Relationship break-up

brownbabygirl

bettiboop wrote: »

Pantsdr, thanks for that, he didn't contribute towards the deposit/legal costs re the house, and it has been me who has paid for all refurbishments within house. I can honestly say the biggest thing he has paid over the years is the tv license and the tv package/phone/internet.

Does any body know which legislation pertains to my current circumstances? i should say that I live in Scotland.

Thanks

Bettiboop

WoW he had it so easy. I hope it turns out well for you. Dont worry too much.

bettiboop

SPANIEL36 wrote: »

http://www.thesite.org/homelawandmoney/askthesiteqandas/housingqandas/crackingcohabitationlaw

Thanks for that - had a little read this evening!

My flat which was tiny when he was living here, now feels incredibily huge. I have had a few discussions with him since he left, and he is insistent that he does not wish any part of the house, as he regards it as mine.

However I am still a little bit wary!

Thanks for the replies!

bettiboop

Loretta

bettiboop wrote: »

Thanks for that - had a little read this evening!

My flat which was tiny when he was living here, now feels incredibily huge. I have had a few discussions with him since he left, and he is insistent that he does not wish any part of the house, as he regards it as mine.

However I am still a little bit wary!

Thanks for the replies!

bettiboop

If he is that insistent get him to put it in writing, like now, immediately, write the letter for him and get him to sign it

You never really know anyone do you?

bettiboop

Hi folks

I posted a thread a couple of weeks ago, looking for advice in relation to my relationship breaking up. Back then, I was really looking for advice in relation to financial stuff.

Since that post my OH has been to talk to me a couple of times, and I had really hoped that we could try to patch things up, however he came back over tonight and told me it was really over, and he gave me his set of keys back. I am in pieces and in floods of tears as I sit here and write this.

I just feel my whole world has crumbled around me and I dont know what to do. I'm normally such a confident person and people usually come to me for advice however I'm just so numb, I dont know what to do. I'm so lost and feel so lonely. I don't want to be alone.

Not sure why I'm posting. Sorry if I shouldn't have done this.

Bettiboop

aligerdie

Dont apologise!!

sending you a big hug, I missed your original thread, so I don't know your situation. however, I just couldn't read and run without saying something

Hope you start to feel better soon xxxxxxx

alwaysonthego_2

I bet the handing of the keys is the reality that it is really over. Do you know the reason why the relationship broke down? Will he not go to relate etc?

I know it is ver hard for you and it will probably take a while before you feel yourself again. You should try and keep busy and go out with your friends. You will get over it, but it takes time and you need to talk and be able to release your emotions. (((((((hugs)))))))

CB1979_2

get on the blower to a mate of yours and have a good old chat/cry with them, even better if they can come over.

otherwise keep posting here and there plenty of peeps will give you a virtual shoulder to cry on (not me cos i'm a miserable horrible git most will say! lol - plus i'm going home now from work)

good luck, in the cold light of day, things won't look as bad as they do now.

chin up girl

bettiboop

I bet the handing of the keys is the reality that it is really over.

Always - You are so right, the handing over of the keys just made it so final. I asked him to go to counselling, however he told me "whats the point? It takes two to make a relationship work, and I dont want to make it work". Guess I couldn't get the message any clearer.

I've spent the last 8 years of my life with this man, and his daughter, who I very much regard as my own, and I can't believe it's gone! I can't believe he didnt want to fight for us. Maybe he's not the man I thought he was?

Although my friends know whats going on, I find it difficult to reach out to them, it's just so much easier on here. Does that make sense, or I am just talking rubbish? My head is all over the place just now. Can't believe I let a man get me in such a state.

bettiboop

Stephb1986_2

8 years is a long time but has it been 8 years of happiness or 8 years of hell?

only you can answer that hun, just remember all the times he's been a pig and how many times he's hurt you and you will be ok. He really isn't worth wasting your tears on

Dont beg him he isn't worth it if he doesn't want to work things out.

my fella has said this to me before now but somehow we've managed to sort things!

Sending you big hugs

Steph xx

Dinah93

Hey bettiboop, didn't want to read and run, been following your thread, and just wanted to send you some hugs and offer an ear to talk to if you need it. I've just come out of a 3 year relationship myself, and while it's a very different situation as I ended it, and I entirely believe it was the only healthy thing for me to do, I understand how empty things feel now and how lost you may be in picturing yourself as just you again. Chin up love, it does get better. Feel free to PM me any time if you need someone to talk to

Dinah x