Housing for pregnant 17 year old

sooz

Spendless wrote: »

actually it's quite common. This is not a very technical answer, but at your fertile time you give off a 'scent' that makes you more 'desirable to males. Your body doesn't want a different female to be more 'desirable' than you, so you sync IYSWIM. I've worked in offices for years with different women and we all came on at the same time. I didn't know it remained with you after your periods had supposedly waved goodbye though- that is a shocker.:eek:

The first bit I knew. A long time ago I spent a few years in an all girls boarding school. Can you imagine the PMT?

However, I was shocked that this affected someone on the implant, who didn't normally have periods.

dedward67

Having spoken to my daughter and boyfriend at length (AGAIN!), I don't think either of them want a life on benefits. The pregnancy certainly wasn't planned in any shape or form, but it's happened and as a family we're helping them deal with it. Having been married for almost 19 years, one thing I've learnt is that when things get tough, you have to face them head on until you find some kind of solution and not just walk away and give up. Thankfully that has helped us build a strong relationship when it comes to problems like this. It seems as far as job hunting goes, it's more of a confidence matter than a can't be ar*ed matter. I have encouraged him to try for double glazing companies locally as he has experience as a fitter's assistant having worked with his dad. There is also now the possibility they may move up North. His mother is moving in the next few weeks and will now be renting on old 3 floor house (as opposed to a standard semi) and has given them the option of having a floor to themselves. That being the case, he would probably work with his dad (who lives there currently) and resume double glazed window fitting. It will certainly be a very tough one for us if this happens, as Manchester is about 160 miles from us, so having our little girl (yea I know she's 17!) that far away will feel very uncomfortable.

LillyJ

dedward67 wrote: »

Having spoken to my daughter and boyfriend at length (AGAIN!), I don't think either of them want a life on benefits. The pregnancy certainly wasn't planned in any shape or form, but it's happened and as a family we're helping them deal with it. Having been married for almost 19 years, one thing I've learnt is that when things get tough, you have to face them head on until you find some kind of solution and not just walk away and give up. Thankfully that has helped us build a strong relationship when it comes to problems like this. It seems as far as job hunting goes, it's more of a confidence matter than a can't be ar*ed matter. I have encouraged him to try for double glazing companies locally as he has experience as a fitter's assistant having worked with his dad. There is also now the possibility they may move up North. His mother is moving in the next few weeks and will now be renting on old 3 floor house (as opposed to a standard semi) and has given them the option of having a floor to themselves. That being the case, he would probably work with his dad (who lives there currently) and resume double glazed window fitting. It will certainly be a very tough one for us if this happens, as Manchester is about 160 miles from us, so having our little girl (yea I know she's 17!) that far away will feel very uncomfortable.

Ah I am so pleased this may all have a happy ending! That seems the perfect solution for everyone.

Don't worry about her being away from home at 17, I moved not long after I was 17 about 100 miles from home, and although I didn't have a baby, I also didn't have any problems. It is a distance that is easily doable in an emergency as well.

Wish your daughter luck with her pregnancy and hope you all can enjoy looking forward to a very exciting time next year!

neverdespairgirl

Premier wrote: »

Don't you think earning £70k per year for part time work is not 'huge'?

How about those earning in excess of £1million per year for full time work? (yes all companies/self employed have overheads to pay), but this is the true reflection of what they charge. Is that not a huge fee?

It's all a far cry from the initial £46 including travel costs and before deductions for 12.5 hours work (including 3 hours travel travel) that you originally implied.

I don't work part-time, I work full-time.

I don't do criminal legal aid work any more (as I said, more than once. I used to. Now I do immigration and a little immigration-related crime). The criminal grad fees are exactly as I stated.

I initially said:

The first year I worked as a barrister, I ended up earning about £11k.

I also pointed out that was from April 2002. It's now 2008, and I'm fortunate enough to enjoy the work I do in an area which is higher paid than crime. I also do a lot of judical review / Court of Appeal work, which is more highly paid than Asylum & Immigration Tribunal cases, on the whole

neverdespairgirl

Premier wrote: »

My issue was that I was picked up on a suggestion that barristers charge "huge fees" when I was talking about the costs that would be incurred if they were dealing with a case in the small claims court (especially as such costs are not recoverable)

Furthemore, we were being misled with examples of barristers working 12.5hours for £46 (from which they also had to fund the travel cost itself - which took a total of 3 hours) - yes £46 for 12.5 hours work!!! - that's far less than NMW.

Now, the facts have been exposed for people to judge for themselves how much a barrister really costs/earns.

You aren't half mendacious. You talked about "huge fees" in relation to the small claims track in the County Court. I pointed out that barristers (very junior, often pupils) who do such work don't charge or get paid "huge fees". I gave the example of grad fees, and a link to the scheme.

You asked about my work, which is a very specialised area of immigration law, and I gave my hourly rate for Court of Appeal and Judicial Review work. Which has sod-all to do with the small claims track of the County Court!

neverdespairgirl

beyond_skint wrote: »

The thing is council houses are on offer, why shouldn't they go to people who are entitled to them, instead of every tom !!!!!! and harry from other countries. :mad:

Tom, !!!!!! and Harry from other countries don't just arrive and get council houses!

neverdespairgirl

beyond_skint wrote: »

But there will always be people who will abuse any system. Look at asylums going to 10 different job centres with 10 different id's getting 10 lots of income, making thousands a week, now they are the ones that need shooting first. But they are getting away with it left right and centre.

What is an "asylum"?

The vast majority of asylum seekers can neither work nor claim normal benefits. They get NASS instead, which runs off Home Office data bases incl. fingerprints.

bo_drinker

Send em back then, they are working the black economy again just like Thatchers days. All part of what is dragging this country down. They can seek assylum a lot closer to home, but no they come all this way.........I wonder why. Because of what they will get eventually.

beyond_skint

MissyMAD wrote: »

Its not going to be a fun world for the baby when mum and dad are not working and not able to give the baby all it needs.

I would never dare get myself into that position at her age - it was the worst thing I could imagine and the thought of telling my parents well that was enough to stop any accidents happening !

Well aren't you the sensible one. Who knows what's around the corner. Lets see how you handle things then.:rolleyes:

beyond_skint

bubblesmoney wrote: »

even i thought it was a wind up initially but later after seeing other threads by the same person over a longer term i.e. threads about au pairs, etc all the old threads seem to tie in. especially the links found by others for the same person in jehovas witnesses forum and house price crash forum etc. seems to be someone in yorkshire/lancashire in one of the smaller cities but commuting to univ in a bigger city by car / train

so now i dont think it is a wind up especially after briefly seeing some of the other threads. she seems to be a master con

What's this person to do with JW'S I'm sure she isn't one, they are the most honest people on the planet. Sorray haven't seen the thread