What would you do?

galvanizersbaby

pinkshoes wrote: »

Perhaps it's not a power trip, and that he's either jealous of the whole partner/baby situation (does he have a g/f or kids??), OR perhaps he's terrified about having a baby in the house, being woken up with it screaming at night, and having the house taken over with baby things, hence is behaving oddly.

To be fair I thought this as if I were the landlord having lodgers with a newborn would be a no no for me (not cos I don't like kids I've 2 of my own probably why I wouldn't want to live in the same house as a newborn again!)
However Lincsdan has already told him they will be moving out before the baby is due so looks like we will have to fear the worst here

floss2

Look at the following: http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/advice_topics/families_and_relationships/housing_rights_during_pregnancy

and also look on the other pages on their website for advice.

You really need to tell the housing registers that your are expecting the baby as soon as possible.

pinkshoes

lincsdan86 wrote: »

He is single with no children and to be honest i cant remember the last time he had a gf but his situation shudnt have a bearing on what he is trying to do. If it is then he is worse then I thought he was. He works nights so baby crying at night wouldnt be a problem and partner isnt likely to be in during the day.
Where have you seen these places for £300/month? I couldnt find any. I am always lookin on rightmove for places

Babies do tend to take over the house though, no matter how hard you try, so maybe this could be part of it?

The places at £300/month were much further out of Lincoln, but I'm presuming as you have a car, this would be an option? A 1 bed flat in Lincoln itself is around £400/month, like this one:
http://www.rightmove.co.uk/viewdetails-6707350.rsp?pa_n=1&tr_t=rent

But if you were willing to live a bit further north, like Market Rasen (on the train line to Lincoln), then you could rent a 2 bed terrace for £340/month http://www.rightmove.co.uk/viewdetails-18704962.rsp?pa_n=1&tr_t=rent

It just depends on where you want to live.

January20

Would you parents not be able to lend you some money to pay for a deposit? what about your partner's parents or family?

lincsdan86

With my partner working in retford and me also getting a job in retford (maybe) then think we wud be looking in the retford area for a house so we will keep looking. I dont really want to be asking my parents for money and my partners parents hardly have enough money for themselves let alone us.

Pssst

dont think your bro is being intentionally nasty. I suspect though that he feels a bit threatened by the possibility of your expanding family in his house. He is worried that you are all becoming a liability whereas previously,he could tolerate you both and get himself altra income too !

He is perfectly within his rights to want his house back and i think you should take the hint and sort yourselves out asap.

Do you really want to be under his roof for much longer?

Best to move out asap and maintain good family relations. after all he has no responsibility for you.

*Louise*

I think he is against writing the letter because he can't be bothered.

Type it up for him so he just has to sign it.

lincsdan86

Pssst wrote: »

dont think your bro is being intentionally nasty. I suspect though that he feels a bit threatened by the possibility of your expanding family in his house. He is worried that you are all becoming a liability whereas previously,he could tolerate you both and get himself altra income too !

He is perfectly within his rights to want his house back and i think you should take the hint and sort yourselves out asap.

Do you really want to be under his roof for much longer?

Best to move out asap and maintain good family relations. after all he has no responsibility for you.

Why would he think that, we have already said that we would be out before the baby is born, as we dont want to be bring up our child in his house! I no he is perfectly within his rights, but does he have the right to cause a pregnant women increasing amounts of stress?

I have typed the letter up last night and i will try to get him to sign it tonight.

floss2

When is your baby due?
Have you been in touch with the Homeless department for where you live yet?
Have you told the Housing Registers that you have applied to that your partner is pregnant yet? This is IMPORTANT as it will CHANGE YOUR POINTS / BANDING because of the pregnancy.

I appreciate that you are planning to look for private rental but you should tellt he regsiters about the pregnancy as it will alter your points level which may enable you to get accomodation.

lincsdan86

Baby is due 21st December
Yes I have been in touch with the homeless department, hence the need for this letter to say that we will be becoming houseless in 28 or so days or something
Yes I have told the housing registers about the pregnancy, they have a copy of the MATb1 on file.