What would you do?

galvanizersbaby

I think you need to sit down and have a serious chat with your brother re what is happening and what will happen when baby arrives.

To be fair to your brother there are not that many people who would be crazy about sharing a house with a newborn - has this been discussed already/beforehand?
However not that many brothers would actually throw their own flesh and blood out on the streets.
I think communication with your brother if at all poss is the best way to go here.

Then perhaps if you reach an agreement he will sign such a letter required by your local council to at least get your name on a housing list of some sort.

lincsdan86

specialK wrote: »

A letter from him will set the ball rolling. Why is he against giving you a letter?

Just to give you some back ground on my dear brother.

I was in a car accident on christmas day and my car was a complete write off but we managed to get some parts off of it which he later sold on ebay saying that they didnt fetch much and after fees he owed me about £20 when really they sold well and in fact he owed us £50-60.

I think he is against it because there isnt anything really in it for him. honestly that is what i believe.

lincsdan86

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I think you need to sit down and have a serious chat with your brother re what is happening and what will happen when baby arrives.

To be fair to your brother there are not that many people who would be crazy about sharing a house with a newborn - has this been discussed already/beforehand?
However not that many brothers would actually throw their own flesh and blood out on the streets.
I think communication with your brother if at all poss is the best way to go here.

Then perhaps if you reach an agreement he will sign such a letter required by your local council to at least get your name on a housing list of some sort.

He knows that we are looking and we have said that we want to be out before christmas when the baby is due.

Idiophreak

agree with GB, above..the first point of call is chatting to your brother - see if there's anything unhappy about you can sort out, that kinda thing...and tell him that you're unhappy about the instability you have there - and that you'd at least like a minimum notice period.

galvanizersbaby

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I think he is against it because there isnt anything really in it for him. honestly that is what i believe.[/quote]

But if he really wanted you out it would be in his best interests to write the letter wouldn't it?!

Perhaps you are right - he is just on some sort of a power trip - assumably he is used to the rent you are paying him though?!

Think perhaps you should contact citzens advice lincsdan - there must be other organisations who will try and help and advise

specialK

Well I would definately be doing everything I could to get out of there.
I would not wait for things to turn nasty, I'm sure they will. It sounds as though he is taking advantage on your situation and as I said, maybe he is looking for more??

Just tell him, you will be taking this route, with or without his help. I would really go all out with this, you don't need the stress of it all.

Just tell the HA that you are really scared of being out on the street as the tension is really bad at home. Tell them given your situation you are really scared etc.

It does look like your brother is out for himself, he is seeing this baby as another lodger and has a price on it IMO. Maybe when the baby comes along he will change his mind, but it means you living in uncertainty for the time being?

lincsdan86

I will ring the CA this afternoon and i will try and speak to him and get him to sign a letter that I have prepared for him. I want to get this sorted cos if we are going to be moving I want to have some time to settle in before the new one arrives. It is going to be another interesting christmas. at least this year it will be a nice present.

lincsdan86

He probably is looking for more but we cant afford it and i dont think the situation warrents it at the minute cos he has not consideration for us, bills avnt gone up by tht much since we have been there and we are using a room which he never used in the first place.

I have expressed by concerns to my parents but they are just used to the way he is and try to talk to him but he doesnt listen, it is like he lives in his own little world.

pinkshoes

Perhaps it's not a power trip, and that he's either jealous of the whole partner/baby situation (does he have a g/f or kids??), OR perhaps he's terrified about having a baby in the house, being woken up with it screaming at night, and having the house taken over with baby things, hence is behaving oddly.

As lodgers you really don't have many rights.

I'd start saving as hard as possible. In Lincoln and surrounding area, you can rent a 1 bed flat or terrace for around £300/month, so you'd only need say £450 for the deposit. It wouldn't be MUCH more. Have a look on rightmove.co.uk at what you can rent.

lincsdan86

He is single with no children and to be honest i cant remember the last time he had a gf but his situation shudnt have a bearing on what he is trying to do. If it is then he is worse then I thought he was. He works nights so baby crying at night wouldnt be a problem and partner isnt likely to be in during the day.
Where have you seen these places for £300/month? I couldnt find any. I am always lookin on rightmove for places