Single and in debt.

Buffythedebtslayer

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Does bomb mean chuck? dump?

See, I'm so out of touch...

you and me both!

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

please tell me you are being sarcastic? you are right?

He he! I thought that too! I always know it's the beginning of the end when I start blaming the phone and not the owner:rolleyes:

Bowski_1011

oh yeah bomb off means get rid lol It's not that you're out of touch SuSu...it's just that I'm so common

Buffy I really did mean that bout him losing his phone... I know I'm stupid, i hate to think the worst though :rotfl:

Sarah, Did ya try any dating websites? or facebook? I met my last boyfriend on facebook

SuSu1871

About, ooh, 10 years ago I went out with a guy for about 8 months, then he moved 200 miles away (for work). We remained close (I moved into his old house and became his tenant!) and we carried on sleeping together when we were in each other's neighbourhoods (which was about once every 4-6 weeks). This was purely because we got on really well and the s*x was brilliant!!

We agreed, though, that as soon as one of us lost heart, or had developed feelings for someone else, we'd stop. After about another 8 months of him being my not-boyfriend, I stayed over at his and had to confess the next morning that I'd developed a crush on someone else. He confessed right back at me that he'd been flirting with a girl from work! We had a good old chat about it and gave each other advice on how to play it. We even gave each other feedback about what we're like as b/f and g/f!!

We agreed that we should stop seeing each other in any format as our new crushes wouldn't understand. It was the best break-up I've ever had and he's one of the few of my exes that I still think fondly about.

(by the way, the bloke I had a crush on.... we were good friends and I told him how I felt but sadly he didn't feel the same. Funnily enough though, it made our friendship even stronger. The pressure was off me as I could freely flirt with him without over-analysing every move!)

What I'm saying is that if you have an "agreement" with a not-boyfriend, you need to agree ground rules or someone will get hurt. Take care of your heart.

Buffythedebtslayer

sarahb123 wrote: »

God, tonight this thread is making me really wish I had a boyfriend! I know it can be rubbish and miserable and the getting over it is awful, but SuSu talking about the texting and make up and Buffy talking about being in contact with their exes has made me realise how much I miss the excitement of it all and how brilliant it is when it all goes well. I want a boyfriend!

Am off to destroy my 100 list and replace every single item with "get a boyfriend". Except number 2. Which actually is "get a boyfriend." (Might leave number 1 on there as well;) )

Right so you want the agonising !!!! feeling when you havne't got a bloody clue what is happening and you wonder why the freaking hell can't he just wake up and realise we should be together or why I can't move away change jobs and never see him again!

no its horrible. I 'd rather not have this! cos i shall go to bed and check my phone and he won't have texted and I 'll go to bed miserable trying really hard to list the good things in my life, when all I honestly want is him.
feel pathetic

xxx

SuSu1871

sarahb123 wrote: »

God, tonight this thread is making me really wish I had a boyfriend! I know it can be rubbish and miserable and the getting over it is awful, but SuSu talking about the texting and make up and Buffy talking about being in contact with their exes has made me realise how much I miss the excitement of it all and how brilliant it is when it all goes well. I want a boyfriend!

Am off to destroy my 100 list and replace every single item with "get a boyfriend". Except number 2. Which actually is "get a boyfriend." (Might leave number 1 on there as well;) )

If it makes you feel better, I could spend the next 4 hours telling you about all the sh!tty things that b/fs have done to me!! :rotfl:

The grass is always greener, eh?

sarahb123_3

Bowski_1011 wrote: »

I know it's not as simple as that but I couldn't be FB's with someone I'd be gutted about if they got themselves a partner. Do ya know what I mean?

This is true, but I have stayed in this sort of situation hoping that he would change his mind. With hilarious consequences. You are right, but it is very hard to break away completely sometimes.

Bowski_1011

SuSu..that sounds like the ideal breakup...why can't they all be like that!

Buffythedebtslayer

SuSu1871 wrote: »

About, ooh, 10 years ago I went out with a guy for about 8 months, then he moved 200 miles away (for work). We remained close (I moved into his old house and became his tenant!) and we carried on sleeping together when we were in each other's neighbourhoods (which was about once every 4-6 weeks). This was purely because we got on really well and the s*x was brilliant!!

We agreed, though, that as soon as one of us lost heart, or had developed feelings for someone else, we'd stop. After about another 8 months of him being my not-boyfriend, I stayed over at his and had to confess the next morning that I'd developed a crush on someone else. He confessed right back at me that he'd been flirting with a girl from work! We had a good old chat about it and gave each other advice on how to play it. We even gave each other feedback about what we're like as b/f and g/f!!

We agreed that we should stop seeing each other in any format as our new crushes wouldn't understand. It was the best break-up I've ever had and he's one of the few of my exes that I still think fondly about.

(by the way, the bloke I had a crush on.... we were good friends and I told him how I felt but sadly he didn't feel the same. Funnily enough though, it made our friendship even stronger. The pressure was off me as I could freely flirt with him without over-analysing every move!)

What I'm saying is that if you have an "agreement" with a not-boyfriend, you need to agree ground rules or someone will get hurt. Take care of your heart.

yeah. its an odd thing me and him. its not a FB relationship. its..... oh I don't know! how ever I put it it sounds like I am being taken advantage of and I know I am not? see even saying that sounds like I am in denial!!

and of course just cos I said he wouldn't text he has!

xxx

SuSu1871

Right now I'd like a b/f with big strong thumbs so I could trade off me cooking dinner for him giving me shoulder massages every night. Just rolled my shoulders and they're making a grinding sound! That ain't right!!

Nah, I don't think I want a long term b/f, just a series of 6-8 month flings! All the fun with none of the hassle of dirty undies, mothers-in-law, trying to think of what to get for Christmas, the getting something carp for Christmas because he's a bloke and he doesn't listen so thinks that you really want a tartan travel blanket (that actually happened to me :rotfl: )