Do you think he's selfish too?

kynky_kyta_23

He Is A Total Numptty! Lol
Very Very Selfish! How Dare He Waste Money Like That, Who Does He Think He Is, The Bleeding Exception Too The Budget, When His Family Go Without.

Instead Of Buying A 'shop' Buy What Your Daughter Needs And What You Like Eating, Things He Hates! Lol For A Week, And Tell Him He Has Money Daily, So He Can Get Food Etc!

Play Him At His Own Game Lol

Or Just Give Him A Good Rollocking Kick His Butt Into Shape, Regardless If He Gets Moody, He Is Not A Damn Teenager Is He! He Is A Dad And Should Act Like Such!
You Are Being A Top Mum! He Should Follow Your Lead!

mooma_2

Thanks everyone for all their advice on my problem, without it i wouldn't have known what to do or where to start with my fiance's spending.

I had another talk to him over the weekend and i said that if he just wants to carry on with his selfish money wasting then i'd have no choice but to leave and take our daughter with me. He got the hump and didn't speak to me for hours! Not that i gave a damn by that point....

Well the next day, HE bought up the subject of budgeting and allowances this time. He sat there and completely agreed to everything i had said previously. I told him i have opened my own bank account for the CB to get paid into, and he agreed it's a good idea. Then he picked up the phone, rang our bank and opened up another account for himself. He put the phone down and said that now we both have our own accounts, we can decide on alowances that we can seach spend per month. Then he said if he gets overtime he'll split it equally in 4 - a quarter each for me and him, quarter in our daughters trust fund and quarter in our own savings account.

I am so relieved that we have finally, after 2 years(!) come to an agreement and have budgets for everything now!

Fingers crossed it works!

Thanks everyone for all the help and suggestions xxx

affordmylife

that sounds amazing mooma. im really pleased for you.

what about the general wages tho. the overtime plan is great but what is your general budget to be planning with?

still a brilliant step in the right direction.

miserly_mum

Hopefully the threat of losing you and his daughter has been a wake up call.

Now you have to make sure everything gets put into practice.

Good luck and hope everything works out for you

JimmyTheWig

Wow, I'd prepared my post in my head about how this guy was a waste of space and it was time to move on...
... then I read your last post!

Brilliant!

Sounds like the message has got through. Well done.

I think the overtime money goes above and beyond what would be acceptable, so good for him.

And even better that he phoned the bank there and then. Means he is acting on the decisions, too.

superjaggybunnet wrote: »

You give him a pound a day?? What can you buy with that - you have got to be joking! And he puts up with that? OMG!

That's about a pound a day more than I spend on myself.

miserly_mum

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

That's about a pound a day more than I spend on myself.

I'm the same, my OH has the strange problem of trying to stop his Woman UNDERspending :rolleyes:

inmypocketnottheirs

mooma wrote: »

Thanks everyone for all their advice on my problem, without it i wouldn't have known what to do or where to start with my fiance's spending.

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Fantastic, glad you got a result. I had a feeling he is a decent guy and just didn't appreciate the severity of his actions. Let's hope he keeps his part of the bargain.:beer:

Barneysmom

I'm so pleased for you mooma, I wish you all the best!
Seems like he's not such a bad guy, you two look after each other now, work at it and be happy xxx

teagan1966

my x husband was just the same hes never changed and hes now on his 3rd wife ! and i can see that going the same way as the first two
pople dont change selfish when i met him selfish when married same when divorced !
teagan

Fidget21

What great news Mooma, I'm so pleased for you. It's a massive step in the right direction for him and nice to see he's taking the incentive with his overtime.

Wish all three of you all the best for the future. xx