Marriage over don't know where to start

Bargainfinder_3

Hi Kiz, you sound really down today; so just sending you hugs and hoping that something happens to cheer you up xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks Bargainfinder, I was terrible last night, with DD just crying all the time, & not seeing him yesterday, it's just all too much for me.
I've got paperwork to fill in coming out of my ears & I don't want to fill it in because I don't want to split up, if I don't I won't have any money.
He usually texts me in the morning, so I expect I'll cheer up then, I won't be ringing or texting him, or let it show how much I missed him

Keeping_Motivated

Morning Kizzy and SFH and Gert...

Kizzy I've got to nip out now but could you ask him if he can help you fill out the forms, he keeps asking if he can help and he will see the finality of it too which might open communications naturally rather than you bringing things up IYSWIM.

Be back later

KM x

Bargainfinder_3

That is a great idea KM, kiz maybe sitting there with you going over the papers, you could be honest with him and say that you would really rather not be doing this, and you meant it when you said you could forgive and forget. If he gets embarrassed and doesn't respond or kills your hope, at least you can start to move on; might be better than regretting something you never said?? Can you bake some cakes with the children; ask them if they want to make them for daddy, might take their minds off it; as well as letting them know they can look forward to seeing him later and that you are not mad with him? xx

scottishfreebiehunter

Hi there

He is sitting there sorting out finances I cannot even look at him as want to do bad bad things:eek:

kizzykizzywizzy

I'm sure you do SFH:mad: , he hasn't "broken" yet, as mine has thankfully! Once they do & admit they feel bad about what they've done & are really hurting themselves & say sorry, you've reached the point where you are more in control yourself. What's probably killing you is that he doesn't seem to care, I know that was doing me in

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

I'm sure you do SFH:mad: , he hasn't "broken" yet, as mine has thankfully! Once they do & admit they feel bad about what they've done & are really hurting themselves & say sorry, you've reached the point where you are more in control yourself. What's probably killing you is that he doesn't seem to care, I know that was doing me in

He is sitting clicking away and I want to scream ,he is talking as if our marriage was a sham and I am going to scream ,trying to stay calm here
I called the school regarding my ds as to what has happened etc but they are all very busy with being first day back and what have you.

Bargainfinder_3

Stay calm sfh, you are the better person here. Hugs to you xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Re paperwork, I might ask him, will play it by ear. It is a good idea & I did think of asking him, but as I've always done any paperwork, he might find it a bit weird, also I don't want to seem like a boring paperwork/housework mumsy person, when the moose isn't

Bargainfinder_3

Kiz, you have to stop comparing yourself to her hon. Maybe the fact that you take responsibility for things is one of the things he admires about you!!! The moose doesn't sound responsible!! On the other hand, if you truly want him back; he will have to accept that it's back to family life, not a false impression of an ideal family life where he has no responsibilities, I dont mean that to sound harsh xxx

About it seeming weird, you could ask him if he could just sit and keep you company while you do them, because you dont think you have the strength or energy while you're feeling so low? I hope that you do get chance to talk to him xxx