Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

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Had really nasty dream last night and I am feeling really down.
I have to keep motivated that going to Australia end of September,so want to go just now though I know have hospital appointment and have to make sure all finances etc etc are sorted so I do not have to come back to a mess


Kizzy good luck today xxxxxxx gerti you keep strong and kassy hope you are well

Cheveliar it is my family dad etc that have not been near,I called him last night and said dad why arent you coming down he said working ,and I replied not every day of the week,any suppose you cannot force people.
It is his mum and gran that are phoning to check I am okay on a daily basis all very odd and my family in oz but not much they can do.

gerturdeanna

What was the bad dream about SFH? Maybe we could interpret it?

scottishfreebiehunter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

What was the bad dream about SFH? Maybe we could interpret it?

Just about him being with someone else and me being left alone with son to bring up usual stuff woke up crying

I really really do not know what to do as need to stay focused but every day is longer than the next
I feel like a warn out disch cloth

scottishfreebiehunter

Oh free bingo in Gala online so shall have a few goes of that

gerturdeanna

I'm sorry you are having pretty horrible dreams - think thats self explanitory!! We will find other people if we want to and they will be better people who treat us right!!
Go win some cash SFH!!

kassytbag

Morning guys - i am off to solicitors in a mo - i still cant get my head around the fact that 8 weeks ago i thought i had a normal marriage - now am alone with my kids with oh in a flat with girlfriend - cant stop shaking - been to relate again and she says that with my depression as well and my eldest going off to uni at other end of country in 3 weeks i am just suffering loss after loss after loss (our dog died the week before oh walked out) - i keep telling myself to be strong but the shaking and feeling of panic seems to be getting worse not better - any ideas?

annamc75

Focusing on the positive in your life and taking teeny tiny baby steps is the way to go.

You still have your children - no matter where in the country they may be. And it is testement to your great parenting skills that you have raised them to be successful independant people. Your job is done and what a good job you have done.

You are better off without husband - anyone who can treat you like this is better off out of your life than being in it.

Surround yourself with feel good things and feel good people - the more you do this (and however hard it can be to get yourself to do things). The more you will be able to find a focus. At the moment your focus is on the whole big picture - sometimes you have to deal with life in smaller chunks.

Have you spoken to your local MIND or other mental health charity. Relate might be one type of support but if you have other issues then you cant have too much support.

Good luck

Ax

Juneno

Hi Kassy,
Sorry to hear you're having such a bad time today.
You may not want to but would you perhaps consider getting another dog? Animals are great at times like these 'cos you can tell them anything and they'll understand - and you can hug them unconditionally!
It's also been proven they do wonders for your stress levels! Maybe having a new pup or young dog or even a cat would give you something else to focus on and look after?
I hope you feel better as the day goes on. (())
June x

poppyg_2

Juneno wrote: »

Hi Kassy,
Sorry to hear you're having such a bad time today.
You may not want to but would you perhaps consider getting another dog? Animals are great at times like these 'cos you can tell them anything and they'll understand - and you can hug them unconditionally!
It's also been proven they do wonders for your stress levels! Maybe having a new pup or young dog or even a cat would give you something else to focus on and look after?
I hope you feel better as the day goes on. (())
June x

I absolutely 100% second this, animals have amazing healing powers and as June says, would give you something to focus on/take your mind off other things and puppies/kittens are such fun (maybe you could get a little rescue dog/cat so it wouldn't cost anything except for a donation to the charity)

scottishfreebiehunter

Stop and think first though as I know how sad it is to lose a dog as had one for 14 yrs and loved it to bits.
Though went out and got another puppy and have cross Bermese Mountain dog already and now due to all hassles going through with life they are a tie,I love my dogs big time though remember if you need to get away etc etc with people to watch them.
Not trying to put you off but now I wish I didnt jump and get other,I tried to replace my dog who died but did not work
xxxx