Marriage over don't know where to start

robster1964

Hi Girls, Just checking in with you guys. SFH, babe you are struggling so much, and it's just one thing after the other. Life sucks at the moment, and I am really lost for words at that freak of an Ex of yours. I truly know you feel lonely and helpless, but ask yourself this, would you really want someone back who has the audacity to put you and your little fella through all this? He sounds like the most despicable person, and I just hope you can get through all this without your heart and soul mashed to bits. You have got one thing to look forward to, that millions of us would love to have! Oz, with a capital O!!! It will be absolutely fab!! Most of all, it'll give you time to relax, take stock and come back with all guns blazing!! Hope you little man feels better soon, ulcers are a bummer, maybe it's ice cream time for him!

Kizzy, you sound like you are coming to some kind of acceptance:( I guess it's natural progression... You sound like a lovely, attractive, independent, capable woman, and I can't wait for the day that you once again look forward to something, without the sadness and sense of loss. It will happen babe, one day when you least expect it, people as nice as you don't stay alone for long!

Gert you sound so strong this week, and I am glad that at least practically you are getting things sorted. I think you have the right attitude to wanting him to work at getting you back. After all, it's his god damn fault. Fingers crossed that he does, if that's still what you want....At the end of the day, I feel that he underestimates, just how little (except emotionally) that you need him. All of you girls, are so strong, resilient and capable and I know you don't feel like it, but for all those other ladies going through the same thing, your little chats and discussions and support for each other, must really inspire them to believe that there is a way through.

I am so proud of you all.

Robster xxx

robster1964

Can't stick around girls, got stuff to do. Hopefully chat later xxx

Robster xxx

scottishfreebiehunter

making baked potato for dinner so he should eat that okay,just emailed his school to advise them of all situations as do not want them thinking I am ignroing his education,have asked for extra work etc though fingers crossed he will be back Thursday
It is really angering me Robster as he is off work again today as works funny shifts,telling me he needs a life well that is :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
what about me,well as you say roll on oz
got some stuff together today sorted passports ,visa email,prescriptions so i know

trancebabe

Gosh you have all been busy!!

SFH - come on sweetie... keep that chin up!! it will all be ok!

Gert - you've been a maniac doing your life laundry today hun. Good for you!!!

Kizzy - no wavering hun... no retreat... no surrender!!! Enjoy the party!

Delly - look after yourself hun! Get some sleep if you can... we're right behind you so never feel alone!

Jules - how's that bump doing?? Hope you're ok!

Love to all and I'll check back in soon!
xx

dinkytwostep

Hi SFH

You've done so well coping.. much better than your OH.

It sounds as though he's got himself a Miss Whiplash there. She appears to be the dominant one in that relationship...... I would guess that she MAKES him take her out for a meal if he's spent money on you & DS.... ... she's obviously very insecure about his relationship with you if she's tutting in the background.... either that or her dentures don't fit properly!!!!


To be honest it wouldn't matter if the dogs didn't go to her house ... there's nothing to stop your OH staying over at yours while you are away?? providing you don't mind him doing so! Would it affect your IS?

That way you get one up on her... the dogs are looked after.. and nobody has to fork out on kennels.....besides he might want some peace and quiet!!

scottishfreebiehunter

His mum has offered for him to stay there with them during his working shift and take dogs ,though they will not watch them unless he is there before and after work:rotfl:sp will let you know the outcome of that not sure the s l u t will like that.
I am tired of begging for money(I know it isnt but feels that way)whilst he has life of riley

kizzykizzywizzy

Hello folks!!
Well i've messed up a bit!
DS came out of school & was scraping his new £32! shoes along the pavement, I told him to stop & as if to defy me he did it even more ( didn't use to get this sort of behaviour ) I took his shoes off & made him walk in his socks, then a bit up the road I said, come on put your shoes back on & he said NO I [EMAIL="WON@T"]WON'T[/EMAIL] ! then he said I hate you I want my daddy & started crying & then he was saying I NEED daddy well this really upset me I tried to give him a cuddle & he said NO I WANT daddy! he was in a terrible state, I didn't know what to do rang SIS, she said ring him, so rang DFS & he didn't answer. Later i got a call, he said he hadn't heard the phone, I said well it's too late now, he just said OK then! - !!!!!!:mad::mad: I said so you don't care why I phoned you? he said yes, so I told him, I said you didn't care about them at all did you you couldn't care less, he said of course I care, I said the only person you care about is you & put the put the phone down

dellybelly_2

kizzy - don't know what to say -other than my DS had a meltdown today too and screamed at me that he wanted his daddy. It feels rotten doesn't it? I would have rang the FFA to get him to talk to DS but I was the one who asked for space, so I can hardly call him before thursday can I?

DB

dellybelly_2

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translation of the above = ds says hello

gerturdeanna

Oh Kizz, I'm sorry that your DS is being like this - it really must be harder for them than it is for us (if that is possible) (excuse the spelling mistakes I've been out with my sis!!)

SFH (and Kizzy) -get on to ctc and IS, You WILL feel so much better once your money is sorted out - I do!!

I've just got in about 5 mins ago. Before I left I signed up for some Open University courses, change my eye test for a morning and booked a doc appoinment.
Went out with the intention of being new jeans, underwear etc, called my sis an she was on day off so met her in her town and went to LaTascas for tea, very nice spanish food - took me back to when times were good (we used to live in Spain - where I met SSS in fact, he was a holiday romance)!! I was signing along to the songs,ordering all the food in Spainish..had a good old chat with my sis (my bestest mate!!), got home, asked him how the kids were and basically chucked him out. He'd saved me some tea and everything!! haha!!
Again, it seems to be my mantra...but we will get through this!! All of us!! And when (if) they cme crawling back, we ain't gonna want them!!

"Sisters are doing it for themselves!!" http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=BqU8407iof8