over spend and over eat

FreeMe_2

Vixi - I love your attitude!
"being in debt and overweight does not make me a bad person" :T

wanttobeasaver

morning everyone:hello: thanks cc for your advice you right you know these people arent worth bothering about!!

Today i ve promised myself as i owe it my self to eat sensibly(well try) as im the only one to do it as im the only one put on the weight!!:mad:

Incka put it behind you & enjoy the wedding im sure you'll look great;)


Today my son has just started secondary school o such a big step for him cant believe it!! he looked very handsome in his uniform so grown up......another big step for him o he was soooooo excited hes up early showered loads of deodarant off course & the hair gelled to perfection:D DD is in p6 so she missed him yesterday going back & today although she was excited for him going to a new school...........

Just sitting now wondering how theyre getting on.......o we do worry away to put the kettle on for a coffee could do with mopping the kitchen o well it will wait:p

Hope everyone has a good day:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

icka

Morning Ladies

CrazyChatter - I thought things were going so much better with OH. I was supposed to be moving back to the city in two weeks as college term starts on 8th of September, so I was supposed to be moving in with him.

He was supposed to be coming to see me this weekend. well to be honest this weekend turned into today as he informed me on Tuesday that he had a football match to get back to on Saturday afternoon so would be leaving early Saturday morning :mad: . Ok I was a bit upset about that so he said he would be down for breakfast this morning. I asked him yesterday what time would he be here and he said 11am. Last night he went on the absolute rip with his mates at after golf at 5pm I sent himat least 7 texts asking him to go home as he had a long drive this morning and I didnt want him over the limit. So he only replied - I love you x. Meaning he was really drunk. I got last text at 12.30 saying I lpve you.

Anyway I text him at 9.30 asking had he left. He then tells me he has to do a job, meet a guy, wash the foot ball kit and mark th pitches :mad: :mad:

Im so hurt and annoyed and I have all these emotions bubbling up inside me. Now he is making me out to be a total mental woman and telling me to calm down and relax.

Why do men do this - make us out to be mental women. Say we are lunatics and should be locked up.

If they were honest with us in the first place and said look I might not be down until the evening and be straight. at least we could deal with it and organise to do other things. Instead to be left looking and feeling like an idiot.

I dontknow how this whole thing is going to pan out to be honest - Im so fed up of being hurt and left t feel like a physco woman

Thanks for llistening - needed a rant

wanttobeasaver

O icka i know what you mean men cant understand why we feel the way we do............its because they say 1 thing & do another or in some cases say nothing at all :mad:

Chin up it will all be ok....:rolleyes:

icka

Thanks Wantstobeasaver it just makes me feel so mad how they make out that we are women and as a race we are all mental cases. Where if they were just straigt with us we would be fine.

If I ask you to put out the rubbish and you are have absolutely no intention of doing it. Don't say - yea Ill do it later. Just say - look love to be honest Id rather shoot myself than put it out, or to be honest love I think you would be quicker doing it your self as Im more than likely not going to do it.

:mad:

Im so sorry im such a misery guts - Im just so so frustrated

But you are all so lovely

xx

Tesscha

Oh Icka,

I think with a lot of us women, we tend to dot the i's and cross the t's and want to make sure everything is okay and in order - and our men folk tend to be somewhat relaxed...well over relaxed. I have a husband that had a go at me saying that I like to sort things out too much and he's not like that and we had a mini argument about it. I try to ease back and be more like him but it's hard so I just make out that I don't care.

icka

Tesscha your weight loss is fantastic - go girl :beer: .

I wish I could make out that I don't care. I will try to do that. But Im one of these people who dont hold grudges, instead if there is a problem or I dont like something I will say it straight away. But once its said its over and I feel better. I cant let things bubble up inside me. I did that with a BF years ago and I ended really depressed as he was using me so badly and it was a mess, but I was so afraid he would leave me I never said anything and ended in a mess for years after wards. All the what if's going round in my head. If I had of learned to speak up and stick up for myself I wouldnt have ended up £1000's of pounds in debt and zero confiddence or self esteem.

So now if I dont like something I say it. I wish I was more laid back - now I have gone the opposite - wont let any man walk all over me again. Well I think Im just trying to protect myself.

But I will try to just not react and pretend its not bothering me and do it myself.

Thanks for the advice


Jo you feeling better pet?

Tesscha

Thank you for your congrats Icka, do you know what...just do what you need to do - you've obviously learnt from past relationships what you need to do to keep your sanity. Maybe they think that by not saying much we won't talk as much but they don't realise that it does the opposite - good communication from both sides means it won't be one-sided. When will they get it??

crazychatter

Oh Icka, I'm not sure what to suggest, You seem such a wonderful person I want you to have a wonderful fella too! Moving in with him while you are all up in the air doesn't sound sensible but then again I understand you may not have many other options if that is what you planned. I wouldn't pretend things aren't bothering you when they are, as you won't be able to keep it up and it will drive a wedge of resentment between you.
I know men have this amazing ability to make us believe we are being hysterical when we were actually just a little cross, anyone who works out the solution to that is a lucky person!
Sorry I haven't been helpful at all!

Skint_Lynne

Hi Girls,

Sorry I've not been on, I have been really busy. Was helping poorly move house to my mums and then he wasn't well, so spent last night at the hospital with him. He's still in, not had any booze since tuesday, he is trying to come off. He is not allowed it at my mums so needs to dry out, has spoken loads about going back to AA so that's a good sign. I'm waiting to get my confirmation letter about my interview, it's going to be a whole day assessment, with role plays and a one to one interview at the end. I really hope I get it as I think it would be such an interesting job.

I will need to pretend I am on river City during the role play, my favourite character on that was Rocheen, but she's not in it anymore. Scarlett is good as well though, really funny!!

It's quiet in here this afternoon, will be going out to the bank soon. Hope all the poorlys are feeling better, Jo, Puzzled and Tess's wee kitty cat.

Speak later,

SL x