Marriage over don't know where to start

gettingbetter

((((((((((((((((((((Gert)))))))))))))))))))))
kas x

robster1964

Right ok love why don't you take the bull by the horns.... If he wants a new house, start checking them out tomorrow. Start being positive and making plans. If he's serious, he will be really up for it, if he's not......Well at least you will have called his bluff, and know where you are....

Robster xxx

gerturdeanna

You are right - he is just a bloke at the moment and not my OH so he shouldn't get the things that OH's get. My legs are now firmly shut to him, until we (he!!) decides what we are doing. Still upset though - always am after a saturday night, cos I know what I'm doing is wrong and isn't helping anything at all. Think next weekend I'll go out - its the [EMAIL="sl@gs"]sl@gs[/EMAIL] wedding reception next sat - I'll go there!! hehe

bank_of_slate

It's still on????????
...Linda xx

gerturdeanna

Robster - I told him that last night, I've asked him to bring the local paper of where he is now round on Tuesday so I can check out the area and I'm checking Right Move tomorrow amongst others.
We had a bit of a tiff last night aswell, cos I brought something up that he said last week that had upset me, and he was like, I thought we'd got over this - already told him, its going to take lots and lots of time!!

gettingbetter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

You are right - he is just a bloke at the moment and not my OH so he shouldn't get the things that OH's get. My legs are now firmly shut to him, until we (he!!) decides what we are doing. Still upset though - always am after a saturday night, cos I know what I'm doing is wrong and isn't helping anything at all. Think next weekend I'll go out - its the sl@gs wedding reception next sat - I'll go there!! hehe

make sure it is what you want to
kas x

robster1964

Gert, you are so funny with some of the things you say, you don't half make me laugh, so does SFH! Humour can take you a long way and you guys have got it in buckets full. Don't know what else to suggest, maybe gate crash the wedding and when the vicar says " Does anyone know any reason these 2 can't be legally married?" You could jump up and say yes me, she is a marriage wrecking low life slime ball! Who looks like a man!

Robster xxx

scottishfreebiehunter

:rotfl::rotfl:Robster


wish I stayed near you Gert would be there with you waiting on her to go in church or wherever:rotfl:

Well today was going okayish I think now thing ds has broken his finger:eek:
He has fallen off skateboard as was in huff and rushing about so have ice block on in to see how he goes.
Went to make the stew earlier and it was all blue and smelly and had only just taken out freezer,so no idea how that happened so looks like chines so I am not amused:rolleyes:

Buffythedebtslayer

Oh Gert, I am sorry hon, I really don't like to think of you crying xxxx

It is just a case of being hard to get- that why you would be sure of how he feels well as sure as anyone can be, and you wouldn't risk so much of yourself. Its so hard when you love some one so much and you want to be with them but then it ends up being all on their terms.

I keep telling myself if you love some one set them free. its lame but its true. I told my ex I needed time to get over him so could he please leave me alone. If in time he realises what he is missing (or in one of my more detailed fantasies he sees me looking gorgeous in the local pub hopefully with some really fit men swarming round me) and pursues me again then all good.

In your situation it must be so difficult. I mean he is your husband right? and he has said he wants to try again. so to be blunt sex is going to come up. I think tho even in your situation if it leaves you vunerable then don't do it.

I would be busy for a few weekends as well! If he really wants you he will still want you after that and if you all independant and busy and having a life then great. he will have to deal with it.

I think above all protect yourself. xxxx

robster1964

Sfh, grief it never rains but it seems to pour for you!!!! Poor you, I really do feel for you. But you still make me giggle so much with some of your comments! Honey try to have a peaceful night do something for you, even if it's just a bath, putting a face pack on, or shaving yer legs.. Hope your little mans finger is Ok, and it doesn't require a trip to casualty. God, I used to hate that with my boys. Every single week, they had some scrape or another, until I finally told them unless it was life threatenly serious, minor bumps, scrapes and even .... finger breaks, would be treated at home, robster style!

Robster xxx