Relationship break-up

bettiboop

Needing some TLC folks!

Since my ex OH left about a fortnight ago I havent seen his daughter (who I regarded as my own), partly because she was spending the summer holidays with some other family members.

Now this is going to sound silly - but tonight she added me as a friend on her newly created bebo page, and for the people that are in the know, there are a group of categories that you tick to say how you know the person, and she has ticked that she knows me "through a friend". It has really set me back, because she could have ticked "family" but she didn't. I know it sounds daft, but I'm really distressed by it, up to a fortnight ago, I was her stepmum. I am so sad over this, and am sat here in tears.

I know I should look on the positive side because at least she has added me, but it hurts like hell!

Sorry folks, just needed to share!

Bettiboop
xx

Loopy_Girl

Awww Bettiboop...have an inappropriate hug :grouphug:

What age is she? Couple of things came to mind when I read

* - maybes she didn't want to put it down in case her mates asked and she had to say Dad's ex

* - she doesn't know you are hurting...she maybe didn't want to put it down as family in case it upset you or maybe in case you got humpty with being classed in that fashion

Of course I could be waaayyyy off.....but it IS only bebo (mind you, I couldn't live without mine!!) but as you say, she DID ask you to be a friend. She could have just crept about bebo and not let on to you (now that would be worse...)

Don't stress over it and lay in bed and wonder why....just concentrate on getting you through this

xxx

bettiboop

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Awww Bettiboop...have an inappropriate hug :grouphug:

What age is she? Couple of things came to mind when I read

* - maybes she didn't want to put it down in case her mates asked and she had to say Dad's ex

* - she doesn't know you are hurting...she maybe didn't want to put it down as family in case it upset you or maybe in case you got humpty with being classed in that fashion

Of course I could be waaayyyy off.....but it IS only bebo (mind you, I couldn't live without mine!!) but as you say, she DID ask you to be a friend. She could have just crept about bebo and not let on to you (now that would be worse...)

Don't stress over it and lay in bed and wonder why....just concentrate on getting you through this

xxx

The rational side of me says I know it's only bebo, it just hurt when I saw it. Think I just needed a good cry and seeing that just tipped me over the edge.

LIFE SUCKS, but I know it will get better. Just wish I didnt have to go through the pain, but I guess the old saying about what doesnt break you makes you, comes to mind.

Cheers Loopy! (she's 12 by the way).

Bettiboop
xx

titoever

bettiboop wrote: »

The rational side of me says I know it's only bebo, it just hurt when I saw it. Think I just needed a good cry and seeing that just tipped me over the edge.

LIFE SUCKS, but I know it will get better. Just wish I didnt have to go through the pain, but I guess the old saying about what doesnt break you makes you, comes to mind.

Cheers Loopy! (she's 12 by the way).

Bettiboop
xx

Hi
I followed your thread but never posted anything. This brought tears to my eyes though. I don't use Bebo (I am only on facebook) but is there a way you can put her in family on your page so she knows how you still feel about her... or ignore me maybe I'm just being silly.

Take care dear and it's true - what doesn't break you makes you.:A

dinkytwostep

Hi Bettiboop

when my Ex-OH and I split up many years ago, we both told our DD that "Daddy didn't love Mummy any more and didn't want to be Mummy's friend" (we wanted her to know it wasn't her fault that we'd split up!). Do you think that this may be what's happened.
You say it's a new Bebo page.
I think maybe she wants you to know that although her father has 'fallen out' with you SHE hasn't....and at 12 being a friend is a BIG thing. She's probably fallen out with her dad so would stay clear of 'family' section on Bebo!

N

bettiboop

Hi guys

Have become more rational than I was yesterday!! Sent a message through bebo, just saying hi, and told her that I loved her very much and that that would never change and that I hoped she would never forget that. Told her that she could call/txt/email whenever she wanted.

She emailed back saying she would rememeber what I told her.

Still hurts, but I am managing to type thiswithout the tears!

Bettiboop
xx

Loopy_Girl

bettiboop wrote: »

Hi guys

Have become more rational than I was yesterday!! Sent a message through bebo, just saying hi, and told her that I loved her very much and that that would never change and that I hoped she would never forget that. Told her that she could call/txt/email whenever she wanted.

She emailed back saying she would rememeber what I told her.

Still hurts, but I am managing to type thiswithout the tears!

Bettiboop
xx

Tears are good though...you are grieving. Lets be honest, your relationship lasted than most marriages these days and little things like this will set you off. Doesn't mean you are silly, merely means you are human and have feelings. In a few months you may dismiss this but right now it's important so let the feelings and thoughts enter your head, have a weep if you need to and then you can 'file' them away in your head and it's another part of the healing process.

You're doing fine, you really are xx

(btw, totally off subject but I have just realised after months of being on this forum that this is an embarrased smile!!!:eek: I use it all the time as I like the colour lilac and thought the smile was cute. God some of my comments must seem mis-placed now!!!!):rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: