Housing for pregnant 17 year old

Badger_Lady

sooz wrote: »

Good grief...that would freak me out! I think you should tell anyone coming to stay with you to not visit when they are having a period - you don't want to catch it

Oh, I know - the last time was a few months ago and of course I didn't have any "equipment" in the house :rolleyes: . My Mum kept apologising because I was really uncomfortable (and emotional), but it wasn't her fault!

It did remind me of how much better I've been since "opting out" - I'd been taking for granted the fact that I'm now always level-headed and rational :rotfl:

Anyway, off-topic a bit I think! Bubbles, thank you for the sweet and unexpected compliment but I really will try anything (except cellibacy ) to avoid breeding...

Spendless

sooz wrote: »

Good grief...that would freak me out! I think you should tell anyone coming to stay with you to not visit when they are having a period - you don't want to catch it

actually it's quite common. This is not a very technical answer, but at your fertile time you give off a 'scent' that makes you more 'desirable to males. Your body doesn't want a different female to be more 'desirable' than you, so you sync IYSWIM. I've worked in offices for years with different women and we all came on at the same time. I didn't know it remained with you after your periods had supposedly waved goodbye though- that is a shocker.:eek:

Oldernotwiser

TTMCMschine wrote: »

Yes, of course when girls in the past risked being disowned by their families, or the community, or ruined their chances of getting married as a means to financial security, or face horrific back street abortions - they never got pregnant then did they?
Teens always have and always will get pregnant. I suspect the majority of them fall for stupidity, assume it won't happen to them, or are misinformed e.g. can't get pregnant first time etc, in the heat of the moment, rather than doing it purposefully to get a house. I am not saying it's right or wrong, just that it happens.

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In the past there weren't reliable means of contraception freely available and you certainly weren't taught about it in schools!

To compare the situation of young people getting pregnant in the past to the situation nowadays is just plain ridiculous. You'd have to have been living on another planet during your teens not to be aware of the various methods of contraception and the ease of obtaining them. Nowadays getting pregnant in your teens is largely a matter of choice, knowing that the taxpayer or theparents will pick up the bill.

bubblesmoney

sooz wrote: »

Good grief...that would freak me out! I think you should tell anyone coming to stay with you to not visit when they are having a period - you don't want to catch it

hey badgerlady this link might interest u about menstrual synchronisation.

another good read will be Sperm Wars by robin baker. it uses science, genomics, social interaction between males and females to show how conception actually works and gives an intersting insight into social interactions by opposite sexes.

another interesting book was 'genome' by matt ridley. makes an intersting read about how we do the things that we do without concious control

Badger_Lady

bubblesmoney wrote: »

hey badgerlady this link might interest u about menstrual synchronisation.

Hmm, you see all the information I've found about this phenomenon concentrates on the synchronisation of menstruation itself. But surely this should also apply to ovulation as part of the menstrual cycle?

So in other words, if my Mum comes to visit while she's ovulating, I could get pregnant :eek: They don't tell you that at the Family Planning Clinic!

bubblesmoney

Badger_Lady wrote: »

Hmm, you see all the information I've found about this phenomenon concentrates on the synchronisation of menstruation itself. But surely this should also apply to ovulation as part of the menstrual cycle?

So in other words, if my Mum comes to visit while she's ovulating, I could get pregnant :eek: They don't tell you that at the Family Planning Clinic!

ovulating is just one important bit of the chain. the uterine endometrium needs to be in 'proper' condition as well for receiving it even if it is fertilised. the OCs interfere with the endometrium condition in the chain as well. i wouldnt worry too much on this count. on the otherhand i dont have to worry about menstrual synchronisation :A or getting pregnant.

bubblesmoney

Badger_Lady wrote: »

Is that what the Implanon is? They wouldn't quote me a figure at the Family Planning Clinic, just told me it was "basically 100% - the same as being sterilised".

I personally worry about it a bit - when female relatives come to visit, I sync up with them... so if my Mum's on her period, I'll get a random period (even though I haven't had my own for 2 years). So doesn't that suggest that if she comes to stay and is ovulating, that I might ovulate too??? (Total layman's interpretation in case you can't guess).

I recommend Implanon wherever I go, if people ask, but would be intrigued to know just how reliable it is. Cos I don't EVER wanna be pregnant.

no i was not referring to implanon. i was reffering to other stuff which works for 5y instead of 3y. see this link but just use this for info and not as advice. always seek advice regarding health issues from ur GP

NUFCnutter

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

In the past there weren't reliable means of contraception freely available and you certainly weren't taught about it in schools!

To compare the situation of young people getting pregnant in the past to the situation nowadays is just plain ridiculous. You'd have to have been living on another planet during your teens not to be aware of the various methods of contraception and the ease of obtaining them. Nowadays getting pregnant in your teens is largely a matter of choice, knowing that the taxpayer or theparents will pick up the bill.

Whether its choice or not (and I think its more to do with ignorance in a lot, but not all cases; and we cannot hold the schools wholly responsible for sex education, its about time parents got theirselves involved in it too) its all to easy for people to castigate young parents. I know several young girls who have had babies at 16 and 17 who have passed exams, got the child into childcare and gone to work. Not all teenage mum's are trash. There are plenty of single, able bodied men who are sitting on the dole picking up their Job seekers allowance, or even worse fiddling Incapacity Benefit. Stop picking on teenagers.

bubblesmoney

here is another shocking example of someone who got pregnant at 17 but has now bloomed into a professional scrounger par excellence. see this link . may be the govt needs to start coaching classes in how to milk the system. atleast then everyone could enjoy the fruits of the govts tax free gifts to scroungers

beingjdc

bubblesmoney wrote: »

now that i am more prepared to accept. one good reason why i didnt go down the maths dependent careers was that i couldnt be bothered racking my brains too much on statistics. but do feel the way lillyj put it and u put it are vastly different.

whats ur analysis on the 0.05% risk of pregnancy rate of some implants that work over many years? what do u think is their risk of pregnancy over the same 20y period

By that maths, the chance of a 0.05% per year event happening in twenty years is almost exactly 1 in 100.