Breast feeding, pros and cons

thatgirlsam

i wasn't going to post this link because it makes me look like i am anti bf... which i am certainly not..
Vitamin B12 deficiency in a one-year-old, exclusively breast fed child

nadnad

ok i didnt want to get too embroiled in this but i would like to ask why mothers who ARE able to breast feed don't. I would especially like to know why some mothers wont even try to do it. I can of course understand people not breast feeding for medical reasons, and I can understand people giving up because they find it too painful or uncomfortable or tiring and I know that I have said in a previous post that it is of course a womans choice which it is, but I would like to know the reasons why a woman wouldnt try to do the best thing she can for her baby.

surreysaver

thatgirlsam wrote: »

tbh its the attitude of some bf mothers who most likely put off some women from bf altogether.. i know it did me a bit when i was pg with dd..

Also, if you get a pro-breastfeeding hippy at your ante-natal or other group, then it will also put you off the other more helpful stuff they tell you about, so if you get one with attitude, not only will it put you off breastfeeding, but it will make you ignore everything else they've got to say.

surreysaver

nadnad wrote: »

I would especially like to know why some mothers wont even try to do it.

Because they choose not to. It is about choice, not forcing people to do things. The same argument could be used about the way women treat their bodies, what they eat etc during pregnancy. Would you be able to accept people critisising everything you did while pregnant?

nadnad

surreysaver wrote: »

Also, if you get a pro-breastfeeding hippy at your ante-natal or other group, then it will also put you off the other more helpful stuff they tell you about, so if you get one with attitude, not only will it put you off breastfeeding, but it will make you ignore everything else they've got to say.

whats with this breast feeding hippy [EMAIL="c@&%"]c@&%[/EMAIL]??!!! breast feeding is done by (i imagine)the majority of the worlds population of women because it is BEST FOR BABY. so if you breast feed you are doing it for your child, not because you are someone stuck in the 1960s with an idealised view of the world. What is wrong with you? and what is wrong with breast feeding, or those who do it? I get the distinct impression that there are people here who have a chip on their shoulder about BF because they know it is the best thing to do but they havent done it. Well if you feel bad about it thats your problem dont take it out on the women who have perservered with little or no help from the NHS (i got none) to do something that is difficult and can be painful. It is without doubt a harder route to go down than FF if not in the long term then most def. at the beginning, so can you please perhaps applaud the women who do it?

Although i got absolutely no help in the beginning i soon got on to it, and now at any of my childs medical checks i do feel good because the medical professionals literally congratulate me for BF and sticking with it, so yes I am proud. very proud, and i dont mind saying it, I feel good about myself and ood about the benefits I've been able to give me baby.

nadnad

surreysaver wrote: »

Because they choose not to. It is about choice, not forcing people to do things. The same argument could be used about the way women treat their bodies, what they eat etc during pregnancy. Would you be able to accept people critisising everything you did while pregnant?

i'm aware they choose not to, that much is obvious, but my question was WHY? as a man who has never had to make the choice i would imagine you will have difficulty answeing this question.

thatgirlsam

nadnad wrote: »

i'm aware they choose not to, that much is obvious, but my question was WHY? as a man who has never had to make the choice i would imagine you will have difficulty answeing this question.

oh dear. you have said the wrong thing to surreysaver there

is jimmythewig a man? why is he allowed to express a view when surrey isn't??

thatgirlsam

well i can only speak from my own pov..
i did not bf my dd.. i got pregnant when i was 25 (not that young i know)..
i knew i was going to be a single mum before i had her, i became homeless and dealt with a family bereavment just before she was born..

this isn't a big sob story or woe is me, i don't want sympathy..
but i was sooo stressed at the time, i just didn't want to bf.. i wanted sleep, rest, a home to for us to live in and to be able to relax for the first time in 9 months and enjoy my dd..

which i did, we are both very happy now

when i had ds i was far to ill to change his nappy, let alone bf him

the point is i found bf too stressful at the time.. it does not mean i am not a good mum.. but happy relaxed mum = happy relaxed baby

deedee1968

Agree Down To Personal Choice.
I Was Keen To Breastfeed Both My Children. The 1st Experience Was Horrendous. I Had An Emergency Csection And My Daughter Would Not Latch On. In The End I Decided To Bottlefeed As They Would Not Discharge Us From Hospital Until Feeding Establised.
With My 2nd Child It Was Much Easier. Had Another Emergency Section But More Relaxed Than Last. He Latched On Well. Although It Wasn't Always Easy I Was Proud To Do It For 8 Months. ALTHOUGH WEANED AT 6 MONTHS
Ii Don't Know If Its A Coincidence But My Firstborn Has Eczema And My Breastfed Baby Doesn't. A Definate Pro If You Allergies In The Family.

Hell_Dans_Un_Handcart

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i wasn't going to post this link because it makes me look like i am anti bf... which i am certainly not..
Vitamin B12 deficiency in a one-year-old, exclusively breast fed child

Hum....that child should have started solids at six months, yes? What's your point here? Nobody here is advocating exclusive - ie no solids or formula - breastfeeding until the age of one year. And it doesn't make you look anti-breastfeeding as much as it makes you look severely lacking in knowledge about breastfeeding, to not know what "exclusive" refers to.