free xtra benefits???

Loopy_Girl

Oh I can assure you it is difficult for me. Being a lone parent makes it doubly hard emotionally and finacially bit I am not about to whine as she is an absolute joy to my life

You older parents think we have it easy as apparantly we have money thrown at us. Not true in every case.

I am not questioning your parenting skills mainly asking that you try to have empathy for what it is like nowadays. We may have more money but we have more problems too.

moggylover

krisskross wrote: »

What you actually mean is you haven't found anything. Perhaps an apology???

Oh, Okay:D I am sorry that you do begrudge others the benefits they are due and thus feel that you should choke whilst next cruising:D .

I am also sorry that you lack empathy with those in a lousy mess, and that it shows in your posts:D .

OK?:rotfl: Told ya I was kind hearted!;)

Elle00

KrissKross my dear - we are all on the wheel of fortune.

What you earn bears SOME resemblance on how hard you worked to get where you are today. LUCK will have played a big part in your lot too.

A close relative of mine spent over a decade in prison for first degree murder. When he was released he walked straight into quite a well paid job and has TWICE the income that my son and I have to live on. He's got a huge government pension on the back burner ready for retirement too whereas I've not even started one yet because I have no income to put into one. Like Loopy says - there probably won't be a state one when we retire!

You think that's FAIR? A convicted murderer has twice as much to live off for one of him as me, who was beat on and abandoned by my husband, has to support both myself and a child on? You think I DESERVE my lot and that HE deserves HIS?

My ex-husband has over twice what I have to live on just for himself too not to mention his own house and a final salary pension scheme. He refuses to have his own child for more than one night a week and has the cheek to claim his 1/7 child maintenance reduction (which is only £7 a day anyway!) but only has him 5:30pm to 8am which is essentially just using me as unpaid childcare so he can go to work without childcare costs or problems to worry about.

ARRGGGGHHHHHH You just do my head in. :mad: I really can't think of a more eloquent way to phrase that. You just do my head in.

At least I look after my son. He's not even three and he already knows his alphabet and can count to fifty. If you think he'd have learned that at a childminder's anyway you're sadly mistaken. Someone needs to actually RAISE kids and if both parents won't do their fair share then it falls to one of us to do it all alone. Unfortunately that means we NEED benefits and doesn't make us any less of a parent for claiming them. In fact how about a bit of credit for being the parent to do the right thing in the absence of the other parent?

pipkin71

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Oh I can assure you it is difficult for me. Being a lone parent makes it doubly hard emotionally and finacially bit I am not about to whine as she is an absolute joy to my life

Being a single mum is hard Loopy Girl, but the rewards are tremendous.
You sound like you have your head very screwed on. Good for you :beer:

Pipkin xxxx

Loopy_Girl

pipkin71 wrote: »

Being a single mum is hard Loopy Girl, but the rewards are tremendous.
You sound like you have your head very screwed on. Good for you :beer:

Pipkin xxxx

Thank you very much Pipkin. I can only try my best but she is a little star so I must be doing something right.:o It's always nice to have a wee boost now and again so many thanks :T xx

krisskross

moggylover wrote: »

Oh, Okay:D I am sorry that you do begrudge others the benefits they are due and thus feel that you should choke whilst next cruising:D .

I am also sorry that you lack empathy with those in a lousy mess, and that it shows in your posts:D .

OK?:rotfl: Told ya I was kind hearted!;)

I think your nasty posts say more about you than I ever could, and I will include your little coterie of supporters in that. BTW where did I say I begrudged anyone anything? I think you make it up as you go along. I think it was more you lot begrudging me my pension because I won't starve without it.

Loopy_Girl

krisskross wrote: »

I think your nasty posts say more about you than I ever could, and I will include your little coterie of supporters in that.

You know right up until I read that post I thought that, whilst I disagreed with you strongly, at least you were having an adult debate about it.

Not any more. Quite frankly KK, you are as smug and sanctimonious as Mitchaa and don't try to see how any other person would need help to raise a family as 'you managed'. Big wows. YOU had a husband and probably other people helping out. See our generation is that you keep yourself to yourself and there is no community spirit anymore. I can see what it was like all those years ago...it's called empathy and I have that, something you sadly lack. Which is a shame.

pipkin71

Elle83 wrote: »

Unfortunately that means we NEED benefits and doesn't make us any less of a parent for claiming them. In fact how about a bit of credit for being the parent to do the right thing in the absence of the other parent?

Elle, if people need benefits, it doesn't make them any less a person than anyone else, even if others do try to constantly put them down.

You are doing a very good job raisng your son single handed, and your efforts will be thanked when he grows up and can appreciate everything you do.

Don't ever let anyone try to make you feel guilty for legally claiming the benefits you need.

Pipkin xxxx

Loopy_Girl

krisskross wrote: »

you lot begrudging me my pension because I won't starve without it.

What like you begrudge us Tax Credits as your tax money pays for it?

krisskross

I don't begrudge you tax credits. Where did you get that idea? Tax credits are a sort of replacement for the additional tax allowance we got on the birth of a child. I admit I would like to see the tax free allowances back as that would mean that it was necessary to work to benefit.

I do consider that by keep patting yourselves on the back for being such wonderful stay at home parents you do a grave disservice to the millions of mothers out there working and doing the very best they can for their families.