Depression Support Thread

budget_budd

Some more advice, please contact union (if you have one) or HR department and ask if there is anything you can do, even if short term. I asked about constructive dismissal but was told thats very hard to prove, but there maybe something. Discrimination? Bullying and Harrassement?

I think the hardest thing for people to grasp when I talk about this is that my wage is needed to pay our mortgage and yes, we can cut back etc and try making money elsewhere but if I lose this job,we as a family lose half our income and it would not be possible to make it up elsewhere. Also if I get into financial difficulties I am in danger of losing my career (Im an Accountant).

I was not in any debt before having my second child, and as a result of work dragging its heels I took unpaid maternity and as a result we owe a smallish amount of money, but I need to get sorting it.

I really wish I knew the answer, but then if I did I wouldn't be here now would I?

I will say this site is brilliant for money saving ideas and the people here are nice too.

One last thing enter competitions, I have won amongst other things, a holiday to Butlins, £250 and an iPod shuffle. Im awaiting a big win!

Diamond78

Hello Everyone,
I dont know why posts are being deleted but I dont feel that comfortable posting on here anymore. Either there is a hitch on mse or the posts are being deleted. Hope everyone is well and ok, sending you all love, hugs and kisses.xx

Diamond78

budget_budd wrote: »

Hi again, I know I am an eratic poster, that kinds of sums me up, I am having a major panic today as the time has come for me to return to work (next week) after 13 months, although I have not really been at work properly since before my first child 2005. I am so dreading it. I barely leave the house. They have phoned me, I can't pick up the phone to them.

My question is how do you manage things? If I don't return to work we lose our house, we won't be able to provide for the boys. life gets even worse! Im in a vicious circle

Im sorry to hear what you are going through. I cant advise you or say anything that will make you feel better as Im not in the right frame of mind at the moment but want you to know that Im thinking of you and sending you hugs. Maybe you could chat to your gp and try speaking to citizens advice and see what they can advise you. Sorry Im no help.xx

budget_budd

Thanks for the support Diamond78, I am resigned to the fact that I will be returning to work and I am going to try to make it work, in the short term at least and then when I feel stronger I will look for a new job or maybe start my own business. I am feeling a bit better this evening, my mood swings are scary! I am going to try and take it one step/ one day at a time and I am determined to get there. (at the moment)

Please take care of yourself

Thank you to everyone! I am sure you have played a part in making me feel more positive.

Diamond78

budget_budd wrote: »

Thanks for the support Diamond78, I am resigned to the fact that I will be returning to work and I am going to try to make it work, in the short term at least and then when I feel stronger I will look for a new job or maybe start my own business. I am feeling a bit better this evening, my mood swings are scary! I am going to try and take it one step/ one day at a time and I am determined to get there. (at the moment)

Please take care of yourself

Thank you to everyone! I am sure you have played a part in making me feel more positive.

Awww thats good hun, you are feeling positive. I know its hard sometimes but you will get there, just keep saying to yourself that you will get through this and you will succseed. Thats exactly what you have to do, take one step at a time.
As for the mood swings, I suffer with them to. But now I have learnt to live with it as anything or nothing at all can trigger it off. Its not nice but it does get easier to manage.

You take care too, hugs xx

Miroslav

It's always hard losing money. To me, losing £30 and having £56 p/w or whatever it is, will just about kill me off. That will barely cover my weekly bills, let alone food. I have my Rent/Council Tax paid for because I am unemployed, but aside that, I have to pay all my utility bills. Flatmate puts in half of everything, but £56 for Elec, Gas, Water, Food etc....

I will have to work. I live very basically as it is. My luxury these days is coming online for 15 minutes a day and using a little more electricity

That said, even though I live very basic (cheap nasty food ) and have no social life (I can't afford one!) i'm sure I could cut down even more. Getting rid of the internet, taking the lightbulbs out etc etc is what it may come down too. Too many debts I've often thought about just ending it all, but I shall not just yet as my flatmate needs support and my poor little cats have a couple of years left in them. It's ironic, i've just seen a TV show where 2 people attempted suicide because of debts and it does happen



It's all about balancing - debts, mortgages, working so not unwell and eating healthily. Just like life, it's a tough battle.

Best of luck in whatever you choose.

Diamond - I don't post here that often these days. I'm not sure what is happening re: posts etc or QWB. I did notice when I popped on the other day that the old thread was closed and everyone was being told what they could and couldn't say. To a point, it's a good idea, but when you go into discussion time or various other posts I have seen on this board and see some of the filth that is spoken, you can't help but think some people are considered more important and some of the mods/board guides are a little trigger happy.

It's not okay to ask someone which pharmacy sells xxxxxx, but it's okay to tell someone they're stupid and that they should get over not being able to have kids and it's tough (like I have seen this evening)

This site is going downhill - no wonder so many people are leaving.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

budget_budd Could you perhaps become a self-employed accountant and work from home instead?

Diamond78

Miroslav wrote: »

It's always hard losing money. To me, losing £30 and having £56 p/w or whatever it is, will just about kill me off. That will barely cover my weekly bills, let alone food. I have my Rent/Council Tax paid for because I am unemployed, but aside that, I have to pay all my utility bills. Flatmate puts in half of everything, but £56 for Elec, Gas, Water, Food etc....

I will have to work. I live very basically as it is. My luxury these days is coming online for 15 minutes a day and using a little more electricity

That said, even though I live very basic (cheap nasty food ) and have no social life (I can't afford one!) i'm sure I could cut down even more. Getting rid of the internet, taking the lightbulbs out etc etc is what it may come down too. Too many debts I've often thought about just ending it all, but I shall not just yet as my flatmate needs support and my poor little cats have a couple of years left in them. It's ironic, i've just seen a TV show where 2 people attempted suicide because of debts and it does happen



It's all about balancing - debts, mortgages, working so not unwell and eating healthily. Just like life, it's a tough battle.

Best of luck in whatever you choose.

Diamond - I don't post here that often these days. I'm not sure what is happening re: posts etc or QWB. I did notice when I popped on the other day that the old thread was closed and everyone was being told what they could and couldn't say. To a point, it's a good idea, but when you go into discussion time or various other posts I have seen on this board and see some of the filth that is spoken, you can't help but think some people are considered more important and some of the mods/board guides are a little trigger happy.

It's not okay to ask someone which pharmacy sells xxxxxx, but it's okay to tell someone they're stupid and that they should get over not being able to have kids and it's tough (like I have seen this evening)

This site is going downhill - no wonder so many people are leaving.

Hiya, its nice to see you posting, I havent seen you on here for ages, I was away for several weeks but even before that I hadnt seen you. I missed your britney posts. She is back on form and will be back soon.I heard madonna was going to have her on tour and get trousersnake(justin timberlake) on with her too.
Please dont think negative, I know we all do, not just sometimes but a lot. Your going through a hard time at the moment but it will pass. It just takes time and patience. Could you maybe call or visit the citizens advice and see if you can get any help?When I was pregnant with my son,I had debts going into thousands of pounds as everything was in my name when me and spermdonor split up. I was refered to money consumer advice and as I was not working they wrote letters to all the companies and bank that I owed money and arranged the minimum that I could pay.Even if you offer to pay £1 a month back you are still offering to pay them so they cant harrass you like some companies do. If you get an advisor they could try and apply for more benefits for you too.
I watched a programme earlier about mums who had given their kids up for adoption, it was heart breaking and reduced me to tears. When I feel really stressed and under presssure and I watched shows like that, It makes me cry more which is kind of a release but then leaves me more depressed, so I cant win either way lol.
I dont know why posts are being deleted either and not sure whats happened with qwb but hopefully he will be back soon.
Hugs xxx

Miroslav

Diamond78 wrote: »

Hiya, its nice to see you posting, I havent seen you on here for ages, I was away for several weeks but even before that I hadnt seen you. I missed your britney posts. She is back on form and will be back soon.I heard madonna was going to have her on tour and get trousersnake(justin timberlake) on with her too.
Please dont think negative, I know we all do, not just sometimes but a lot. Your going through a hard time at the moment but it will pass. It just takes time and patience. Could you maybe call or visit the citizens advice and see if you can get any help?When I was pregnant with my son,I had debts going into thousands of pounds as everything was in my name when me and spermdonor split up. I was refered to money consumer advice and as I was not working they wrote letters to all the companies and bank that I owed money and arranged the minimum that I could pay.Even if you offer to pay £1 a month back you are still offering to pay them so they cant harrass you like some companies do. If you get an advisor they could try and apply for more benefits for you too.
I watched a programme earlier about mums who had given their kids up for adoption, it was heart breaking and reduced me to tears. When I feel really stressed and under presssure and I watched shows like that, It makes me cry more which is kind of a release but then leaves me more depressed, so I cant win either way lol.
I dont know why posts are being deleted either and not sure whats happened with qwb but hopefully he will be back soon.
Hugs xxx

:wave:

I posted about 10 days ago for the first time in 4 months and tonight is the first time since. I hadn't seen any of your posts when I returned, so tonight is the first time in a while

The problem with Britney is that a disaster is just arounhd the corner. Mentally she's a child, so thinks like one. Everything is material and she'll just end up with some other guy who needs a trophy/fame/money

She's cancelled all her releases until next year now. I'm not keen on her teaming back up with Madonna and Timberlake. I don't believe in going back and that is going back. She needs to look forward now as the past has caused her the problems and she doesn't need to revisit them!

Well, it's been a negative life, with very little joy. I just have no energy anymore and i'm just getting angry all the time.

CAB won't help as flatmate gets help and because we live together, they say conflict of interests. I may have to contact another organisation though as i'm struggling.

How would I get more benefits? I believe I have all I am entitled too. I just know I will fail next weeks medical

I couldn't watch shows like the one you watched. Having lost a daughter, I couldn't watch people having to give up children

Strange goings on around here right now. Everytime I thank someone, my page refreshes or takes me to the top of the page

Miroslav

Time to hop in the bath.

I have to go to 'work' tomorrow and the least I can do is smell alright

You never know, I might meet a desperate woman :rolleyes: