CSA- mother not spending money on child

Loopy_Girl

ashers wrote: »

Bet you wish you never posted the question????

Some very harsh replies.....

At least this chap is paying for his kids and a healthy sum to. There are thousands of fathers (and a few mothers) who do not pay a penny to help bring up their kids. So please lay off and give him the advise he requested.

To many people bash the payers and not the players!!

To be fair the OP has got the answer to the question and we have went off topic. Read the comments from this evening however and you will see that they are balanced and mature comments between adults seeing both sides of the coin. We are not 'bashing' the OP

sara1880

id have had a football team if i could have. But to be honest it scares me a bit bringing kids into the world now. seems so much bigger and scarier now-a-days.

enemes

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Great being a Mum...best job in the world without exception and I really hope I get the chance to do it again

eh? You're gonna be a mum for the next twenty years, and then that is swiftly followed by being a granny .... jumpin' jeepers w'man!

Loopy_Girl

sara1880 wrote: »

hehe thanks for the edit loopy.

maybe with your little one, i know you don't want to hurt her, he's doing enough of that. But i used to cover for my girls dad when he didn't call or canceled seeing her at the last minute. But now i don't i just tell her the very minimal truth, that i don't know why he does it, and give her a hug. Maybe you could just try this with your little one.

He doesn't want to see her at all so I just say that he is very busy with work and she seems to accept that. As time goes on, and if I think she can cope with info, I will tell her a bit more and tell her like you - I just don't know why but it doesn't mean I don't love her. She did ask if he loved her and I replied it is hard to love someone you don't know and she agreed with that.
I have his address so maybe in a couple of years she could write to him...like to be a fly on the wall when he opens that over his cornflakes!!!!!:D

Loopy_Girl

enemes wrote: »

eh? You're gonna be a mum for the next twenty years, and then that is swiftly followed by being a granny .... jumpin' jeepers w'man!

Awww but I'm broody for a bump and a newborn in my arms...and the teeny babygrows on the washing line....awwwwwwww:D

candygirl

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

To be fair the OP has got the answer to the question and we have went off topic. Read the comments from this evening however and you will see that they are balanced and mature comments between adults seeing both sides of the coin. We are not 'bashing' the OP

Well said LG:)It's commendable how much the OP is paying for his own child ashers, but there are other ways of paying, not always financial, and PWC do pay highly in these areas too;)

candygirl

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Awww but I'm broody for a bump and a newborn in my arms...and the teeny babygrows on the washing line....awwwwwwww:D

I'm getting all that in March when DD's baby is born:j :j :j

enemes

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Awww but I'm broody for a bump and a newborn in my arms...and the teeny babygrows on the washing line....awwwwwwww:D

:rolleyes2

Loopy_Girl

candygirl wrote: »

I'm getting all that in March when DD's baby is born:j :j :j

Oooohhhhh...lucky you!!! and a spring baby!!!!!:D I used to love sitting watching the washing line and all the teeny vests and babygrows!!! awwwww....jeezo, never realised HOW broody I was!!!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Loopy_Girl

enemes wrote: »

:rolleyes2

Is that an offer to impregnate me?

I promise I won't get the CSA on you!!!!!:whistle: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: