If not for my sister and her kids I'd have given it all up - but I'm still here!!!

Wol2

Mupeteer wrote: »

Argh! I get so mad at myself sometimes. If you've been reading my thread over the last few days you'll know that I have improved greatly since my split with my ex. Now all that has stalled and I want to cry.
I've collected together all of the things he had left and am getting my BIL to deliver them to his work. I reckon he has something of mione too so I just emailed him to ask and say that he should give it to my BIL if he does have it. When he replied (a very basic but pleasant reply) I found myself getting a bit emotional. Now I have this huge knot of ... something... sitting in my ribs and it's horrible. The sooner all his stuff is gone and I have no need to have any contact the better. Only my resolve has now gone and it doesn't feel like that.:mad: :mad: :mad:

Hush Hun

Dont be too hard on yourself..it's early days yet, the wounds are still raw.....Today you were strong enough to take the courageous step of exposing yourself to some memories/reminders.... Well done....you're making excellent progress. The knot is just a little reminder that there is still a lot of hurt inside that needs to be acknowledged and allowed to run it's course....better out than in as they say....Of course you'll get emotional reading his reply..and of course the resolve will waiver. This is all perfectly normal and you have nothing to reproach yourself for..and if you want to have a cry then that's alright too.

You're doing so terribly well Mupet....You deserve a big pat on the back (and chocolate, treats :beer: whatever).....not just from us but from yourself..because you have made a big big step today....:T

It helps me to think that the emotional fall-out when a special relationship ends is like a see-saw..... where something large and significant has disappeared from one end and rather drastically upset the balance..you will have good days and bad days...but gradually the see saw will even out and become level again....and there will be more good days than bad days...and the bad days will not be so bad as they were a week ago...and the reminders will not hurt so much. (It took me months before I felt strong enough to listed to Kelly Clarkson Breakaway without blubbing )

So hang on in there, your ARE getting there........and if you need a chat tonight then PM me Hun.

:grouphug:

Big hugs to you
Love
Wol2
xx

Wol2

Mupeteer wrote: »

:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
Friends - or something like them!
REally hacked off. It was my birthday a couple of weeks ago and I was supposed to be going out with my friends to celebrate. They cancelled as they had made other plans. I was ok with that as we re-arranged to go out this weekend. I've just had a text from one saying "can't make it this weekend, going away for a few days." :mad: :mad: :mad:
Probably wont be going out at all now as she is the one who sort of holds the group together. The rest of us are more aquaintances than friends. I was really looking forward to getting out and I really think I need it.
:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

Oooh...and after your previous post, friends like this don;t help at all do they?

However, it might be worth ringing the others as you may be surprised at the response...they might be feeling a bit let down and want to go out too. Bit daunting I know..but then consider all the friends you've made on MSE since you started posting.

Also....Is there any chance you can make it down to the Leeds DFW meet on 6th September.....we'll all love to help you celebrate your birthday
:beer:
Even more hugs
Wol2
xx

Buffythedebtslayer

Wow Wol you are really wise.

Ah Mupet friends can be kinda kack at times. I haven't had any contact with my three best mates for about a week now. I am apparently self- sufficient. which to some extent is true but I feel like its a vicious circle!

I 'd ring the others too,

and I can't believe that you - who are lovely and caring don't have other mates,

big hugs on the bloke front too, Wol is a very clever person she is exactly right. I had never thought about it quite like that. If you are anything like me I sort of think once i get so far I won't feel *that* bad again and it is ALways a horrible suprise like a couple of days ago when it hits you and leaves that knot of tension that no amount of stretching or walking or crying can get shot of.

hopefully my love you will have a good nights sleep and feel better in the morning.

I am here for a bit and will be back in the morning

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Mupeteer

vandanfc wrote: »

Can't you make contact with these "aquaintances" and go anyway ?? They too may be fed up that she has cancelled and may still want to go out anyway ?

I might just do that. I'll see how I feel once I've calmed down a bit.

Mupeteer

Wol2 wrote: »

Oooh...and after your previous post, friends like this don;t help at all do they?

However, it might be worth ringing the others as you may be surprised at the response...they might be feeling a bit let down and want to go out too. Bit daunting I know..but then consider all the friends you've made on MSE since you started posting.

Also....Is there any chance you can make it down to the Leeds DFW meet on 6th September.....we'll all love to help you celebrate your birthday
:beer:
Even more hugs
Wol2
xx

I'd love to come to the Leeds meet but I'm not sure if I can afford it. I've just been looking at some other websites to see how much it would cost to get there. Not as bad as I expected so I'll have to do some further investigations and see what I can arrange.

Mupeteer

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

and I can't believe that you - who are lovely and caring don't have other mates,

Thanks Buffy, but it's true. I've never had a lot of friends and those that I do have are all married or in long term relationships so not too concerned about having nights out and stuff. I know how it goes and I don't blame them for it but it does annoy me when plans are made and people let you down. If you're not going to do something don't say you will.

I'm not great at socialising anyway. I'm the one who waits for people to talk to me then spends ages deciding what I think before I'll let anyone in - when I'm not in cyberland!

Mupeteer

I'm feeling a bit low today. Slept in again (need to stay away from the night owls me thinks!), have a shocking headache and have called in sick to work. I think I'll go back to sleep for a while to see if that helps my head. Then maybe I can get on with some of the stuff on my list later on.

Mupeteer

Well I've still got the headache, have slept for hours and got nothing done. I think I need a kick up the backside.

Burlesque_Babe

it's just your body and mind repairing itself Mupeteer and the tablets helping, don't be hard on yourself xxx

boredofbeingathome

I agree with BB, you must have needed the rest..and also very close weather wise, so that may not be helping.....
Nice to see you posting a lot as well..and if the nightowls are doing you good..keep on..a great bit of banter there!