Merry - Ramblings of an undischarged bankrupt!

Merry_Gentry

dalip wrote: »

Hi Merry

You are doing everything sooo right. You are one very very brave lady. I am sorry i wont get the opportunity to meet you and shake your hand girl. You just keep doing what your doing and you and your girls will be fine.D

Hey, just cos I can't make this one doesn't mean we won't meet up sooner or later mate!! :beer:

Merry_Gentry

So_Sad_Angel wrote: »

Thanks for posting the vol repo copy letter....I`ve been awake all night worrying about the `old` house & trying to build up the courage to deal with it once & for all. That letter will really help.

I keep thinking I should do something more definite about the house - but wanna catch my breath first....

dalip

You are more than welcome,with all your brood anytime merry:D D

Merry_Gentry

21st August 2008

Me and lil Merry are off to Cambridge tonight as my sister is getting married tomorrow.:beer: H isn't coming - he didn't feel it would be appropriate with the situation being the way it is - his new girlfriend, some of the rows we have had, etc. It's not been an easy few weeks - a few rows, some upsets, and quite a chunk of strain.

Am in the process (still) of applying for benefits, etc so I can take over the tenancy and H can move out. I can't afford it without the benefits, and am not 100% sure how long it will take to sort this out. In the meantime, we are separating the household fully - he's going to his own shopping, cooking, etc - so that we can prove we have separated officially.

I am also going to have to do a new SOA - lil Merry starts school in September which means I stop paying the salary sacrifice, do get an extra £200 in my pay packet :j:j Of course, now it's based on just my salary I look even poorer, but at least it's a move towards the future.

H is aware that he'll need to do a new SOA as well, and it will probably have a negative effect on him because even with CSA payments for his other daughter, and lil Merry, he will have a chunk of money left over which the OR will probably snaffle.

Older girls are off to religious camp with their Dad and Stepmum, and next week DD2 is 11, so celebrating with her!!

So ups and downs, but still kicking!! :hello:

dalip

You go to your sisters wedding merry,relax a little,let your hair down,and most of you will amongst people who love you for what you are,just like us on here. Try to switch off sweetheart at least so you can enjoy it a little. Thinking of you and the horrible time you are going through.DXXX

december

I can only echo what Dalip has already said. Have a totally fab time at the wedding and let your hair down (even better if it's a free bar )

Take care
December

sammahootexpress

if your still in camebridge tomorrow go to henrys bar nice place by the river

Merry_Gentry

Back but staying with a friend for the weekend. Wedding was amazing - lil Merry was practically angelic, seeing my family was so good for my soul - yep, I feel so refreshed!!!

fiveyearplan

I'm glad you had a good time Merry, it reminds you of whats important in life.

Merry_Gentry

And finally home. Spent the weekend at a friend's house, and slept SO much. I hadn't realised how tired I was, so strained and stressed. But home now. Back to reality.