Housing for pregnant 17 year old

moneysavinmonkey

dedward67 wrote: »

He does live near the town centre and is prepared to walk/cycle in order to get to a job. He can't drive yet, but has been taking some lessons.

how is 21 year old son currently funding his lifestyle if he has no job - how can he afford his rent + driving lessons.

who is paying for that, will they help out with finding somewhere for them to live together?

are you worried about them coping on their own... You mentioned bf mum, but what about his dad, are they any grandparents, aunties, uncles etc who can take them in?

chopperharris

Theres plenty of btl landlords that take dss clients.If you they cant find one local then its time to look elsewhere , at least for the short term.

x.x.x.

chopperharris wrote: »

Theres plenty of btl landlords that take dss clients.If you they cant find one local then its time to look elsewhere , at least for the short term.

if its anything like my town, it is almost impossible to find any that take on dss, i have only ever seen 4 or 5

dedward67

moneysavinmonkey wrote: »

how is 21 year old son currently funding his lifestyle if he has no job - how can he afford his rent + driving lessons.

who is paying for that, will they help out with finding somewhere for them to live together?

are you worried about them coping on their own... You mentioned bf mum, but what about his dad, are they any grandparents, aunties, uncles etc who can take them in?

His housing is mainly paid by Housing benefit with the balance from his JSA. The driving lessons were paid upfront by his mother as a 21st bday present in January, so soon to end. Her b/f's dad lives separately in Manchester area, but doesn't have any spare rooms.

pinkshoes

PasturesNew wrote: »

Is it rural Lincolnshire?

HEY! I'm originally from rural Lincolnshire, and even I managed to get a job despite having no car!!

(OK, so it was a dead end job working nightshift in a box factory, but a job is a job, and beggars can't be choosers!)

x.x.x.

pinkshoes wrote: »

HEY! I'm originally from rural Lincolnshire, and even I managed to get a job despite having no car!!

(OK, so it was a dead end job working nightshift in a box factory, but a job is a job, and beggars can't be choosers!)

lol, there arent many more prospects round here nowadays...

dedward67

PasturesNew wrote: »

Is it rural Lincolnshire?

50 jobs isn't a lot. It's time he forgot about what he wants to do and literally applies for anything and everything just to prove either he can get a job, or that he can't.

A friend of mine abroad just had to apply for 150 jobs in 2 weeks to be able to put a benefits claim in. She was literally applying for everything.

Once he has a job, he can then look for somewhere to live. A 1-bed flat is fine for the first year for a baby in any case, they can move to a bigger one at some future point.


What is your daughter doing at the moment?

They didn't think this through did they? What did they think would happen? Get a free house straight away?

Yes, it's rural Lincs. They certainly didn't plan on a baby, but the precautions they took were clearly not 100% effective. Their original plans (pre pregnancy) were to both get jobs, save up some money and get married in about 2 years!!! The local clinic tried to persuade them it would be better not to have the baby, but they both remained adamant that now it had happened they wanted the baby. Unfortunately there's an urban myth that the council is always happy to hand house keys to pregnant women, so they thought that was how it would work either by ignorance or stupidity!!

chopperharris

having read through the replies , one can say their bordering on the !!!!!y.The op asked how to go about helping them be housed , not a opinion on the personailty of her stb sil , although they cowardly shy away from saying worse about her daughter which they no doubt quietly think..

Sure they are young , 21 and 17 , but two generations ago that was the norm for the non professionals .Their situation has been the same since time began, and they had plenty of options for housing and employment then .Also they were far more mature back then despite "acting" more mature today.

If the future dad cant get a job then thats the way it is , i couldnt get a job from the age of 20-22 until i got a licence too ,I bet my then fiancees parents were being "supportive" about that ....It took almost all of the benefits I was on at the time as well as paying my digs to get the thing.

I hope the guy pulls it off , the stress will be terrible on the relationship from the off and the odds are stacked against them.

Enjoy being a grandparent ,and dont interfere unless theres violence.If they end up short of cash get him to decorate , or do odd jobs for cash for family instead of giving your daughter it for nowt.

lastly congratulations.

PasturesNew

dedward67 wrote: »

Yes, it's rural Lincs. They certainly didn't plan on a baby, but the precautions they took were clearly not 100% effective. Their original plans (pre pregnancy) were to both get jobs, save up some money and get married in about 2 years!!! The local clinic tried to persuade them it would be better not to have the baby, but they both remained adamant that now it had happened they wanted the baby. Unfortunately there's an urban myth that the council is always happy to hand house keys to pregnant women, so they thought that was how it would work either by ignorance or stupidity!!

I read recently that there are half the council houses in rural areas per 1000 people than there are in towns.

In previous times, termination or adoption were the most common ways forward. It's only been the last 20-odd years or so that more people have kept babies and then the whole housing them has also come into play.

Generally, when I was that age, the boy would be banned from coming round, the girl would disappear off "gone to her aunt's", then she'd have the baby, hand it over and return home. And it wouldn't be spoken of again. So housing was rarely needed. There were also mother/baby units for those rare times somebody did choose to keep it. Apart from that, young couples would end up lodging with a family relative or friend if there wasn't room at home.

I don't suppose you're lucky enough to have a large enough garden to be able to park up a caravan for them to move into? On the drive, in the garden? Not ideal but I've known friends live in small caravans before. I had a 13 year old friend who would sleep in the tourer on the front drive in the summer because she was still sharing a bedroom with her parents. And another chap, 17, left home and was living in a 1-berth touring caravan in a pub car park. Then I had another friend who bought an unroadworthy old citroen car to live in a public car park in, then his 17 year old gf moved in.

Do you have a garage you can convert?

Just thinking outside the box, but already I've got them living in a sh4gged out car in the car park, eh! Blue sky thinking, we love you

pinkshoes

chopperharris wrote: »

having read through the replies , one can say their bordering on the !!!!!y.The op asked how to go about helping them be housed , not a opinion on the personailty of her stb sil , although they cowardly shy away from saying worse about her daughter which they no doubt quietly think.

I re-read all the replies, and think the responses have been helpful i.e. she shouldn't get her hopes up about getting council accommodation therefore it's probably a good idea to accept what's on offer, until her and her b/f can afford to rent something privately.

There's no point telling people to scream and shout for a council house when there aren't any available!!

chopperharris wrote: »

If all around you are idiots , and your at work , then you my friend are either an mp or a lord..

It's YOU'RE = YOU ARE