Marriage over don't know where to start

gerturdeanna

Oh guys - I'm !!!!ed, just been chatting to another friend on the phone - am going to stimble up the stairs whilsy I can - catch uo 2moz!!

scottishfreebiehunter

night you twoxxxxxxx

I wish I could sleep as need it as look like s h i t

julie2710

So sorry you guys are having to see your kids upset! I'm sort of expecting that things might change a bit when the new baby arrives as I won't be able to focus all of my time on my little boy, although I try and get hin involved loads already! I had heartburn again today and he asked me why my tummy was hurting and did I need a poo? Charming:D When I said no he said "is my brother kicking you?":rotfl: :rotfl: Last time I told him he was he put his finger up to my tummy and said don't kick mummy!!!:rotfl: :rotfl: Youn can't put a price on kids can you?

SFH - Have to agree with Kizzy - step away from the wine!! I'm going to be paying all the mortgage as I ws the one who paid the deposit for the house and while we've been together he's paid less than 30% of the monthly cost of the mortgage. He has therefore agreed to sign the house over to me completely without taking any equity out himself. It was owned as tenants in common anyway not joint which means he only has a 30% share not the 50/50 with joint. I've always earned quite a bit more than him so it's never really worried me when we were a team. I'm not too worried about it as will manage, but yes he will have to pay something for the kids upkeep.

Cheeky git asked if I could pay his car insurance this month!!:eek: :eek:

julie2710

Night guys! I'll probably stay up for the news then I'm off to bed too! Hopefully the bloody cat won't bring another mouse in for me to chase up and down the hall again tonite!!! Last night took about 15 minuted to catch the damn thing. As I grabbed it's tail the cat grabbed it and ended up breaking off half it's damn tail! :eek: :eek: :eek: Gross!!:eek:

scottishfreebiehunter

me to shattered

lying in bed with laptop now:rotfl:

trancebabe

Hey all... just checking in again before I settle down for the night

Jules - I thought of you when I saw my Mum's cat (Mum lives with us) tossing a HUMUNGOUS mouse about the garden earlier. It could have even been a young rat (bleeeuuuggghhh) My DD rushed out there to save it and the poor little thing was still alive at the time, but I think the shock got to it... It was stiff an hour later! (mouse.. not the cat)
I think you're fab! I think the way you've handled everything so far is incredible!

Kizzy... at some point one or both of your kids will use those three little words on you
' I H A T E Y O U!'
I had this from DD at about 6.5 years old. She was angry over something trivial and it was a way of venting at me, blaming me... getting a reaction from me. It hurt me to the core but I replied 'well sweetheart, I will always love you and be here for you!' I felt terrible because the cracks were exposed to her and I cried... and of course she said I'm sorry Mummy... I love you too when she'd thought about it a bit but I could have punched ex for reducing us to that... not a happy childhood memory for her and not what I wanted for her.
It's probaly going to come and it will feel like you've been stabbed in the chest but they know not what they say. As you rightly said, when they're older they will understand better and learn that this was something that they had no influence under, and they wont blame you either. My DD understands perfectly now... she's so wise!

Enough Waffle from me... you're all fabulous... keep strong girls and sleep well
x

robster1964

Hi you Guys,

Can't catch up as much cos working and have a business. If ya want to know what I do, contact me on facebook!!!

Kizzy, it's awful when the kids are in a mess,and you are allegedly supposed to know how to cope, but I think in this situation you were a little unfair on him (sorry babe). He missed the call, (it happens) you say, 'Its too late now' he says 'ok'!. Thats what got you the most upset...... but honey a lot of men are like that. They need it spelling out to them to realise things.

He is probably feeling confused now!! So What most of us will say......... but this may be one of the times that you should contact him, it's not about you or him................... It's about one of your babies, that he is still equally responsible for.

Emotionally, physically & financially..... IMHO, this is one of those times, that you should call him, and call him and call the selfish !!!!er again!!!!

Much love

Robster xxx

gerturdeanna

Morning!! Bright and early again!! hehe!! Got eye test today and I'm pretty sure I will need new ones, don't think NHS will pay for designer ones though!!! hehe!! Am going to have a complete change of style though - to go with the new haircut etc etc.
Had such a fab time with my sis last night. Within 10/15mins of him arriving yesterday, I left and within 5 mins of me getting back, he left!! I'm sure I've typed this already - deja vu!!
Oh yes, just checked and I posted when I got in!! Oh my, can't even remember doing that hehe!!
Oh well, drink free today and tomorrow at least, not even one!!

How is everyone else today?

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi Gert had a getting back together dream again:o

Yes Robster wasn't too impressed with myself for losing it again, but I don't phone him, so surely even with only half his brain cells working he might of thought it was important I just don't know why he didn't call back, to me that's really un-caring, not to check how his little boy is.

I'm just so surprised how easy it seems to be for him to be apart from the children & how little he seems to care. Perhaps he's hiding it from me, but to me he seems to have just switched off

saffronflowers

Kizzy = a big hug, I still have that with my ex five years later when it comes to me phoning him in an emergency about my girls, I have had to phone nine times to get him to call. The way I deal with it is, that at the end of the day they know that come what may I am there for them, and I am the solid rock that they need. Take care of yourself and please put your energy into yourself and your little ones and not into what he is failing to do, that is after all his look at he is an adult and he will be the loser in the end.

SFx