CSA- mother not spending money on child

Paparika

Johnocyprus wrote: »

Thank you to all who posted especially Cathy2702 and Cozworth806. There are other issues pertinent to this matter but these I think, would agitate all those disbelieving feminists all the more so best not go there.
Thanks again

Who you calling a feminist?

There are a lot of parents who bring their children up alone, and the absent parent complains about how much money they have to pay etc.....

I'd say if your not gonna stay around to help raise the child then keep your legs crossed and knickers on / tie a knot in it (obviously depending which is the NRP)

It's very hard to offer help and advice if you have only heard one side of the story

tamsin1982

ive just been having a similar argument with my ex! I have a 3yr old that he doesnt see and has never given a penny towards raising, there are alot of hidden costs i had to point out to him cos he thinks the csa is far too much when he has bills to pay (dont we all!!) i said if he added the cost of all essential items id need to buy for 18yrs an averaged them into a monthly payment he'd realise he was gettin a bargain!! i did go right back to pre birth stuff tho like cots, bedding, pushchair, carseats, sterilisers etc... i shouldve mentioned loss of earnings too!! :rotfl:
so nrps please consider this when you think your being hard done by!
although i will agree some of you are and i know there are pwc out their that do spend the money purely on themselves an not on thier children but unfortunatly there isnt much you can do about it except be more careful who you have children with in the future :eek:

claire1234

Spendless wrote: »

My neighbour decided to pay maintainance to his daughters instead cos 'their mum wasn't spending the money on them'. The result his daughters are now in their 20's and he still owes the CSA money cos they have said this money he put in his kids bank accounts do not count, so therefore he will have to pay it again to his ex. I did tell him at the time I thought it was a bad idea- shame he didn't listen!

hiya,

are you allowed to do this?

can the fathers csa money go into the childrens bank accounts instead of the mothers? can this all be done via csa?

is there anyone that does this?

thanks

Loopy_Girl

No you can't. CSA has to paid to the PWC to her bank account or giro made out to her for the benefit of the child/ren.

Otherwise if it was paid to the kids it would be WII's, sweeties and !!!!!!!!!!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

candygirl

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

No you can't. CSA has to paid to the PWC to her bank account or giro made out to her for the benefit of the child/ren.

Otherwise if it was paid to the kids it would be WII's, sweeties and !!!!!!!!!!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

only if they took after their Dads:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Loopy_Girl

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Too true!!!!!!!!!!

candygirl

What I can never get my head round is Dads paying their bit, and lets face it, in comparison to what the Mums pay, it is a bit, and then whinging if the Mum gets a new coat or has a night out
I don't know any non resident Dads who go without in order to pay for their kids upbringing, but plenty of resident Mums who do, as well as missing out on career opportunities etc due to having time off to raise their kids:rolleyes:
When I was a single parent I paid for literally everything for my Daughter, and my ex paid a pittance in comparison, so why was he the one that was whinging all the time?

Loopy_Girl

candygirl wrote: »

What I can never get my head round is Dads paying their bit, and lets face it, in comparison to what the Mums pay, it is a bit, and then whinging if the Mum gets a new coat or has a night out
I don't know any non resident Dads who go without in order to pay for their kids upbringing, but plenty of resident Mums who do, as well as missing out on career opportunities etc due to having time off to raise their kids:rolleyes:
When I was a single parent I paid for literally everything for my Daughter, and my ex paid a pittance in comparison, so why was he the one that was whinging all the time?

Absolutely. You get the NRP's on here who mention they pay CSA but then comment that PWC has new suite or holiday or whatever...SO WHAT!!! They could be up to her eyeballs in debt for all they know.

And then they all think the 'money should be spent on the child' but don't understand the mortgage, gas, elec, food etc etc IS money being spent on the kids .

Most PWC pay a fraction of what it takes to bring a child up and a fraction of what they would be putting in the house if they were still together....some (not all though obviously) think they are big people cos they pay the CSA and then that gives them a license to tell a PWC how to budget the money...and as I always say, if they are not happy then they take custody of the kids and see how far their CSA goes!!!;)

1sue23

My daughter does not get a penny off her ex towards my granddaughter age 6 ,he decided to become a student at the age of forty because he knew that he would not have to support his child, students do not pay, he is now taking my daughter to court to get parental responsibility and contact order so that he can take grand daughter on holiday to Canada next year not bad for a poor student this year he went abroad for 2 weeks and must not forget the golf weekends away in Ireland poor man ,my daughter cleans houses for money during the week and offices at weekends so that she can afford to put shoes on her childs feet ,he has the same view if my daughter received money off him she would only spend it on her self forgetting children s needs do not come cheap not only clothes but heating the house, paying the rent but the food that they need .

candygirl

1sue23 wrote: »

My daughter does not get a penny off her ex towards my granddaughter age 6 ,he decided to become a student at the age of forty because he knew that he would not have to support his child, students do not pay, he is now taking my daughter to court to get parental responsibility and contact order so that he can take grand daughter on holiday to Canada next year not bad for a poor student this year he went abroad for 2 weeks and must not forget the golf weekends away in Ireland poor man ,my daughter cleans houses for money during the week and offices at weekends so that she can afford to put shoes on her childs feet ,he has the same view if my daughter received money off him she would only spend it on her self forgetting children s needs do not come cheap not only clothes but heating the house, paying the rent but the food that they need .

That is absolutely appalling for your Daughter, but at least when the child is older she will realise all her Mum has done for her, like my DD does with me.It sickens me to think men can be like this to their own kids :mad: :mad: