over spend and over eat

crazychatter

Well done Piglet!

Well I have a huge confession to make, I have never ever tried to stay within my wages, I have just got so used to being in my overdraft that I spent what I liked, recently I have been cutting down and thought that was enough but I finally bit the bullet today and decided to work out what I have spent so far this month and how much I have left. Turns out that I have £90 to last until the 15th Sept. After the initial shock wore off I thought about Jo and Puzzled and decided that this isn't too bad. I think that if I'm strict I'll be ok. I've got a family weekend and a birthday party in this time but I'm going to try to be good! wish me luck girls!
Whew! I am so pleased I'm finally going to try to live within my means! it's all down to you that I am facing my spending problem! thank you all!!!!

crazychatter

oh and no Kit Kat yet EmmyLou and I don't want it so much now! I'm in a new determined frame of mind!! ...finally! lol!

LilMissEmmylou

awww well done!!!! I need to find some of that determination lol. £90 is loads to do 3 weeks so dont stress thats £30 a week really. Try just lifting £30 at the start of each week and make it do so your not left with no money by the end

oh and lol the jibes have already started coming from my mum and im not even home yet! Rang her earlier when i was in town and she said "oh ur brother was saying about ur coat in his wardrobe" and i said "well i dont need it right now it can stay for now" and she said... wait for it "yeah, i know, i told him it wouldnt be fitting you for a brave while yet"!!!! this is exactly why i havent even bothered to tell her im trying to lose weight etc. She also had the nerve when I said i walked into town to say "oh well it must be close by if you walked then" and i said its 45 mins "oh i didnt know you would walk that". Well actually mother, i walked into uni every day i was working (if anybody remembers me working at the summer school lol) which is int he bloody city centre too! And breath out the anger and in the calmness....

crazychatter

oh Emmy, I think it's amazing that you are so well grounded when your mum has been saying things like this to you, alot of people would have an eating disorder by now!! I'll be thinking of you this weekend! keep that breathing going hun!!

piglet6

Dinner was yummy!

Emmy - I just want to second what Crazy said above...breathe, breathe, breathe!!!

Maybe we need to send one of these to your Mum...

Piglet
x

wanttobeasaver

Can't get my head round this eating plan of mine at all :mad: it's sooooooooo depressing:( & really getting to me .I promised myself that i will be slim for next year if i go on hols as i was disgusted with myself when i was away........Not only that on the 1st day i was there feeling great i was walking past 2 woman & a man & i could here one saying "rubber ring , laughing & pointing to the lifebouy i could have cried well there was tears in my eyes ive never felt soo horrible & ugly in my life OH said dont let it bother you as theyre not worth it i know what he says is true but cant help it everytime i think about it just thought id share it with you as you all feel like very close friends;)

JO((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))to you hope you feel better soon:kisses:

icka

Ok Confession time
Had the most terrible day today

realised when I bought my dress i was a 34B now Im a 36D so in a desperate attempt to make the dress fit I went out and bought Trinny and Suzanna magic Knickers - they cost me £38 :eek: . But I was desperate. Ok thats not bad enough brought them home and the bloody dress still does not fit. realise nothing in the world is going to shrink my boobs that far. ok so i burst into tears - cant return the knickers obviously are they are underware.

So in order to make me feel better I went to get my highlights done for the wedding and as well as that have not had them done is 3 months so my roots are disgusting - so bad my OH even commented that I needed them done - and believe me if he is commenting they must be bad. :eek:

Had the appointmet at 1.30 and OMG did not get out until 5.30pm - four blooming hours. I was absolutely starving, my bum had gone numb and they had this stupid radio station that was not tuned in properly on all day and it was giving me such a headache. to top that off I was dying to wee. But had been twice all ready and did nt want them to think I had a problem.

At the end of the worst four hours of my life, she charged me £110 :eek: :eek:

I was absolutely gob smacked, I could not believe it. I was so annoyed I just paid it. went out to my car and cried for 20 mins.

The whole day cost me almost £200 that I dont have - had to use my over draft all over the pressure to look nice for a stupid wedding. And Im not even getting married. Why did I do this to myself , I am so upset about the money, I had to use my over draft that tok me so long to pay back.

Oh what a stupid stupid stupid girl

FreeMe_2

Icka - dont feel bad!!!
I spent a total of about £500 last year to make myself look good for my sister in laws wedding and i still felt rubbish on the day and it made it worse knowing i hadnt got any of the money either - it was all on credit cards! :eek:
i totally understand how you feel but dont worry, you've got to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and start again. :j

You can do it!:T

vixi66

It does not make you a bad person for being in debt and being in love with food, i have only just learnt this after so many years spending money on food and clothes and things to impress and then all the materialistic things i have surrounded myself with, none of it matters. Find the one thing that makes you happy as life is too short, so enjoy your treats. There is not one week that does not go by when we don't eat out, can't help it ! I salute you !
And say it out loud "being in debt and overweight does not make me a bad person".............

xx

crazychatter

Oh icka, it was wrong of the hairdresser not to tell you how much it was going to cost first but I'm sure you look lovely!! I paid the same for highlights a year and half ago which looked dreadful- I was turned bright ginger and it's still growing out now! Grrrr!
The dress is a shame but I am sure that you will fit back into it before very long! I think you tried the right thing and maybe you can ebay the magic knickers saying they were only tried on & never worn?
How are things going with the OH?

Wanttobeasaver, I'm sorry to hear you're having problems, what plan are you on? i lost two stone on the slimming world plan last year and found that easy to understand. That is a horrible situation you were in, but these people aren't worth it and they don't even consider the pain they can cause. I was out with a 60year old male friend a couple of nights ago and he was very drunk and kept making rude comments about people, including being horrible about a larger girls bum, i really told him off but he didn't see another wrong with it, he says that he gets stick over being old so why can't he say the truth about overweight people. I'm telling you this because while we take all these snide remarks personally and remember them for years these cruel people don't, he was on the look out for anyone to critise. They are usually just trying to feel superior when they have issues themselves. So we all need to harden ourselves up a little and try to ignore them. Easier said than done of course!