Being made to go out for food after work

chuckley

ringo_24601 wrote: »

It just makes you a stubborn inflexible one

flexiblility varies...

unless its urgent and important, these 'weekly' things are totally redundant.

it doesnt matter what OP's excuse for not going is, the point is after hours its their time to do with as they please...

i dont see how its 'stubborn and inflexible'.

mymatebob

ringo_24601 wrote: »

So, you went from 'out of the office pizza with varied food selection' to 'in the office with limited take-away' option ? Sounds like a poor deal - but i like team dinners and socialising with my colleagues.

I've got a trip to Boston next week - i'll be loosing 1 1/2 days of a weekend and 4 evenings of my own time. Slightly tempted to ask for a day in lieu for that one. I'd never 'kick up a fuss' about it though

another way of looking at this is - I have work away from home. I will happily do this to further my career.

If you are in Boston you may be able to go home in the evening - not sure how far away you are from that part of Lincolnshire

Sugar_Coated_Owl

nickyhutch wrote: »

No they wont. Don't be so cynical.

It happens where I work.

pinkshoes

razorbladekisses wrote: »

When I am working i.e being paid to do my actual job I think I have a pretty good attitude towards it. I work hard and always give 100%. Just because I disagree with giving up my free time to discuss work does not mean I'm a bad employee.

You may be a hard worker, but as someone else has pointed out, it still makes you stubborn and inflexible.

I guess it depends on how you want to progress in your career. If you want to come in 9 'til 5 and work hard all your life and nothing else, then fair enough - companies often need grafters to get the tedious stuff done. These people are often taken for granted, and thanks isn't always given, as you have found out. General dogsbody sorta stuff???

Promotions and praise go to those who not only work hard, but are flexible, and actually care about the company they work for, and want to raise the company profile, not just their own. They are the sort of people who have a positive attitude, rather than trying to shoot down/sl*g off the company when they suggest something.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

pinkshoes if you actually saw me doing my job I don't think you would think I was that bad an employee.

I'm positive towards work and I'm always suggesting new ideas, ways to increase business, keeping things up to date to make everyones life easier.

I am quite flexible. I often come in early to help out/cover, go to other branches when asked without making a fuss.

pinkshoes

razorbladekisses wrote: »

pinkshoes if you actually saw me doing my job I don't think you would think I was that bad an employee.

I'm positive towards work and I'm always suggesting new ideas, ways to increase business, keeping things up to date to make everyones life easier.

I am quite flexible. I often come in early to help out/cover, go to other branches when asked without making a fuss.

So why the big fuss over a couple of evenings, pizza, and discussing the training course?

Sugar_Coated_Owl

...because to begin with we weren't even asked to attend just told it's compulsary. I felt that it was wrong for them to insist we give up our time to attend a meeting to discuss work. I'm not going to go into it now but I have an issue with food which makes things like this a really big deal to me.

glossgal

razorbladekisses wrote: »

...because to begin with we weren't even asked to attend just told it's compulsary. I felt that it was wrong for them to insist we give up our time to attend a meeting to discuss work. I'm not going to go into it now but I have an issue with food which makes things like this a really big deal to me.

OP you don't have to justify yourself-you felt you were being taken advantage of and raised it. A lot of people probably thought you were overeacting but obviously you had your particular reasons for not wanting to go that the rest of us wouldn't have been concerned with.

As to other posters saying hard work will be rewarded etc- of course the hard worker will generally be favoured over the slacker but open your eyes, look around your own workplace, life isn't fair! I bet everyone reading this can think of at least one collegue who does sweet FA and never gets called on it. Few workplaces that I've ever been in have had the ability or intelligence to treat employees on an individual basis which normally means the grafters are treated no better than the slackers. In this scenario who can blame people for taking a dim view of extra work, unpaid socials etc? if you're lucky enough to be appreciated for the special person that you are at work then I'm all for going the extra mile but otherwise you do as much as you're paid or given credit for I reckon