Housing for pregnant 17 year old

Phirefly

Premier wrote: »

You'll get fat

the horse has bolted on that one

barnaby-bear

dedward67 wrote: »

I agree wholeheartedly. Yes it's the easy option, however, it's not a decision we as parents would want to make for her as I know of many people who've gone this way and had regrets and feelings of guilt for years after. They are both firmly committed to keeping the baby and all we can do is try to support them. We get by monthly, but certainly couldn't afford to buy or rent a place for them!! The issue is where the hell they're gonna live!!! Caravan, a possible option though not great and could only fit a towing caravan on our drive. If the council really can't help, it's private accomodation only. If it comes to it me and Mrs can just afford to stump up deposit, but they'd have to pay the rent themselves and at the moment that would just be via housing benefit and JSA!

Couldn't you do the old-fashioned thing if a young mum got pregnant without a partner able to support her - the parents took the support role on and treated the kid as their own until circumstances changed... you could leave the bedroom arrangments as they are and have the baby in with you as if it was a 4th child... or could the brother and sister share (not ideal but possible)?

Flower08

Snooze wrote: »

My [strike]condolences[/strike] congratulations.



Ah yes, that urban myth. :rolleyes: Sadly it seems that all youngsters these days have got this same "idea" in their heads.

Personally I think you need to do whatever is needed to get this "idea" out of their heads and get them to wake up to the reality of their situation. They ain't gonna get a council house anytime soon because there's approx 10,000 in front of them in the queue and even if he gets a job it's gonna need to be well above NMW in order to afford a private rent and pay all the bills that will come with it, your daughter and the kid.

The kid is the important one in all this and in my opinion they should get shut of it as they don't have the "infrastructure" in place to support it (and aren't likely to for the forseeable future) and nor do they have the means/finances. I've no doubt the do-gooder's will disagree with me but, well, there you go.

Rob

:mad: I cant believe how rude you have been! The circumstances may not be ideal but offering you condolences and telling them to 'get shut of the kid' is just plain rude and pretty insensitive aswell - its a human life you are talking. Advice is being asked about housing not your opinion on what they 'should do' with the baby.

Phirefly

barnaby-bear wrote: »

Couldn't you do the old-fashioned thing if a young mum got pregnant without a partner able to support her - the parents took the support role on and treated the kid as their own until circumstances changed... you could leave the bedroom arrangments as they are and have the baby in with you as if it was a 4th child... or could the brother and sister share (not ideal but possible)?

I was thinking along the same lines in as much as the only way forward I can see if the boyfriend can't get a job is that your daughter has no option but to stay at home and you will just have to find a way to squeeze the baby in.

Is she really ready to move out, regardless of the baby? Can she look after herself let alone a child? My neice has just turned 18 and while she's mature and responsible, I can't imagine her living independently just yet.

steadysaver

x.x.x. wrote: »

lol, there arent many more prospects round here nowadays...

Its not too bad if you are further north. I am from Lincs, and when I finished Uni I was lucky enough to get a local job. Tho I was aware of the jobs available before I went to uni. And I like it around here. Its nice and peaceful in the wolds.

I used to work at a local pea factory in the summer hols too. Was a nice income. Long hours though. It has shut down now though.

Box Factory? Wasnt Lin Pac was it?

Badger_Lady

barnaby-bear wrote: »

or could the brother and sister share (not ideal but possible)?

^^ I think this bit's illegal if they're over 7 :think:

Actually I think that was a dream I had. Ignore me!

dedward67

Daughter and b/f spoke to Shelter this afternoon. They have advised that because I put an eviction date of the 30th September in the letter that was given to the council, then she should turn up at the council on the 1st October and claim homeless status. The council will then be obliged to home her somewhere (even if it's b&b temporarily). Like most parents, we don't want to kick her out at all, but we haven't a room for her and baby let alone b/f /husband to be and it's the only way council would even consider her. As per Barnaby-bear's comment, wife and I have both discussed helping bringing up the baby but not something we feel we could do. Our youngest is 12 now and though we're both very early 40's, we definitely don't want to go back to babies and sleepless nights!! Baby sitting will be fine, but 24/7, no thanks!!

ged1980

Badger_Lady wrote: »

^^ I think this bit's illegal if they're over 7 :think:

i thought it was 11 :think:

barnaby-bear

Badger_Lady wrote: »

^^ I think this bit's illegal if they're over 7 :think:

Urban myth... it's illegal for a council providing accommodation to provide housing for kids over ten of the same sex as they have to provide a certian level.... if it's privately owned/rented no problem it's not illegal to shove 15 of your kids in the same room and many people have to make do... if they are in council accommodation then doing this will make them overcrowded and entitled to points to move en masse...

Phirefly

dedward67 wrote: »

The council will then be obliged to home her

Seems the 'urban myth' is true