**Daily Chat Thread *7th Aug 08*

Indebt1984

i work tuesday, wednesday saturday & sunday he work monday to friday. i work 13hrs days at time. no time for each other and i do hate it. but it life at times.

Marky74

Have you talked to him about how you feel? Us men might be great but we are not mind readers, (although a lot of women think we are).

No one ever stays the same, and we all feel we want to change.
What would you like to do instead?

I think i am asking too many questions?

Indebt1984

8 years in september

Marky74

A few years ago, Mrs 74 and me had similar difficulties..

She worked for a gym and did evenings and weekends and I did Monday to friday. so we only say each othe a few hours a week. it nearly finished us.

You said you are after a new job, can't you do that, and see if the situation improves. the only thing that can help a relation ship is time and effort.

Indebt1984

Have you talked to him about how you feel? Us men might be great but we are not mind readers, (although a lot of women think we are).

No one ever stays the same, and we all feel we want to change.
What would you like to do instead?

I think i am asking too many questions?

Cant reallyask him cos i never get any time with him. he work 8am-9pm today tonight he come home and dinner then bed

I want to change my job but he say no cos he worry bout money so dont do it.

Lucifa73

Indebt1984 wrote: »

i think myfeeling changed cos i dot get to spend much time with him & i feel maybe i dont need him just falling part with not being together.

Do you think you could talk to him about this? Maybe he's feeling the drift too. If you talk about it you might decide to try spending more time together to see if that rekindles things?

If he already thinks you're being strange his mind will be spinning trying to work out what's wrong and it'll make it harder for you both in the long run.

Marky74

I can see why you feel trapped. Not spending time with some one and him not wanting to change your job.

Something has to change hun, or you will gorw further apart. Mrs 74 took a less paying job so we could fix our relationship. as there are more important things than money.

Indebt1984

should i text him saying we need to talk tonight, then he might listen.

Marky74

if you want, but the !!!! always falls out of my world when the Mrs sends me a text like that.....

immoral_angeluk

I agree with Marky. A text like that will send his mind into overdrive. Why not suggest having a quiet night in instead?