with my dad for years and I really wish she hadnt tbh - the tension was horrendous and it was a physical relief when they separated. We never looked back!! but thats us and it certainly wasnt easy for mum - penniless and on her won...hugs for you. Pm if I can help or if it would help to have a nater on the phone...hang in there!

beanielou

Sorry things arew so tough at the mo hun.
Take care.

millionaire_in_training

hi KP. Just been having a catch up. Hmm things are pretty tough for you at the moment. My OH was a selfish git with money. I remember he was sacked form a job and I had to go back to work when my dd was 9 weeks old so we could live ( as he wouldn't go to the jobcentre). He eventually signed on as we were so skint and he was taking a while to get a job. Unknown to me he got a £400 tax rebate when he started work again and didn't crack alight ot me. I only found out when I got a statement in from the bank. IfI hadn't had a young baby I would have sent him packing. Had another baby after that though lol. Then kicked him out as that is only one story re cash from hundreds of them . I could write a book lol. Good luck I hope things work out for you. xx

mum2one

millionaire_in_training wrote: »

hi KP. Just been having a catch up. Hmm things are pretty tough for you at the moment. My OH was a selfish git with money. I remember he was sacked form a job and I had to go back to work when my dd was 9 weeks old so we could live ( as he wouldn't go to the jobcentre). He eventually signed on as we were so skint and he was taking a while to get a job. Unknown to me he got a £400 tax rebate when he started work again and didn't crack alight ot me. I only found out when I got a statement in from the bank. IfI hadn't had a young baby I would have sent him packing. Had another baby after that though lol. Then kicked him out as that is only one story re cash from hundreds of them . I could write a book lol. Good luck I hope things work out for you. xx

I think my ex and your ex must be related, or are a wack of the men a pain in the rear, my darling ex tried to get all the grants when I was expecting, ( for those that dont know, my darling ex 4got to tell me the full details y his wife had left him, he said she'd left and was moving up North, yes she had left him, but was serveing time at her majestys pleasure), whilst we were together he had been useing the scan photos of the baby to get him and his wife accomodation for when she came out of prison, and all the baby clothes, accessories and money his parents had sent for dd, I never saw a penny of it), I kicked him into touch when I was 7mths gone, with the help of a damm gd solicitor. The annoying thing is I was 30 at the time not an unworld wise 16yr old!.

Keeping_Positive

Awww what a nightmare you both must have gone through. OH is rubbish but I ve never known him to take money from kids or hide it I just wonder where the £200 a month goes!? He does buy stuff for house and kids such as weekly sweetie day, milk, bread etc. I guess I get annoyed because if I spend that on me we go further into debt.

OK day yesterday. Spoke to BS manager and she is going to help in a few weeks so Ill keep that but at a lower level. Ill try to make it profitable this time lol!

Spent £48 on Petrol inc £1.50on crisps for kids and I. £20.50 on groceries at the shop. Relly should investigate farmfoods. The shop is good but and hour away :eek:. OH loves the frive though and the kids were good.

Today should be third time lucky my review. So I should have a better view of whats happening this year job wise and if I have any chance of promotion and/or a small bonus.

Catch up later I need to head into work to get a desk.

beanielou

Hope today is positive for you.

mum2one

Hope today went ok.
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