Housing for pregnant 17 year old

barnaby-bear

ged1980 wrote: »

i thought it was 11 :think:

Only not allowed for the council to offer accommodation in this configuration.... if parents provide the accommodation renting privately or unable to buy a bigger house as family expands it's fine...

barnaby-bear

dedward67 wrote: »

Daughter and b/f spoke to Shelter this afternoon. They have advised that because I put an eviction date of the 30th September in the letter that was given to the council, then she should turn up at the council on the 1st October and claim homeless status. The council will then be obliged to home her somewhere (even if it's b&b temporarily). Like most parents, we don't want to kick her out at all, but we haven't a room for her and baby let alone b/f /husband to be and it's the only way council would even consider her. As per Barnaby-bear's comment, wife and I have both discussed helping bringing up the baby but not something we feel we could do. Our youngest is 12 now and though we're both very early 40's, we definitely don't want to go back to babies and sleepless nights!! Baby sitting will be fine, but 24/7, no thanks!!

So how did you manage as early 40s minus 17 yr old daughter suggests this was similar.... did you live with family?

mishmash

Hiya

That myth always makes me smile.

Way back when I was a duty social worker we were always getting calls from people who were 'needing' a bigger house due to their children 'illegally' sharing a bedroom.

When I became a single mum I had to live with my parents with me and the 3 kids sharing a room for 18 months til I got a council house. Not ideal but needs must, my parents were good enough to put us up and help out with the little ones. I am sure it was difficult for them.

Mish

dedward67

barnaby-bear wrote: »

So how did you manage as early 40s minus 17 yr old daughter suggests this was similar.... did you live with family?

No, we got married shortly before we were 22 and were married for 23 months before our daughter was born. We only had a 1 bed flat at the time, but we had accomodation well before the patter of tiny feet!!

cazzybabe

dedward67 wrote: »

Daughter and b/f spoke to Shelter this afternoon. They have advised that because I put an eviction date of the 30th September in the letter that was given to the council, then she should turn up at the council on the 1st October and claim homeless status. The council will then be obliged to home her somewhere (even if it's b&b temporarily). Like most parents, we don't want to kick her out at all, but we haven't a room for her and baby let alone b/f /husband to be and it's the only way council would even consider her. As per Barnaby-bear's comment, wife and I have both discussed helping bringing up the baby but not something we feel we could do. Our youngest is 12 now and though we're both very early 40's, we definitely don't want to go back to babies and sleepless nights!! Baby sitting will be fine, but 24/7, no thanks!!

PM'd you.............

Debt_Free_Chick

Phirefly wrote: »

Seems the 'urban myth' is true

I think the urban myth is that simply being pregnant gets you a council house. That is an urban myth. You have to be pregnant AND homeless to stand a chance.

Even then, you'll likely get emergency housing only, which could be a hostel or a B&B. Councils certainly don't have spare houses available, ready to house the next pregnant, homeless young woman that turns up

It could still be a long, long wait for council accommodation.

Phirefly

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

IEven then, you'll likely get emergency housing only, which could be a hostel or a B&B.

I'm curious about this. How does it work with the b&bs? Are there ones which exist soley for this eventuality or do the council just find any b&b which is free? Do b&b owners have 'no dss' policies like landlords?

barnaby-bear

mishmash wrote: »

Hiya

That myth always makes me smile.

Way back when I was a duty social worker we were always getting calls from people who were 'needing' a bigger house due to their children 'illegally' sharing a bedroom.

When I became a single mum I had to live with my parents with me and the 3 kids sharing a room for 18 months til I got a council house. Not ideal but needs must, my parents were good enough to put us up and help out with the little ones. I am sure it was difficult for them.

Mish

OK badly phrased being overcrowded will get more points with which to bid on available larger housing.... if there is any available and against people who may have more points...

mishmash

Phirefly wrote: »

I'm curious about this. How does it work with the b&bs? Are there ones which exist soley for this eventuality or do the council just find any b&b which is free? Do b&b owners have 'no dss' policies like landlords?

When I worked for a Local Authority they had a list of them, think it was based on price.

To be honest it was often very sad, I worked with lots of women -many fleeing violent partners. They would be sent miles away to a B an B, there are often no cooking facilities or washing machine. When you have kids it can be very expensive getting take outs and not great eating cold food. Paying for a laundrette and all was really tough, also the kids were often too far to go to school and the ones I saw were horrid, with lots of undesirable people.

My eldest daughter is 15, if she found herself in this position in a few years time-I don't think I could let her go to a place like that.

m

barnaby-bear

dedward67 wrote: »

No, we got married shortly before we were 22 and were married for 23 months before our daughter was born. We only had a 1 bed flat at the time, but we had accomodation well before the patter of tiny feet!!

Just wondered - hope you didn't find me too nosy.

17 is very young to be alone in a B&B with a baby and lord knows who else living there.