Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

Hi miro!:hello:
How are you angel? Is the cold finally in retreat, bless you, hunnie?
I read your reply...

miro wrote:

Tiff and Amber.............:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Well, I said I'd be back for you.
Ohhh miro hunnie -

PURRRRR!
Don't worry miro - I'll give you a head start hun!:eek:
Hope you're feeling better soon.

Now just what was it I was supposed to be doing?!...Oh yeah - my medication!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Jo_R_2

Lovely post about the counselling Tiff for shaz. Really positive and helpful. :T

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok,Good Luck with the councelling Shaz,hope all goes well for you I have it and it really helps me no end to understand myself better and to get on with my life too

Have a lovely day everyone,as usual love the Jokes AB,keep them coming!


*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Sazbo

Tiff wrote: »

All the above is based purely on my experiences, and on those of other people I know who have been through counselling. You've got nothing to lose sweetheart.;) ...And after all, we can always blame sazzy for everything!:D

Hey, I heard that, tiffy hun! But yes, feel free to blame me - I'm used to it by now;):D xx

Just wanted to stay good luck with the counselling shaz sweetheart - I'll be thinking of you :kisses3: I remember how I felt before my first session - absolutely scared stiff lol - but I won't bore all my dear friends on here yet again with how much I think counselling has changed my life:rolleyes: Tiff's observations about counselling are spot on, as usual:rolleyes::D In my experience it's not been easy - it takes courage and nor is it a quick fix.

It is a safe space for you to talk about whatever you wish to. I think for me, just hearing someone say that to me was healing in itself, y'know? It requires trust, but as Tiff says, trust doesn't happen over night (and nor should it). Give it time hun. Speaking for myself, it is so worth it.

Good luck shaz hun :T

Have a good day everyone :wave:

Much love to you all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxxxxx

shazrobo

thanks everyone for wishing me well, and for the kind advice tiff, was emotionally draining, and ended up in tears, but was good to get some things out into the open, things which i had kept inside for many many years, as well as things from the recent past.
am relaxing with my choccie bar as i type, i feel like i've earned it
hugs all
shaz xxx

fairydawn

Hi all,I feel like pants :rudolf: are playing up. (am trying to do some crafts.):rotfl:
So tired at the moment have tried relaxation tapes.
Hi eveyone hope you are keeping ok.
Tiff thank for tne roll call .
Katie hi hope you are still enjoying's Mum's lunches x
Anni hope you are wellx
absolutebounderthank you for the jokes love them.

Hope everyone else is coping
D x

budget_budd

Thank you everyone for your kind words, I was having a bad day. Lots of those at the moment. I'm thinking I could write a diary and see the change in my mood from high to low. I wonder if I have bipolar? No-one ever mentioned it before. Anyways I am supposed to be doing a thought diary for my psychologist (sp) so I have some good automatic negative ones for that anyways! I am missing my appointments at the moment.

I am still struggling with the try and fail thing sorry absolutebounder but if I never try anything I won't ever achieve anything?

I can't believe I still haven't sat down and worked out our debt and monthly budget, I just to scared to look at the figures there in black and white. Next on my list though. Just feels like so much to do and not enough time. I know I should just get on with i though.

My anxiety is coming back may be due to going back to work and having to face the real world again, because Im not in control 24/7. Im also leaving my boys and they aren't too happy about it! bless em.

CCstar I feel a bit of an outsider to but the people on here are really friendly and don't intentionally ignore anyone, and I noticed you said you moved to Dorset, thats where I am!

absolutebounder

budget_budd wrote: »

I am still struggling with the try and fail thing sorry absolutebounder but if I never try anything I won't ever achieve anything?

The Law of Reversed Effect is simply that the harder you try to do something the more likely it is that you will fail. This is not to be confused with persistence. It is not the more your try to do a thing it is the harder you try to do a thing that will result in failure.

There is a reason this failure will take place and that is that our conscious minds work in a way that it executes doing things. Our unconscious mind acts on the things we decide to do and works out the navigation of how to actually do them. For instance you decide to read a book, you read the words consciously but your unconscious deciphers them and adds the emotions and feelings that accompany the words.

This is important to understand as it is the basis of why the Law of Reversed Effect works. The Law of Reversed Effect works because our conscious mind is trying to do something that we would normally use our unconscious mind for. The conscious mind works on the simple things, things that only require 5 – 9 steps to accomplish. The unconscious mind makes the more complicated functions of life run more smoothly as it can handle much more complicated procedures.

It is only when the conscious mind starts to get into the unconscious mind’s territory that failure begins to take place. When the conscious mind starts to interfere with the fluid motions of the unconscious the result is failure

Think about it If you know you can do something you just do it but if you are not sure you contemplate failure and try. Yes to acheive new things you have to embrace change but just get out there and do it

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I have had a good day today,didnt do much apart from cleaning bathroom and kitchen and seeing my parents,then went out for a bit to get some bread.Glad your 1st councelling session went well Shaz,you definately earned that choccie bar

I will chat tomorrow

Night! Night!


love and light,

Katie xxx

absolutebounder

as many of you will know i think communication is important for a good relationship. Todays funny is about communication and is only funny because it is true.


TRANSLATING WOMEN'S ENGLISH:

Yes = No

No = Yes

Maybe = No

We need = I want

I'm sorry = You'll be sorry

We need to talk = I need to complain

Sure, go ahead = I don't want you to

Is my butt fat? = Tell me I'm beautiful

Do what you want = You'll pay for this later

I'm not upset = Of course I'm upset, you moron!

Are you listening to me? = Too late, you're dead

You have to learn to communicate = Just agree with me

Be romantic, turn out the lights = I hate my thighs

You're so .. manly = You need a shave and you sweat a lot

Do you love me? = I'm going to ask for something expensive

It's your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now

You're certainly attentive tonight = Is sex all you ever think about?

I'll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV

How much do you love me? = I did something today that you're really not going to like

TRANSLATING MEN'S ENGLISH:

I'm hungry = I'm hungry

I'm sleepy = I'm sleepy

I'm tired = I'm tired

Nice dress = Nice cleavage!

I love you = Let's have sex now

I'm bored = Do you want to have sex?

What's wrong? = I guess sex tonight is out of the question

I love you too = OK, I said it, can we have sex now?

May I have this dance? = I'd eventually like to have sex with you

Can I call you sometime? = I'd eventually like to have sex with you

Do you want to go to a movie? = I'd eventually like to have sex with you

Can I take you out to dinner? = I'd eventually like to have sex with you

Will you marry me? = I want to make it illegal for you to have sex with other men

You look tense, let me give you a massage = I want to have sex with you in
the next 10 minutes

Let's talk = I'm trying to impress you by showing that I am a deep person and maybe then you'd like to have sex with me

I don't think those shoes go with that outfit = I'm gay