Slaying my debts, the second year

mum2one

Buffy, Im here if you need anything. xx

You keep ur chin up your a very special person, who through no fsult of your own has been dealt a bad set of cards, but you are a strong person.

Lula-Hula

Hey Buffy,

First of all :grouphug:, so sorry about the break up sweetie. I dont mean to sound flippant but please try to remember that you are a fabulous person & maybe a person that doesnt realise this, is just not the right one for you.

You will find a way through this & you will emerge stronger & wiser & in time you will come to accept that it wasnt meant to be.

Thinking of you hon & as Sarah said my pm box always open,

lula xxx

RosaBernicia

Oh Buffy so sorry... lots of these :grouphug:

And echoing Lula as she's said it very well.

Will be thinking of you and checking back later today, please let us know how you are.

Rosa xx

Buffythedebtslayer

thank you Mumtoone, Sarah, Lula and Rosa,

I was (and still am) feeling bloody dreadful last night. But I know I did the right thing, the mixed signals, the constant wondering, the confusion, a few years ago he was a constant, a good thing but recently its all been so up in the air and so hard. am I single am I not does he care does he not always whirling round my head.

I feel free, weirdly empty and a little lost but very glad to be SHOT of it all. Now I have a clean slate, a new start and although I am not happy to have had my heart broken, I really did love him I think now life will be a lot clearer.

I am going to see my best friend in two weekends time and then soon enough it will be the manchester meet. Work will keep me busy.

today I will spend what is left rearranging the furniture in my room. Sounds bonkers but it has always helped before.

thank you all again. I may not always be this ok with it. I have random flashbacks of good times. Just remind me I am much better without the confusion and the unknown.

Love Buffy
xxx

doodledo_2

Buffy (((hugs))) sorry to hear about you and your OH but sounds like it was the right decision for you.

Welcome to the single girls club lol, we'll show them hey!

OliveOyl_2

An end is not always a bad thing Buffy, a sad thing usually, but I think what you've written is good, a clean slate and a new start.

Good Luck

(and moving furniture is therapeutic isn't it?)

Shoe_Gal

Hi Buffy

Just to say it sounds like you've done the right thing, hard tho it is. I have been in a similar position in the past and I'm glad now that I made the break. Single life is not so bad

RosaBernicia

Hi Buffy

It sounds like you've made the decision you're truly comfortable with, even if it will take a while to adjust. We're here for the sad bit and for cheering you on. :grouphug:

The other thing is that if the now-defnitely-not-boyfriend wasn't the one for you, now you have clear space and energy ready for the right person to arrive.

Hope your furniture shuffling helped.

Rosa xx

mum2one

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

thank you Mumtoone, Sarah, Lula and Rosa,

I was (and still am) feeling bloody dreadful last night. But I know I did the right thing, the mixed signals, the constant wondering, the confusion, a few years ago he was a constant, a good thing but recently its all been so up in the air and so hard. am I single am I not does he care does he not always whirling round my head.

I feel free, weirdly empty and a little lost but very glad to be SHOT of it all. Now I have a clean slate, a new start and although I am not happy to have had my heart broken, I really did love him I think now life will be a lot clearer.

I am going to see my best friend in two weekends time and then soon enough it will be the manchester meet. Work will keep me busy.

today I will spend what is left rearranging the furniture in my room. Sounds bonkers but it has always helped before.

thank you all again. I may not always be this ok with it. I have random flashbacks of good times. Just remind me I am much better without the confusion and the unknown.

Love Buffy
xxx

Im sorry he was a pain in the rear, I know its hard and may not feel like it at the moment, but you have walked away with ur head held high, ur heart (ok, is broken, but with a bit of glue can be fixed), sometimes it easy to go back to an ex, as there no expectations, no getting to know you, almost like a like a pair of those most comfy belly warmer knickers, that u know u shouldnt go out it, but there so comfy......you dont want sensible boring knickers - as in terms of relationship, but a new fun and funky pr of thongs!! (hopefully theres a smile coming through)..... jokeing apart though the right guy is out there but you may have to kiss a few frogs to find a prince.

I nearly went back to my ex, we were 2gether for 2 yrs and I would of done anything for him, I did really care, but I came 2nd in the relationship to alcohol, we had our ups and downs but did finish on mutual agreement. (back in 1997). We lost touch, then back in 2002 some friends of mine were out and talking about work, he butted in and asked if they knew me, they said yes, but shes with someone, little did I know they had told him what my then bf was like a !!!!, but they didnt mention I was expecting..... We met for a meal, he come out with I'm a changed man, I had to tell him that I was expecting, and he then explained what my friends had told him...while we were waiting for the food, the 1st thing he does is order a bottle of wine, my 1st thoughts u havent changed, he offered to come for the scan, be the daddy etc, yet it would of been so easy to of gone back, as even now theres still a flicker, but it would of been for the wrong reasons. I never saw him again after that ngt.

Things worked out for the better, I did meet a really nice guy when dd was 2, (2004), I'm still in touch with him as friends, although still single, but I know I made the right decision.

I know it hurts like hell, but honestly in time ur heart mends xx

Buffythedebtslayer

I am abit overwhelmed by all your kind words. thank you, you don't know how much they mean.

I have moved furniture. Had a few wobbly stare at phone type moments but have generally been distracted by fixing tv aerials and how many CD's I have..... and I phoned my wonderful best friend.

I am off to bed in my newly arranged room, need to finish up a few bits in the morning but then it will be school reports ago go. the room should look pretty cool too.

thank you again, how strangers can lift your spirits its quite amazing

((((((((((((hugs for you all )))))))))))))))