Single and in debt.

SuSu1871

makeup wrote: »

Hi Susu,

I know what you mean, when weird things like that happen I'm desperate to get in touch and shout 'but why, but why??' however am equally desperate to have upper hand and leave it as his loss, and be all cool, calm and collected!

Still at least you had some Christmas fun .... just leave the phone alone when you are drunk...that has alwasy been my downfall.. drunken texting..i've had to delete many a text the next morning as just too cringey to read again! :eek:

Thanks guys for your advice, will definitely meet up with him and see what story is! Most of my pals are smug marrieds and seem to have conveniently forgotten trials and tribulations of single life!!

I'm so glad you're going to meet up with him. If nothing romantical happens, you've just had a nice night out with an old pal!

Oh, and re the drunken texting thing... fortunately I gave up alcohol 8 years ago, so I don't have to worry about that! Jeez, I'm bad enough sober without needing a drink! :rotfl:

SuSu1871

SBC!!!! TDQO!!!! Where are you when we need a male perspective?!!!

Why are blokes like this? Why do we let them get to us when they're probably oblivious to the whole female anguish and over-analysis that we are genetically programmed to do?

And they say we're the ones that are difficult to understand...

makeup

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Should I get in touch with him?

(you see, when I said I was brave, it doesn't mean I'm prepared to rush into a lions den without the support of my pals!)

What was the last contact and who made it?

I'm all for getting in touch but equally I normally leave it if I have sent two texts and got no reply (two spaced out texts, not two in one hour!!!)

I also normally try and think of a reason to get in touch...

I too though have been entangled with someone who seemed really keen but just never delivered....(we didn't even get to do some dirty texting....) ... but then I ended up in a nightclub at midnight on a MONDAY night just to see him....so i'm not a good giver of advice.

Sarah - maybe consider yourself more 'free from the conventions that society demands' 'a leader not a follower' or cheesily 'dancing to your own tune'

SuSu1871

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

But I do frequently imagine myself as 80 and in a home and think well I am not going to worry about it then I am!!

You know, when I'm older (say mid-60s) I'd like to buy a big house with my single girlfriends so we can all live together! We could each have our own bedroom and bathroom, but share the living room, dining room, kitchen and garden and have a rather lovely time cooking, gossiping and going zimmer dating! (I doubt we'll be up to speed dating!!)

sarahb123_3

SuSu1871 wrote: »

s'funny, I was reluctant to tell you all about it in case you thought I'd, I don't know, backed down from some kind of moral stance (after the rollocking I gave him for the original Dirty Text), but - in my defence - his original DT was completely out of context, whereas Xmas day followed weeks and weeks of daily chatting, so it didn't feel weird.

Even when I pressed "submit reply", then saw that there were more of you online I thought "oh no, they're going to tell me off!!" :rotfl:

I don't regret any of it, though, although I am a bit sad that we didn't get chance to meet up again. Should I get in touch with him?

(you see, when I said I was brave, it doesn't mean I'm prepared to rush into a lions den without the support of my pals!)

SuSu, where flirty texting is involved I for one would have done exactly the same, moral stance be damned, it's HUGE FUN:D

Re getting in touch, I would advise not, not a good idea to let him think he has you running after him. Let him come running to you. (says she, who would probably contact him) Only you can tell whether you think it might come across in the wrong way. It's frustrating though because you want to have fun again but you don't want to seem needy. (Am a past master at that:rolleyes: ) I totally understand how you feel because you want to have fun and the attention is so flattering. We won't judge you at all, if that's the right word, we've all been there. You should do what is best for you. It's the waiting for the phone to beep that is soooooo frustrating:mad: I hate being stuck in limbo.

Please don't feel you can't tell us anything in case we think badly of it, we have all been there, that's why we're all here.;) (I hope none of this sounded too preachy)

Buffythedebtslayer

SuSu1871 wrote: »

You know, when I'm older (say mid-60s) I'd like to buy a big house with my single girlfriends so we can all live together! We could each have our own bedroom and bathroom, but share the living room, dining room, kitchen and garden and have a rather lovely time cooking, gossiping and going zimmer dating! (I doubt we'll be up to speed dating!!)

yep, I think that too! its definitely the way forward!
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

SuSu1871

makeup wrote: »

What was the last contact and who made it?

I texted on 1 Jan to say I'd be back home on Friday, did he want to meet up over the weekend. He replied within about 30 mins saying unfortunately not free, still have the bl**dy flu as well (

That's it, no contact since then. Just as well, really, cos I was poorly sick over the weekend.

Before then (up to Xmas day night) he was 9 times out of 10 the first to make contact. Perhaps he doesn't respect me anymore :rotfl:

makeup

Buffy - tis indeed hard, and I don't think guys are as 'text experts' as women...well some of them anyway and I don't think read as much into texts as we do so very often don't read texts they receive properly and answer as such.

I don't have any good advice just wanted to send some best wishes... this whole dating / relationship thing can be really stressful at times...:rolleyes:

Buffythedebtslayer

I agree with sarah, don't get in touch, always let him come to you. I know that sounds old fashioned and perhaps (when the boys come back!) a bit game playee but I think for me I have to protect myself a bit?

Like Monday I shouldn't have done that, I should n't have texted him cos then he knows I am there and he can ring my bell (so to speak) when ever he wants?(sorry boys)

I shall just leave him alone iin my case, he always comes back! or has so far. I don't know how I would cope if he got a girl friend. that would be awful.

xx

Bowski_1011

SuSu...why do you think he doesn't respect you anymore? I'm sure that's not the case.

Maybe he's lost/broke his phone? have you tried ringing it?