on low income - cant afford dentist - is this right?

dmg24

Kai'sMummy wrote: »

I don't know what happens where you live, but in my town, if you don't have a dentist, there is a surgery - commonly reffered to as "the emergency dentist" that everyone goes to.....if you call any dentist in the town and can't get on their list, they tell you to go there......this is all I meant. Why the attitude? "the clue is in the name...blah blah"...I take it you want me to feel stupid? Well I'm sorry but I don't! We are going to the "emergency" dentist as we have an appointment, they know my b.f's situation and are happy to see him.

No, I don't want you to abuse the system.

phantom9999

Hope everything went ok at the dentist. Once your b.f has got his immediate dental problem sorted out, he should get on the waiting list for a dentist asap - when my oh signed up it was a 3 month wait for the initial check up.

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Kai'sMummy

Toothsmith, you are right, there are far more problems than just his teeth, but although I would love to help with the rest of them, they are not really for me to get involved. To answer your questions though, social services are well aware of his sister and the problems she has caused for her four young boys (3 are now early teens and as you can imagine, are acting out against what she has done to the family). The fathers of these boys are either in prison or being useless individuals outside of it......so no help there then! He hasn't looked in to the carer side of things, perhaps it is something I will find out about for him.
I realise that I may have come accross a bit 'tetchy' in some of my replies, but I just couldnt believe that some would choose to judge if they had no help to offer. Fair enough, I didn't explain his circumstances fully, but it was my first post and I just sat down and started typing before thinking about what I wanted to say, although what I did say was enough info as far as I was concerned. Several people came up with helpful ideas / pointers, based only on that.
Anyway, he has had his initial appointment now, a giant step for him - believe me! And so from now his teeth (and his life!) will probably be a lot better....:j

mouseymousey99

Hope it all works out Kai'sMum. Please don't judge everyone on a few 'duff' replies it happens here as in life. I think sometimes its hard as what you write doesn't always sound the same as if you were chatting to someone - if you see what I mean? You do get lots of really good advice here.
When you do come here most people are anxious or troubled in some way, and you have to make allowances for that. You will always get the Daily Mail readers attitude to life - but that's life's rich tapestry! (Come to think of it I'm a Daily Mail reader at the moment - they have a Christmas coupon offer on for M&S).
Best wishes

blue_monkey_2

Hi Kai's Mummy,

I don't know what more to add about the dentist but if your bf parents have emphasema (sorry, sp) then can they claim DLA? If so then your bf would be eligable for carers allowance.

I know there is a lot more going on that it is not for us to get involved in but if your bf cannot work because he is caring for his parents because they have this condition then it is certainly worth following up.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople/FinancialSupport/DG_10011731

Carers allowance is a seperate claim after/if his parents get awarded it.

Good luck, let us know how things go with the dentist won't you. If there was a police report about the attack then he should try the criminal injuries claim - hopefully he will be able to get enough to pay for his teeth to be done.

I've not been for years either. I hate the dentist as I am terrified, I gag when they put stuff in my mouth too. I have to have childrens sized xray things - and even they make me gag!! I had to go for a root canal when DS was 6 months old and I was so exhausted I FELL ASLEEP and woke with the dentist clattering around!! I was asleep for about half an hour. I bet it was the easiest root canal they ever did!! I still LOL about this!!

tom9980

you can only claim carers allowance if you earn less than £95 a week or am i wrong?

blue_monkey_2

Yes, it's £95 a week earnings but sounds like OP bf could do an hour less at work and be at home with his parents for the extra hour instead then.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/CaringForSomeone/MoneyMatters/DG_10012522

snowqueen555

I think go to citizens advice or something, maybe you can get more income through benefits etc, child support for a 'single parent' and stuff like that?

Kai'sMummy

snowqueen555 wrote: »

I think go to citizens advice or something, maybe you can get more income through benefits etc, child support for a 'single parent' and stuff like that?

Thanks Snowqueen, that would probably be a good start - although just to be clear, my boyfriend doesn't have any children of his own - my little lad is pre-school age, and I have been with my b.f 18 months. He makes a great father figure, and I think that we will move in together eventually, it's just neither of us wanted to rush into anything (a mistake I learned from shortly after becoming Kai'sMummy):o lol!!

snowqueen555

not of his own, but is he the legal guardian of them? If so, and he is a single parent of four children, I think maybe he is entitled to some help. Something worth looking up I guess, I htink he needs to start living in some secure housing, moving about and stuff is stressful?